Has your family or friends let you down or have they helped you out more than you thought they would?

OMG I totally understand. My mom stopped talking to me for her own dumb reasons and FH's family acts like our wedding is an inconvience to them. It's ridiculous. And no one is helping us pay for anything, but they all have an opinion. I'm right there with you - I can't wait for it to be over!

Yayyyy! 29 Days! Congratulations on that! Our bridal party was the best! They really reminded us why we chose them. Hang in there. And yes thank God for your aunts and 2 bridesmaids. Lean on them and let them help you. Weddings and funerals bring out the best and worst in people. Glad some are showing you the best!

Eh... its tough. Everyone seems ok for me.... they talk about the plans with me, my mom for some reason seems disconnected. IDK why, my sister has even asked her. I think she feels like its not as important cause we're all ready married, but she does ok. and one of my girls is VERY disconnected, but again.... it is what it is

I am sorry you are going through this. Just look on the bright side. At least you have someone.

I can relate, I'm on the phone with FH now discussing if I should cut my MOH who is my sister & another Bridesmaid from the wedding. Both of them are always too busy to discuss anything or even get online to look at potential bridesmaids dresses.The help I've gotten so far is from co-workers & my 2 OOT bridesamaids. It's stll early for me so I hope they do better.

Syd J- it's sad that our family can't be supportive during this wonderful time in our life's.

Thank you EDubbs wife

Sabrina those are my fh words, it is what it is.

Mrs.Carole thank God for mothers like you!

Kesha- my MOH is my little sister and she has not helped one bit plus I had to lend her money for her dress and paid for her shoes. Oh and I was close to kicking one of my bridesmaids out when she couldn't go to my bridal shower then she had the nerve to text me 2 weeks ago and ask me "when is the wedding" oh and my oot bridesmaids are the best!

My BFF who is my MOH kinda let me down once I announced my engagement because she wasn't as happy as I thought she would be (her own personal reasons)...we don't really hang out as much because I always have to come to her and when I actually do come to her I don't really discuss the wedding because I usually only discuss it if someone asks about it because I know not everyone wants to talk wedding talk all the time but she won't even ask me how things are going most of the time and if she does she goes into talking about how her wedding would be if she ever gets married....FH mom isn't helping at all bc she believes the brides fam should pay for it all but I'm glad she not helping she would try to take over and I ain't having that...my fam unfortunately me and my sis are both getting married a month apart so they are going to help out in any area that they can but me and FH are paying for this wedding ourselves pretty much

Nope they haven't let me down, because we went into planning with the mentality that it is our wedding and we're on our own as far as the work goes. The only issue I've really had was FSIL and my MOH not seeming to take into account that my budget and vacation time would be stretched too thin if one got married the month before my original date and the other got married the month after my original date, with my wedding wedged in the middle. 2013 will be a busy and expensive year as I am BM in both weddings two months apart. I do wish everyone would be more helpful in giving me tips or guidance on what needs to be done, but that's why I'm on here. FMIL and the in-laws are too wrapped up in FSIL to really help me out, my friends don't really know too much about weddings, and my family is completely against us for race reasons. It's a little sad, but was expected so I can't say we're let down. Thank goodness for WW. Just remember we're here if you need someone to vent or ask about ideas.

Gina- everything you said is something I have said my FMIL thinks the same way and she isn't paying for anything but when I hear her talking about my wedding with other people she makes it seem like she is which makes me mad but I vent to my FH and he knows the way his mom is.

Pan x- I went in knowing it was my wedding my money and my work but I still feel hurt that people I would do anything for don't care to ask about it or offer any help. I would be excited to help if one of my friends or family members were getting married. It is sad that they would schedule their weddings around yours and I hope your family comes around.

I am sorry that you are getting let down by people you care about. It really sucks when that happens, but you are almost there! I am in the opposite boat. Everyone has been awesome so far when it comes our wedding planning. I wasn't expecting a cent from anyone and my mom said that she was going to pay for our catering, my dress, and our unlimited beer/wine at our venue. She has almost taken care of these three things completely and I am so grateful. Because of her help, I have been able to splurge on things that I wasn't originally even having. My BMs check in every now and then to make sure everything is going well and one of them helped me find my photographer. FH's parents have given us some money when they can afford it and they are paying for our honeymoon. They are also taking care of the rehearsal dinner. I am getting a lot of help and I am so thankful for it. The wedding we are planning wouldn't be possible without all of it.

Wow soon to be Mrs.C that is wonderful. You amd your FH have special people in your life, You are one of the lucky ones. It always means more when your not expecting anything.

I haven't been disappointed, but i just realized early on that no one, and i mean no one, is going to be as excited about my wedding as me. and why would they be? its not their life, its mine. so i think that saved me a lot of disappointment. also, i havent really expected anything from anyone because i have been a BM 5 times and i know how hard it is to shell out money, adjust your schedule, and sacrifice your time all for the sake of someone else. so i have been trying not to do that to my BMs as much as possible. BMs are there to stand up with me on my special day, not be free labor for a year. i think avoiding getting bridal tunnel vision has helped me on not being disappointed. i dont expect anything from anyone at this point, other than to just be happy for me and FH.

I havent been disappointed with my FH's family but mine has been moving very slowly. My MOH and BM's have not purchased their dresses yet, and yes that is stressing me out a bit. Other than that I fully expected to be doing this by myself. Sometimes I feel like my FH hates hearing about wedding stuff, I'm not sure if it's because I bring it up so often or if he's a guy and the details are not something he's into. Either way, I'm enjoying the whole process, we have 92 days left and I'm loving every moment of it. My motto has been if any of my family members are not supportive about a decision I make I just dont talk about the wedding with them.....it makes perfect sence to me :0)

I am in the same boat you are my Moh has been mia and its a little stressful because we have been friends for a long time but like someone else said nobody will care as much about your wedding as you will. its sad to say people we care about can be jerks sometimes when its not concerning them or all about them even if we jst need them there for support . i try and not let it get to me down and you should either us wedding wire brides are always here to talk to! and here to give advice

IT'S SAD THAT WE HAVE TO FEEL THIS WAY! BUT NOT EVERYONE IS HAPPY FOR YOU! I ADMIT THAT I CRY SOMETIMES BECAUSE IT HURTS TO SEE EVERYONE TURN THEIR BACK ON YOU! I DONT HAVE NOT ONE PERSON THATS HAPPY FOR ME AND NOONE HELPING US! BUT BY GOD I CLAIM VICTORY!