HELP! Tricks not to cry during ceremony?

Take a Xanax? Jusssst kidding, I'm sorry I don't have any real tips, don't be afraid to stop and take a minute to collect yourself and start again if you do end up blubbering.

Ms. L - i heart you... xanax was my first thought too!

Yeah I guess some people actually might want to feel at their wedding ceremony though *shrugs*

Oh I can related. I always write FH a letter for holidays, birthdays etc and end up crying just reading those to him! So I can only imagine!

To combat this we are going to recite some outloud to each other, but I think we are going to go more indepth in private either before or after the ceremony, Prob after so I dont ruin my makeup crying LOL

At last evening's beach wedding, the B&G both got a little choked up repeating their vows after me. But, when it was time for the B to repeat her vows to G's 2 little boys, she really lost it. She couldn't even start for a minute or so. I reassured the boys that she was crying happy tears and told her to take a couple of deep breaths. She got it together and we finished the ceremony. I didn't dare look at the g'parents because they always lose it at that point in the ceremony!

Is it bad that when I read the first comment I thought, "That's not a bad idea!" lol

I'm not a crier, so I don't think this is really a huge issue for us, especially since we won't be writing our own vows. A tear or two might be sweet, though.

I am coming apart right now at the thought of even incorporating my FHs daughter into the ceremony.

Well it was funny I started crying a bit watching say yes to the dress, some of those stories are actually touching! lol..I had just put on mascara, so I put my head up and blinked a bunch and that helped..although doing that during the ceremony...meh probably not gonna look cool in photos LOL. .ya i just say taking a moment..my one friend during her wedding had like a key word, like some funny inside joke thing she and her BMs repeated to themselves if they started tearing up..maybe something like that could help?

There's nothing wrong with crying at your wedding; just make sure you have industrial strength mascara!

I cry at everything, and it's a real challenge to DO weddings for a living, but I've read each script so often that i feel like I'm not going to tear up. Still, there are those couples that get me,lol......

I never cried at things like that until I met FH. I blame it ALL on him!

No its not bad you thought that at the first comment! I will probably have a glass of wine before hand while getting dressed ,it might help!

Yeah, I'm not a crier either, but now that we're getting close, pictures of other weddings at our venue make me tear up. I usually try to bite my lip or the inside of my mouth, but I'm afraid I'm going to lose it, and that's just the way it's going to be.

My FH and I are both cryers. He is actually worst than me. We are taking a half a Clonapin, and will be reciting them to hopefully dilute the effect. Naturally, we won't practice in front of one another. This is the single most important reason we are having a first look. Even though he picked out my clothes and I picked out his, we want that first look to be a private moment shared only with our photographer(DIL).

Since we know Plan A won't work, I am wearing waterproof eye liner, mascara and Bridal Make-up Finish that supposedly is immune to tears.

Update...My daughter who lives in Florida is singing "At Last" for my processional. She just sent us a voice mail. Frank and I sobbed. I think I should just put the make-up on after the ceremony.

Update...My daughter who lives in Florida is singing "At Last" for my processional. She just sent us a voice mail. Frank and I sobbed. I think I should just put the make-up on after the ceremony.

Ah, yet another reason for doing first look photos instead of waiting until after the ceremony!

There's always the tried and true 'picture everyone naked' trick. Personally, I would suggest you carry a feminine handkerchief wrapped discreetly around your bouquet. Definitely use all the shellac on your makeup and waterproof mascara, etc. There's also a trick where putting a little pressure (with your finger) on the inside corner of your eye may help lessen the likelihood of crying, or at least delay it a bit. And if none of that works...cry beautifully and make everyone else watching choke up too. Have a happy wedding!

Oh no way to not cry... if i had those words of wisdom i WOULDNT... i cried, the little teary eyed choke up a bit cry at the original marriage...even though this is a renewal.. i KNOW Im going to cry. I've missed him while he's been overseas and i obviously LOVE him very much, its just emotion... go with it. I think its sweet.