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nicjc2018
Beginner February 2018

How Many People Didn't Show Up?

nicjc2018, on March 5, 2018 at 11:54 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 89

One of the biggest tips I wish someone told me before the wedding was YOU WILL HAVE NO SHOWS THE DAY OF. As much as I did my best to confirm days before the wedding life happens and 6 out of 106 guests did not show up. I guess that was not too bad, but I wish I had a way to plan a back up list so...

One of the biggest tips I wish someone told me before the wedding was YOU WILL HAVE NO SHOWS THE DAY OF. As much as I did my best to confirm days before the wedding life happens and 6 out of 106 guests did not show up. I guess that was not too bad, but I wish I had a way to plan a back up list so the seats did not go empty. Especially being a plated dinner.

So just curious...how many no show guests did you have?

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    Beginner January 2018
    FurturrMrsCook ·
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    I completely agree. Someone I considered a good friend completely ghosted on my wedding day (6 weeks ago). She and her husband were no shows and I have not heard from her since.
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    Beginner January 2018
    FurturrMrsCook ·
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    We had assigned seats. So we knew who was missing when we saw the empty seats as we made our rounds at the reception to greet guests. Also, one was a very good friend who I was shocked didn’t show.
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  • nicjc2018
    Beginner February 2018
    nicjc2018 ·
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    It's a crappy feeling when you thought you were friends and don't even get a heads up. Life happens which is understandable but when they don't reach out to you after the wedding it's a sad feeling. Happened to me and at least now I know.

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    Savvy September 2018
    ccgh ·
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    I don't think there's a way to have a back up plan for day-of no shows. We will have a B list for people who we will fit in if we find out we have room. Not many, mostly newer friends that we have met since we started planning the wedding and are not sure if we'll be close or not by the time the wedding rolls around in September. We got invited to a friend's wedding 1 week prior last year, for that very reason that we had only become friends since they had started planning the wedding, and we weren't offended at all, we actually felt very special and grateful that when they had the space open up they chose us to fill it. It also depends on the size of your wedding. We are keeping it pretty small so we've had to trim the guest list a little.

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  • MaryEllen
    Expert October 2016
    MaryEllen ·
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    9 people rsvp’d yes and did not show. Only one was ill, one didn’t have a dog sitter, the rest unknown.
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  • Cassandra7
    Super August 2006
    Cassandra7 ·
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    Two of 102 who rsvp'd yes. And five people came who weren't invited.

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    Just Said Yes June 2018
    Maequw ·
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    85 rsvps, 46 no shows, 4 family emergencies from no shows used as excuses the morning of the wedding, 42 no replies from no shows, left over food, tons of empty seats, plus an extra charge because we did not break down the rented chairs that no one sat in Btw, guy was pissed even though I paid $250 which included breakdown. And setup yet they threw them in a pile on the ground and left for us to setup, so I the I've got everyone beat. Also people left super early like before cake cutting.
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    Just Said Yes June 2018
    Laura ·
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    We kept our wedding very small and only invited our super close friends and mostly our immediate family to include all aunts and uncles and limited to close cousins. We were paying for everything all on our own and wanted to keep our budget low as we have a house that needs lots of updates. Although we do well financially, We come from poor parents. We did not have a registry and asked that our only gift was their presence. So we invited 55 people. 47 rsvpd. 13 of those that rsvp'd didn't show. This was a big bummer and left us with hurt feelings and a large amount of wasted food. The biggest reason i wish we would have known that they weren't really coming is so we could have invited more people that we love and care about that didnt make the cut because of family member's that we felt were mandatory that we invite. Despite this we had a great time and donated the extra food to a homeless shelter.
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    Just Said Yes June 2019
    Ardita Lula ·
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    We had 9 no shows... 7 were from 1 table so it was horrible to basically have an empty table AND have 3 people at a table alone. I hate people. So rude.

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