How many people did you invite compared to how many that came

We invited 106, 91 RSVP'ed yes, and 90 showed (evil SIL decided to spend the evening in her hotel room).

However, I've seen a lot of brides get bitten in the butt by assuming a lot of guests won't show. They invite 200, but budget and plan for 150 - and then suddenly they have 180 guests and need to uninvite people (always a disaster) or dramatically scale back.

I would plan and budget and invite for 150. You can cut your guest list by dropping kids, random plus-ones, and coworkers.

BWahahahahha... Ok so i should start by saying 'South wedding' that sums it up. But we invited 193 and currently 43 are booked. Its sort of a thorn in my side in case you cant tell. Not that all 193 didnt book but of the 43 not many are those are the ones we had thought would, or my FH had really hoped would ie his family.

I think you will be fine with 150

We invited 175 and 91 have RSVP'd yes. If I were you I would do the A and B list. The last thing you want is to have too many people RSVP yes and not have room for everyone.

Thats a great question!

Yes to what Shannon said. We invited 46, all 46 RSVPed yes, and 43 showed up. And speaking of 3 hours away, we had people who came from 12 hours away. By plane.

3 hours away isn't very far at all for a wedding. I would assume that most people would go unless they're elderly, sick, or have a bunch of kids or something that would make them not want to make the 3 hour trek.

The majority of H's family came to our wedding, and they were spread out around Colorado (wedding was in CO), a couple in Oregon, and even some from California made the trip. MY family, however, lives on the east coast and only my immediate family came because it's so expensive to fly.

I would definitely go with an A List and B List and only have the potential for 150 guests to RSVP. That way you don't end up in an unnecessary, sticky situation.

We had about 20 guests guests travel approx. 1000 miles, so don't count on distance to be a factor. We're in Texas and had guests from both coasts, plus the Midwest.

We invited 230, 164 RSVP'd yes, and we estimate 150-155 actually showed. We were budgeted for 175.

This is a good question! Currently we're inviting 97 and my venue has a 50 person minimum. We're getting married on a weekday, so hopefully we meet that minimum!

We had room for 200 so we invited 230 and then made a B list so as we received "no's" we could invite from that list. In the end we had 200 ppl secured and reserved. The day of our wedding we had 40 no show's. Given it was raining really really bad, but it still made me mad. I didnt really notice how many no shows until the day after the wedding when I was going through the guestlist but still.

You need to be really strict about your RSVPs if you are working with a tight limit. You should call everyone that you dont get a RSVP from after the deadline and get a verbal confirmation whether or not they will be attending.

I'd be so upset if 40 people didn't show up! Call me crazy....but that's grounds for termination of the relationship...I'm sorry!

Distance might not be a way to eliminate guests as some of the other posters have stated.

My sister is having a DW in Costa Rica and thought it would be a small affair, well now her guest list is almost as big as mine! Her FH is older and well established financially and so are most of his friends so they can afford the trip and plan on attending. It went from a wedding of 20 people to a wedding of 95.

Our guest list is currently sitting at 110 (with no kids) and we are guessing/hoping that around 100 will show up. We are safely budgeted for 120 just in case.

@ Future Harris - yeah I was mad. Most of them were ppl that I was presurred into inviting like some coworkers, my sister in laws family, and extended friends. Everyone that really mattered was there. You just have to be really careful who you invite. I had a 200 ppl minimum so I had to pay that much regardless. Really only 150 out of the 200 really mattered to me and they all showed so it was good

We invited a total of 126 guests...103 RSVP'd with yes and 101 showed.

We however had a venue that was within 25min of most of our guests and had very few OOT guests.

This subject is always the same, but I mostly agree with Cavan, and to create an A and B list, that will eliminate money lost!

I agree with the other ladies, and I have a similar situation but it's more of a financial issue than an occupancy limit. We are sending out invites early at the beginning of June for our A listers with an RSVP date of July 1st (our wedding is Sept 29th. I am sure that I will be making a LOT of phone calls that day. I will send out invites to the B-listers that we can accommodate that week and ask for those RSVP's by the end of July. Hopefully we will have a complete count then which gives us 2 months before the wedding. So far my guest list is about 150, but there are more people from work and church that we could add onto that if a lot of people don't show. We are hoping to stay between 120-150 max.

I have family from South Korea I wasn't expecting to come, but are. Don''t count on distance being a factor. I say create an A list that is ONLY 150. As (if) people start replying with no, then you can invite people from the B list.

Yea distance isn't always a factor I have people that are now saying they will come that we initially didn't budget for because they are elderly and live 17 hours, or a plane flight away, and now they are saying they want to come!

My venue has a capacity of 160, and I am inviting 166. I'm hoping this is a safe number for my situation (50% of the guests are from way out of state), but I'm definitely worried that we could go over.

Our venue holds 300 and we have invited 301..I hated going over, but I am sure we will be ok with just 1 haha