How are you all feeling with Covid-19

View Quoted Comment Ooouu weeee!!!! It pisses me off when people don’t wear masks inside of businesses... but it’s even worse when the staff says absolutely nothing and simply allows them to stay. No no no! Go exercise your “rights” not to wear a mask while your arse is standing outside.


But, ultimately, my hope is that (somehow) all of this will decline in the new year.

I feel the same honestly.

Oh, I'm a mess.

But I'm in NJ, I live directly across from NYC, my friends have had it, my ILs probably had it, I'm actively enjoying the silence of no sirens and no fireworks for the first time in *months*...

I'm also high risk and probably can't go back to my job, DH is furloughed, now, too, and we suddenly got an insurance bill in the mail after being told his job was covering it, our unemployment systems are ... unreliable... and we're TTC on top of it all!

We're hoping to socially distance see his parents this week, and that will be the first time we've seen anyone in the family since February.

Add in my parents living in AZ and being in a hot spot and high risk?

I need a large, fuzzy dog to just kind of hug me.

View Quoted Comment I’m sure this will be taken down for “violating” WW guidelines, but can you not? It’s been a very disappointing experience for 2020 brides. No one is “disgusting” for continuing with their plans. I hope your sister doesn’t come across your post. If your state allows it, I say go for it. Anyone who feels uncomfortable attending a wedding has the option to decline.


If you are “disgusting” enough to attend or hold a wedding, you can make others feel safer by limiting your outings for 2-3 weeks after...

As a fellow bride to be who was supposed to be married this September, i'm conflicted in my emotions. Yes, of course i'm bummed i won't get to marry my SO this year, but we see this as a blessing in disguise. I just gave birth to our daughter 3 months ago, and when COVID hit, all of our wedding planning was haulted. We took this time to really rethink what we wanted for our special day. In the end, we've decided on a totally different venue, revamped our entire guest list, and chose a whole new date for next year. Our daughter will actually be able to WALK down the aisle and that excites me more than anything. True love withstands all of life's obstacles, and this was just a pre-test. 😊

Heartbroken.
Postponed our 6/14/20 wedding a year and still worried about it for next year 😞 I want to be excited

I have mixed emotions beyond happy to marry my best friend in 10 days but I never wanted a backyard wedding but that’s our only option right now. I’m emotional that I don’t have my dress and I’m sad everyone cannot physically be there. I moved my reception to next year at my venue and so nervous if that will even happen or how I’m gonna keep up with paying for things this hasn’t been a good experience at all and I’m very sad about it. I’m in NY where things are good but I’m honestly scared it’s not gonna stay that way for long and we’ll be right back where we started.

Hi Pia. I'm sorry you are feeling unsettled and saddened. It's definitely a tough situation to be in.

We are moving forward with our September 19th wedding. Unfortunately, we CANNOT re-schedule. There's a clause in our contract that if we re-schedule, we are going to lose the money because COVID falls under their "acts of God" that the venue doesn't cover. The only way we would re-schedule is if the venue shuts down and they would move the date. That makes it super crazy for us because what if the week of the wedding they shut down?!?! A lot of stress.

EDIT: if the wedding does happen as scheduled, we will be providing masks for guests. Also, since we are having a 45-50 people wedding, our venue will be putting less people per tables and they will be using (really nice looking) disposable glasses/cutlery/plates. We will do our best to ensure the safety of the guests that do want to come. We will also be streaming our ceremony and first dance online for those who would still want to be part of our day but don't feel comfortable being at the wedding.

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I agree with this. No one should be making others feel ashamed of their decision. Like you said, any uncomfortable guests can decline, and we will understand.

A lot of people have different reasons to move forward, as planned. My FH & I, for example, cannot cancel or re-schedule on our own according to our contract. If we do, we lose everything (they are a all-inclusive fully paid venue), so we have no other option than to move forward. Unless the venue themselves decide to move the date.

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People have jobs and can not just shelter in place for 2-3 weeks after they attend an event. For the people who say you can make the decision to decline a wedding if you are not comfortable, its not always that easy. If you are a distant cousin or friend, its a lot easier to decline than if it is your sister or you already committed to being in a bridal party. I know someone that was in a bridal party in June and would have had to fly across the country to attend the wedding and was not comfortable attending. She did end up backing out and her bride friend is no longer speaking to her.

I get this is a crappy situation for anyone planning a wedding this year (especially reading how many venues won't give back deposits), but declining a wedding in a lot of cases has a lot of other implications, so it does annoy me when people say "you can just decline if you are not comfortable".

I also will stick to my point that if you are having/attending an event you should try to do your best to limit exposure as much as possible leading up to an event for the sake of others.

