How to handle e-vites for couples?

Pick a person to send it to and address it to both.


Rsvpify.com is very popular and can be linked to your Withjoy.com or wix.com website. Make sure you allow either traditional cards or phone/text from non-internet savvy guests.

I personally would send it to both.

When I receive physical wedding invitations, I put them up on the fridge or somewhere in the house that my partner and I are both fully aware of it. If receiving it via email, the invitation would remain in digital form and I would assume that my partner also received it since it is in digital format.

If they live together, then I’d send it to one person and just have it known that it’s for both people.


If they live separately, then I’d send it to both.
We’re doing online RSVPs, and we have it where you type your name in, and your RSVP comes up. If it’s a couple/family, either person can type their name in to pull it up, and it will show every member of their party that’s invited. They’ll have the option to edit their name (if needed), and select their RSVP response. Our website and RSVP is through Zola!

I would send it to both. My fiance has gotten baby shower/birthday invites emailed to him for the both of us and he forgot to tell me about it for days. While those few days weren't critical, it's very possible the person who received the invite could forget to tell the other person at all.

It also may be a good idea to follow up with your guests after you send them. E-vites have definitely gone to my spam before.

We are using electronic invites and are doing a hybrid model: sending most just to one email but some couples will both receive an email. When asking for emails, we’ve asked for the email(s) they would like an invite to go to, so they can choose what to share. It’s not a science, but aligns with how our friend groups have been sending invites for Zoom events these past few months (so we have a decent idea who responds to email and who doesn’t!) We are just making sure the addressing follows typical etiquette (listing each name) and giving a heads up to older guests who may not have seen this before.