How Many People Didn't Show Up?

View Quoted Comment Agreed. At least have the decency to TELL ME what happened. We’ve been friends with these people for 15 years!!! Give me a break.

View Quoted Comment More like extra marinated and never want to hear from them. They were all about family this and family that, and I saw their true colors from all their lame excuses and stringing us along. I don't need that in my life.

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I know this will happen with my ratchet ass family.

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I have some co workers I want to invite who told me they are crashing the wedding anyways if they dont get invited which I said is fine by me lol. Other than that those are my only back up people TBH

View Quoted Comment We were in a similar position. We had this number we wanted to keep the list under. Then kept thinning of people we would want there if we had the space. The thing is that we do have the space and ultimately decided to just invite those we want there and will figure it out with declines or not. If every guest invited shows up, we're still under our limit, and we can afford it.

I think we had 210 or 215 that RSVP'ed yes and 10-15 no shows.

If there are last week cancels, I plan to have a list of people that initially didn't get plus ones. I will give them the plus ones.

I am actually sending the invites for my FH family, who all have to travel far, earlier than others so that I can get their RSVPs early and send invites to my B-list a few months before the wedding. I would feel really awkward sending an invite to people less than 2 months before the wedding.

I think the only acceptable people to fill "empty" seats a week before the wedding are plus ones that you ultimately may not know. It's not the best, but to me that's better than making it clear to a friend that they are B list.

View Quoted Comment That’s exactly the kind of thing I’m talking about! I’d be shocked if they said yes, but I needed to give them the chance to make that decision.

For my first wedding, I had a truly single friend who pushed and pushed for a +1 and I eventually gave it to him. The day of, this girl wasn't there and when I followed up it turned out he had never actually gotten around to asking her, after allllllll the pestering to have a +1. I dropped that friendship and never looked back.

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Yeah, I mean my wedding is family only besides the few bridesmaids/groomsmen, which my other close friends know. As much I wanted to invite more friends, we couldn't afford it. So if someone backs out and I invited a friend, they'd know the entire situation. Plus it's in Vegas, so it could be a fun weekend for them anyway!

We probably had 10 to 12 guests who had responded yes and then no show. Afterwards we heard from a few of them that they were sick or things came up. One couple told my husband that they were sick, but we saw they had tagged in at a local festival the afternoon of our wedding. I guess they just decided not to come and wanted to give an excuse? I’m still not exactly sure what happened there. One of my husband’s friends no showed and hasn’t reached out to him since (our wedding was in August). I just wish people would have said no rather than us paying for their food and alcohol for no one to consume. I guess people don’t want to hurt your feelings. Personally I would have rather saved the money.

Wow... Some people take this beyond serious. If someone is important enough to invite to your wedding... How can they be "dead to you" for not being able to make it? I can understand it being rude not to RSVP if it has been requested. I can also understand the stress of having to choose who to invite when you have to limit the number of people. But then filling a seat when someone says no.... It would be better to call first and say.. Hey.. You know I could only invite so many and it was such a hard decision... Looks like I have an open space... Short notice... I know... Love to see you if you can make it...
That might do away with the hurt feelings of I wasnt good enough...

We ended up making changes and our planner asked how many... I said I'm still waiting for a head count... (He was trying to figure out table arrangements since were having small... Medium and tall standing near the bar and dance floor...) He looked a little blank. So I said... But since its a Laid back country and military group... We're pretty casual and we'll be moving around more than sitting. So don't worry... He smiled. I guess thats the difference between a big sit down dinner and a relax kick back snacky party.
(The casino has a to die for buffet and 2 sit down restaurants. With all our different tastes... Its the only way to go!! 😁)

At my brother's wedding, they invited 100 and 30 showed up.

View Quoted Comment Well stated. You made some excellent points

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Bahahaha this made me laugh so hard at work.

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Whoa! That is crazy! What happened?

View Quoted Comment THIS!
FH had a huge family. Huge. We have a pretty good guess on who is accepting/declining. I work in a huge nursing unit and have a ton of people I'd love to have there. We are sending out oot invites first with one rsvp date and once we get those back, FH and I decided we can start inviting additional work friends. People at work understand this and support it. It's kind of what we do as a unit because we are all so close and it's so big. I haven't even thought of no shows yet. Oops.

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DO YOU!!!! These people don't know you or your situation yet they are quick to judge. One person asked "what excuse is there to b list family and friends", my response....sis mind your business, lol

I just had a dream yesterday that hardly anyone showed up 😂 it was awful. Even my vendors didnt show

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The people who say that you need to cut down your guest list to host properly are the same people who say B-listing isn't okay. Like what? I'm cutting down my guest list so I CAN host properly, so the people that I really hated to cut out are certainly going to be notified if I find out there is room for them! They're people who I talk to often and aren't offended that they weren't invited to begin with because they know we had to stay within budget!