Help! Another bride is wearing my dress!

The Bride of your FH work friend has the same dress.

correct?

I'm going to go for a stretch here, but I'm pretty sure only this woman and guy will be at both weddings.

Just the fact that YOU are wearing it will make it different.

You will have different hair, different flowers, you don't need a Whole new dress.

If you want to add something to it that is up to you.

Congrats and welcome to WW

Do you guys have the same color? The belt is one place where it can be different. Do you both have a lot of the same guests? If they're the only ones, I wouldn't worry about it.

But I would embellish the dress rather than buy a whole new dress -- that would just be silly. Check out Etsy for lots of unique sashes, brooches, etc. that you can add to the dress, and remember your other accessories (jewelry, hair, veil) will also help you stand apart from another bride.

I wouldn't be concerned with trying to make yourself different from her. Do you know her personally? Or are you the "and guest" on the invite? Did she find out about your dress and go out and get it for herself?

I'm saying that this is probably a pure coincidence, and I wouldn't stress about it.

Are the guest lists the same? One thing to think about, you two are completely different people. The dress is going to look different on each of you. I know it sucks that you know she has your dress, but what are the odds that you will have the same veil, shoes and jewelry? Just my opinion

And this is all pure coincidence that we have the same dress. We found it out the first time the four of us hungout. Luckily, the grooms were playing video games and didn't hear our conversation.

Unfortunately, both she and I had the same reaction when we tried on the dress - we both hated the blue belt that came with it and bought a wider white belt that completely changed the dress.

Even our weddings are going for the same kind of feel and its all completely by coincidence.

I don't get upset over many things, but I don't want to wear that dress now. I feel like its spoiled.

My FH hasn't weighed in on much during the planning process, but he's been adament about not seeing me til I walk down the aisle. Now I feel like that's ruined.

You all make excellent points that the guests won't know, but I will and now I'm not even exited to put that dress on.

I would just laugh at the fact that you both have such good taste

Get a different belt if that will make you feel better. You fell in love with the dress for a reason. If you had found out AT her wedding that you had the same dress you would have NEVER had enough time to go out and get a new dress.

He is not going to be paying attention to how she looks in her dress. And I bet you $100 that if you ask him at the End of your wedding if your dress looks familiar, he is going to look at you sideways and say, "Noooooo, why? Should it?"

She is not you. Your husband is going to love the dress because it is on YOU.

I mean do you two look alike? If not, I would definitely not worry about it. And I will bet good money that you FH wouldn't even notice if it were the same dress... he's a dude. And guys are pretty oblivious to those kinds of things. So he will still see you with fresh eyes when you walk down the aisle. That part will not be spoiled in the least in my opinion.

Agree with Hayley and Glorianna 100%.

Yes I'm sure you are both right about him not remembering the dress on her. We don't look drastically different, but I have blonde hair with blue eyes and she has brown hair and brown eyes.

She and I laughed hysterically when we found out that 2 girls who where complete strangers bought the exact same dress from a designer we'd never heard of before we started dress shoppng. But it stopped being funny when my FH and I were invited to the wedding.

I'll try to find a seamstress that could talk with me about adding some beaded trim or something to the top of the dress. My mom wanted me to use something from her wedding gown so manbe it will give me a change to incoporate some of the lace trim from her veil.

Thanks for the feeback girls! I was really panicing and my FH could tell something was wrong, but I didn't want to tell him what was going on.

Seriously, look on Etsy. In about a minute, I can find you a bunch of wide, white beaded sashes that you can use to embellish the dress. Or you can get a sash in one of your wedding colors to make it pop. And you can find unique accessories on there.

I told my FH about your situation and his response was that you shouldn't worry, that your FH won't even realize it is the same dress because he won't even notice what the other bride is wearing and will forget what it looks like. FH says that all that will matter to your FH and the only wedding dress that he will ever remember is the one he sees his bride in. Hope hearing a man's point of view helps a little {hugs}

Thank you Dminted! It's a huge relief!!!

If you asked my H to describe my wedding dress to you, he would scrunch up his face and think really hard, and then tell you it was poufy and had lots of ruffles and that I looked amazing and it took forever to get it off of me and it was the best day of his life.

If I showed him the stock photo of my dress on the model, he would probably not believe me if I told him it was the same dress.

If I asked him to describe the dresses of any other bride whose wedding we've attended over the last 6 months, he would have no idea whatsoever and would be like, "IDK but wasn't that the wedding where we did whiskey shots with the groom?" lol.

Not to overgeneralize but most men just don't notice the things we notice. I would seriously not even worry about it. Just do your thing as planned, I'm sure you're going to look amazing.

Chances are there are THOUSANDS of that dress out there. Unless you're having a gown custom designed, there's no reason to worry about it being unique. It'll be unique because you wearing it will make it that way.

I agree with Dminted*Bride and Krisalicious- I can almost gaurentee you that my DH doesn't remember exactly what my dress looks like let alone another bride's dress. If you don't feel comfortable with your dress because she has the same one than I would do as Just Reenski said and look at some blinged out belts/sashes on Etsy. It will completely change the look of your dress and add the embellishment/change that you are looking for!

http://www.etsy.com/search/handmade/weddingsq=bling+sashes&view_type=gallery&ship_to=US

I went to my FH's cousin's wedding at the end of January, and she was wearing the same dress as me. Even though half of the guests will be at our wedding too, I can guarantee that none will remember that it was the same dress. Most people just aren't that detail oriented. I was actually happy that she was wearing that dress, because it confirmed to me that it's a beautiful dress and will look AMAZING!

I wouldn't worry about it.

With all the other things that make your wedding *yours*-- the honor attendants, flowers, colors, venue, etc. no one will notice that the dresses are identical. Let's face it-- many wedding dresses (including mine own) are 'big, poofy and white' and that's about as much as anyone can take in. Kind of like babies-- unless it's yours, they all look the same, anyway.

I agree with the ladies, don't worry about it - you two are different ladies and you have different guests so no one will notice. Yes, you and her will, but if that really bothers you, add a little something different; like maybe a different belt.

What krisalicious said!! and to be honest I wouldnt notice either