How Tacky Can U Get?????????

This sounds like a pot-luck party. And most especially, all of these was printed on the invitation!! I hate to use the word "tacky" but I will make an exception. How dare they ask to bring your own alcohol and a dish AND money/giftcards for a gift. Too much

Honestly the whole potluck thing to me isnt that big of a deal... the only real TACKY part about this is asking for gifts.... other than that i don't see all the hubabaloo.. lol

Okay. You all need to chill. Weddings are expensive. I am getting married in June. We are 22 and 23 years old and in college. We don't have a ton of money to spend on this and our families are not helping much. I have a $1000 dress because my mother-in-law to be paid for most of it and no she is not willing to spend her money on other things, that was her gift to me. We are having a potluck wedding because even the cheapest of catering is upwards of $2,000. The bar will be cash. It was not until recently that receptions had anything more than dessert. My wedding, doing it cheaply will be around $4,000. We still want to get married whether we can pay for catering or not. It should be about sharing our love and celebrating, not about entertaining guests. Please keep in mind who the wedding is for. Also, most of our RSVPs will be online so we did not send out any response cards..imagine that.. We are also asking for cash, not on the invites, but on our wedding website, because if we didn't ask, how would anyone know? We live together and have everything we need. I really don't need 6 toasters and a blender. I would much rather have a honeymoon.

My husband, myself and my best friend just last night went to a potluck wedding, something we also had never heard of. It felt very strange, the wedding and reception at the same place. It was on Halloween night at 9 PM and it seems everyone brought their kids, and the kids were doing what they do best...running around and yelling. It was almost 10 pm before the ceremony got started, and my husband had been outside the entire time because he isn't a kid person. Needless to say, they cut the cake right after the ceremony and then ate...we on the other hand decided to take our extremely tired selves home. I will never attend another unorganized potluck wedding.

Okay well I welcomed my guests to bring food but I didn’t state they needed to. I’m providing the main course, but budget is tight. I am spending less than 100$ on my dress and 1600$ on the venue to hold everyone. I’m also in my mid 20s but have been with my SO for 9 years, so no one can tell me my descisions aren’t valid. My family members often enjoy bringing food because they have favorite dishes they like to make.

View Quoted Comment So I'm guessing you chose to skip the liability/wedding insurance ?

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Right, it doesn't matter if it is NY or CT or NJ or FL - really,there are tacky people everywhere, you're not safer in specific geographic regions.

Now you can say you HAVE seen everything OP!

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My dress was $99 (from Davids) and I'm using what I could've spent on it to better entertain the guests! Haha

There are rules of hosting in general. If you'd like to read about them Emily Post has a great book about hosting.

Also, that liability has nothing to do with event liability. That has to cover if you burn their house to the ground attempting to cook or if you destroy their bathrooms.

Event liability covers you when your guest sues you for their hospital bills when they are admitted for food poisoning. Event liability covers them if a guest falls down the stairs and gets injured. It's totally different but without a fully licensed caterer with Serv-Safe staff providing the food you'll be hard pressed to find a company who will cover you. Just something to consider when you take on such a potentially harmful step in your planning.

Oh and a quick rule of thumb when posting, we have CGs and this comment violated them. Your posting abilities can be affected if you violate them multiple times.

Just a helpful little tip for ya! 👍🏽👍🏽

Y'all, this is 6 years old.

Btw, since when did a celebration of marriage become a "silly tradition?"

View Quoted Comment Oh my gosh! I violated the rules!? I could get kicked out???? My event isn’t safe enough for your standard? Wowww. Guess what? I also only did Facebook invites. I said to bring your own alcohol and didn’t make a registry. Might as well call me Tammy and throw me in a trailer park. What are you going to do? Insult me to death? If you want the world to fit into your picture perfect view of life, you’ll end up causing yourself harm. So let’s not be counterproductive with where we put our thoughts, thanks.

And sorry I guess I just found this and thought it was hilarious. Yes it’s silly, because of how seriously people take it when you should be focusing more on the relationship itself and not impressing others.

View Quoted Comment Why join a community if you just want to scream at everyone on a six year old thread...

Just curious

Like who wouldn't want to know they are doing something potentially dangerous to the wellbeing of their guests? Idk...I'd want to know

View Quoted Comment Basic food safety is "impressing others"?

Also, you can care about your guests and FS simultaneously.

View Quoted Comment I just noticed that. Wondering why we have so many zombie threads lately

Hm yes you stated the 6 yr thing, but here you are as well, still watching. I’m not sure if you are familiar with Airbnb, but everything is covered. It is made for events. Idk if I got you all amped up enough to search through their terms, but it’s actually a perfect way to have a get together.

View Quoted Comment When you reply to a dead thread it pops back to the top not to mention you had been tagging me.

Oh i know all about airbnb because I considered it for my wedding. Turns out the insurance is totally one sided and can totally shaft the couple, hence why I chose against it. If you don't want to listen to advice that's fine. If you want to name call members of the forum because you think you're smarter that's just uncalled for.

This is actually the problem with humanity. We all have insecurities that lead you to believe people think they’re smarter than you. It’s like we naturally want to compete. I am absolutely against that. I was genuinely just offended by the crude comments I saw on others lives. It caused me to have a panic attack last night, which lead to lack of sleep before work and here I am right after seeing the lovely place I want my wedding to be at.. irritated and exhausted. My family members are beyond excited for this idea, and I’m not sure how I can get sued for food poisoning when a lot of people are bringing food whom are all related. It would be weird for someone to do that, especially since we aren’t inviting a mass amount of people. The owner’s insurance covers any falls or accidents, you just have to make sure they have it.

View Quoted Comment If you are having such acute mental health issues maybe give your therapist a call. There are also awesome teletherapy like TalkSpace to help you cope with the comments on WeddingWire