View Quoted Comment Of course people have jobs... Which is why I said limit your outings -not quarantine- if that will make the nay-sayers around you feel better. The issue I was trying to address is from the commenter quoted in my original post who is “disgusted” (her words) by her sister, and her sisters willingness to move forward with her wedding.


To your point, shame on that bride who will no longer speak to a bridesmaid across the country in a pandemic. It would be disappointing to have guests decline but that doesn’t mean you should cut them off. But then again it’s 2020 and people are quick to drop family and friends for lesser things.
Maybe this is an unpopular opinion, but I would say it’s harder on the couple to keep moving the goal post than it is for a guest to decline. Food for thought..

View Quoted Comment Pardon me.. you are the original commentator. My ask is that you try to be more understanding of your sister and her motives. For some of us stuck in this situation it means putting off planning a family, moving, having a parent with terminal illness attend, etc.

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We're new date twins! I was supposed to be September 26th. I'm trying to be calm right now because I just don't know what next year will be like. I have been so anxious and sad the past few months that I just need to rest my mind.

My wedding was supposed to be August 29th, but my FH and I are postponing until Aug 2nd 2021. We just turned in the paperwork this morning. It has been a very emotional experience for us, but it's the right thing to do. A lot of our guests would be flying in from Arizona, Texas, California, and a few from Europe (all hot spots).

Concerned (my MOH is stressing about going back to work and hinted at potentially not flying to our wedding in the fall if the numbers don’t improve - we are teachers and she has an auto-immune disease which makes her more susceptible to everything), lack of motivation (like why am I doing these workouts to look nice in my dress and bathing suit when I might not even get to wear either of them this year), sad, frustrated, on edge waiting for the guilt trip to begin (I’m the only family member who hasn’t cancelled their wedding out of the three family weddings we were supposed to have)
Like I want to put my dress on and think happy thoughts but being stuck at home put 7+ pounds on me since March.
My mom keeps telling me it will work out, and I was really excited when FH’s passport came in the mail Friday. But today isn’t such a good day.

Same!!! It’s so overwhelming...we are scheduled for 10/10/20. Doubt our venue will let us reschedule—thankfully we will only lose the deposit. I contacted the coordinator a few weeks ago, and she avoided a direct answer. We’re trimming down our guest list and have our top 10 people in mind if we go with our plan B—simple ceremony in the park and pray there’s not a hurricane or rain. I’m also sad—no parties, no showers. I miss people!!!!

I was originally supposed to get married 5.2.2020 and then rescheduled to 11.20.20. Now I’m worried we may need to reschedule again. The headache of all of this is unbearable. It makes wedding planning feel hopeless. I am so hoping we can get married in November. I feel like it’s putting my life on hold.

View Quoted Comment Scarlett. I told my bridesmaids, please do not attend if you are uncomfortable or cannot for any reason whatsoever. I texted them with message and called them and told them, no hard feeling do what’s best for you. Two of my bridesmaids took a week and let me know they couldn’t, and I respect that. Another one now 2 weeks before called me and declined, I handled it well but she didn’t. She is panicked about being forced back to work as a teacher and my wedding was just one other stresser for her since she has no control over the county telling her she will be going in with many students. My wedding she can get out of but her job she can’t financially. A hard decision yes. But she still had free will. I just had wish she took my offer to decline sooner but understand she may have thought things could have been better a month later. The only reason I am taking a break from her is because she said someone will die at my wedding because all big groups that get together, someone has died. That was not a necessary comment on her part nor necessarily true. We’ve taken a lot of social distance measure and cut our guest list down. She picks and chooses, which again is fine which is free will but a week before my wedding she is going to another state to meet her husband’s sisters boyrfriend that she said no one likes. She could get COVID there. Well do what you want! It’s your life to live.


Any VIP guests that could not attend will watch via zoom. Agree with you it’s a hard decision for guests. My opinion is if they are unsure. Just don’t come, it’s not worth it. Siblings would be hard and agree.

I agree it’s not easy. But unfortunately who knows when things will be normal again. And if they ever will be even in the new 2 years. We don’t know.

I was very upset to have to postpone our big wedding. We're still getting married on our original July 18 date but I still cried and was down for a couple weeks. Now I'm a lot better and am actually grateful that we're having a smaller ceremony/elopement. Our venue is wonderful and we can have the elopement and postpone for no additional charge. However, I am worried about the COVID cases rising. Our big wedding is August 2021 so I'm hoping everything will be contained by then. But then again, I thought everything would be contained by now....either way, I feel your frustrations and disappointments as do many, many brides and families this year.

Me too. Its nice to know we can vent to people who understand how we feel.

yes, Grateful we are healthy and alive.