How are you all feeling with Covid-19

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My fiance is worried about the financial cost of waiting to postpone or deciding to continue. We both have more negative outlooks than the rest of our families, sadly. I am entering my last semester of college, and I am supposed to be student teaching starting next month, so I'm stressed about being with large groups of people for hours each day We have a lot of out of state guests, but we have an even larger portion of guests that are high-risk! It's a really tough decision. The most important thing is that I am getting to marry the person I love and want to spend the rest of my life with. If you ever want to chat about planning, don't hesitate to reach out!

View Quoted Comment Thanks girl! It’s good to keep it all in perspective feel free to reach out too!! 💖

Saddened, anxious, & depressed. I know nobody said life was fair, but I just want a wedding followed by a reception and a honeymoon like everyone else. I want more than 50 ppl & dancing.

View Quoted Comment Big hugs. I’m sorry about your father.

I don’t know if i should plan or post pone

I agree! This year has been a blessing and a curse. We must keep our chins up though 👸🏾

Girl I feel fustrated, sad, mad, annoyed, and just tired. I am postponing my wedding for the second time. We decided to just get married in august. I know our family and friends are trying to be supportive but unless your a bride in the middle of a pandemic you will never understand the pain of having to be forced to change your wedding plans! Everytime I vent about it I'm always met with "it can be worst" or "just be grateful for what you have". I understand all of that but it still doesn't take my feelings away!

View Quoted Comment Very true...!

View Quoted Comment Jillian I feel just like you, you are not alone! I get married this Saturday. 50 person wedding with precautions. It seemed good cause our state was so low then the 4th of July happened, and a massive 100 person college house party that spiked the numbers, and now things are on the upward trend, and I feel guilty too!

I've been crying over it. Literally. Even if we wre allowed to gather, I'm scared for my family's health

View Quoted Comment Please come back to tell us how it went! Wishing you the best day!

View Quoted Comment Good riddance, the bride is selfish!

I completely get it! I was just saying to myself a few days ago I'm not even excited anymore and hoping there is a silver lining through this first us all.....its just sad and feels unfair. I literally bridemaids at my 2 sisters wedding my cousin and a good friend every year consecutively from 2017 until 2020.... heck even last wedding before minde made it thru January 2020 and my wedding was the last to go in September 2020... Then this crap happens...🤦‍♀️
But there must be something better after all this after a big storm is a bigger rainbow😊😊

View Quoted Comment Wow literally I feel the same. No bridal shower either,future mother in law offered a drive by bridal shower which I thought was sweet of her but dang so lame. Plus I’m in California and basically my church limited ceremony to 10 guests. And my reception venue hasn’t been clear about hosting our reception but I’m about to give up in the reception. FH suggests reception next year but next year Covid will still be here and I’m just so done with this on and off reception crap that I’m over it! I just want to marry and that’s it I mean that’s the important Part anyway!!!! Uggg I’m like venting.

View Quoted Comment My sister tells me that “it could be worst” lines and I’m like she don’t understand. We had our wedding planned in 2019 but my FH wants to focus in finishing school and so we rescheduled for this August 8 2020 and now our ceremony is limited to 10 guests and the reception...is so dang frustrating dealing with all aspects of booking vendors and stuff during these months. I feel like vendors got real comfortable with stuff opening back up and I feel like I’ve been brain washed to believe everything will be fine. And apparently it is not! Now I feel like I look like a fool in front of my entire family. I feel annoyed so drained so worried and irritated and over it at the same time. 😞

Yep! I’m unemployed since April, have gotten nothing from unemployment, cant even change my last name after we got married, and now the reception we postponed til August. But the venues not giving us enough info on it and backed out of our “back-up” 2021 date cause theyre afraid theyre going out of business. And probably cant go on our honeymoon for several reasons. This is a year straight from hell for so many people, it’s crazy

View Quoted Comment I am so extremely sorry to hear that. I hope your wedding is amazing ❤️

Same, feeling so sad, frustrated and annoyed. And i feel guilty for feeling that way. I was really enjoying the planning process and now i just feel like everything is ruined and i'm not even looking forward to it anymore. I try to stay positive and thankful given the circumstance, but i feel so hopeless nowadays.


I think it would be worse and abnormal for any bride and groom who has to handle the choice of postponing, canceling or cutting guests from their wedding to not lament and feel these mix of things.
Fh and i have been together for 9 yrs and have beem engaged for close to 2. We have been waiting so long for this and we are so frustrated that this had to happen during our year. Any bad emotions i have i feel so guilty for having, and try to tell myself focus on being thankful u could be dead (especially since we were sick with covid19).
I feel terrible and guilty for feeling this too but we know a few ppl who've been together less time than us and planning their weddings for next year. And now, we might have to push to next year too after their weddings and i feel so terrible and frustrated that i am actually annoyed that they'll get to have their wedding before us now too. Im not competitive just frustrated cause we've been looking forward to this for so long and it feels like its being ruined now. i AM happy they found happiness and will have the joy of a wedding, just disgruntled given our own bad luck and find myself wondering why'd it have to happen to us.
Im also frustrated from ppl asking me whats happening with our october wedding and when i tell them we are still hoping to have it but theres a chance we will have to push, they just keep telling us oh dont say that, stop being a debby downer or inserting their opinion. Easier to say when its not ur wedding being ruined by unimaginable circumstances and u also dont have to pay for it!
Im so sorry you have to experience this too. Please feel some comfort that you are not alone. 😥

View Quoted Comment Hi Patricia! So happy for you. That’s horrible about the venue clause. My makeup artist changed up her contract to a similar clause. So if we have to postpone AGAIN in May my $350 deposit is lost. As for my venues they have been super great about things. But Florida -Broward is a HOT spot. And we’re older we’re in our 50s there for our friends and families are going to be in their 50s and up with health conditions and the venues and other parties involved are aware so I think that may have taken a role in not being so strict with us because we made sure to say that and that to change our account would be quite a loss we have between 150 and 170 to drop it to 10 to 50 that’s a drop. I have no problems with that I just wanna marry my future husband and just be done with all this. If I would lose my money for canceling I would cancel everything

The same. For one reason or another, I cry pretty much every other day. Last week I broke down sobbing during a meeting with another coworker because I unintentionally unloaded on her. It doesn't help when you feel like you and your fiance are the *only* couple out there who decided to postpone altogether. Every other person I know who intended to get married in 2020 is going through with it, with small and intimate ceremonies now and the intention for big ones later. Everyone keeps asking if we'd like to do the same, but that really isn't us. I, for one, have an intense dislike for repetition. I want one walk down the aisle, one vow exchange, one first dance, one father-daughter dance, etc. Plus everyone I've ever known who's did two separate ceremonies, my fiance's sister included, has said the same thing: that it was more trouble than what it was worth, and if they had to do it over again, they would have stuck with the intimate one and not had the bigger repeat at all. Another thing I don't like about the thought of doing two weddings: it feels like lying.

Every day my fiance asks me what I want to do, and I've officially hit the point where I'm out of answers. I just don't know anymore.