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Amanda
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Has anyone NOT had bridal portraits taken?

Amanda, on August 4, 2016 at 10:24 AM

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Hi, still relatively new to WW and this will be my second post. So everyone in my family keeps talking about my bridal portraits and blah blah blah, BUT I'm personally not keen on having them done. I just don't see the need for the added expense especially since my fiancé and I are paying close to...

Hi, still relatively new to WW and this will be my second post. So everyone in my family keeps talking about my bridal portraits and blah blah blah, BUT I'm personally not keen on having them done. I just don't see the need for the added expense especially since my fiancé and I are paying close to 85% of this wedding ourselves.

Has anyone NOT had them and regretted it or has anyone had them and then regretted it? I know it's more of a 'personal choice' question, but I figure since we're going to have an amazing wedding photographer, he will get some excellent shots and I could possibly use one of those instead.

I'm the first person in my family to get married and have an actual wedding (my sister and BIL went to the courthouse and it was very lovely) in close to 18 years so my entire family is in over-drive with planning lol. My grandma is darn near obsessed and is just so tickled and can't stop talking about 'your bridal portraits'.

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  • Jen D.
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    I'm not planning on them. It's very hit or miss for who seems to do them. I live in the south it the only person I know who had them done, had them done at the insistence of her family- they're from Michigan. Then it turned into a fight on her wedding day when she decided to have her hair done differently than she did for the bridal portraits and her Mom lost her damn mind over it. It was 90+ degrees on her wedding day and she asked to have her hair up. It had been in the low 80s for her portraits and she was hot then.

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  • SummerS
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    I've found that the majority of the people on WW don't do them/haven't heard of them. I think they are more of a southern tradition and even dying out some there too. They are definitely not necessary. That said, I did them and I'm very glad I did. It was a really fun experience to have with my mom (and I'm assuming from your post your grandmother would also love to be a part of it! Photogs will usually take a few fun shots at the end of you and whoever is there with you...it's a sweet keepsake and a nice memory to have) Other than that, they were an opportunity for me to be in my dress for a couple of hours, moving around, sweating a bit, and that uncovered a few more alterations that were needed. If nothing else, that made it more than worth it for me! I also looked at it as another hair and makeup trial to see how my hair photographed and how well the makeup stayed put. It was great for a bouquet "trial" too! I ended up making some changes to all of those things for the wedding day based on what I saw/felt during the bridal portrait session. At the end of the day, if it's not something that's in your budget, then it's not a big deal to skip them though. Just wanted to give a different perspective of them other than being a dumb tradition Smiley smile

    ETA: I did NOT display any portraits from my session at the wedding. That part of the tradition I do actually find very strange! These portraits tend to be more for the parents really.

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  • Future Mrs. DW
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    I'm not doing it. And I'm perfectly OK with it. I figure there will be enough close ups of me with my FH and a few by myself. I don't need a whole photo shoot of just me.

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  • MisstoMrsWeber
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    Not doing them! Just taking a couple separate shots at the wedding and that's it! We did that with our engagement pictures too 90% are together but like 10% are just of each of us! Just tell your family your having them done at the wedding rather a separate time!

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  • Sandy
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    I hadn't heard of them either and won't be doing them. Like others have said, I'm sure we'll have a lot of pictures the day of and some will most likely be of me alone anyways (without having to plan another day and pay extra for them).

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  • Jackie
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    I'm in the club of not ever hearing of this until women started threads on it here. Clearly, I'm not doing it, but I know my photog will be doing individual shots of me and FH on the big day, so, that'll work for me!

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  • annakay511
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    From what I've learned, bridal portraits are a southern tradition and MOST brides do NOT have a separate photo shoot just for bridal portraits. Your photographer should be able to get plenty of shots of you on your wedding day (I know mine did!). I do not see the point of a separate photo shoot just for pictures of you, which would involve hair, makeup, getting your dress done early, having a bouquet made, etc.

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  • beautyofdreams
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    I'm from the south and knew about them. My mom wanted me to have them done. I decided against it because it seemed like an unnecessary expense. I did allocate time during the wedding day for the photographer to get pictures of me by myself in my gown. I have also been to traditional southern weddings where the brides portrait is placed at the reception but its not mandatory or anything.

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  • A. L.
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    Never heard of it.

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  • Kelsey
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    I never ever heard of bridal portraits until I moved South. People keep asking me if I'm getting them...I cannot fathom putting on my gown, getting all dolled up, holding my bouquet....then taking some pictures, getting undressed and doing it all again "for real" a couple months later. I definitely think it's a personal choice. I don't think I'll regret not doing them; we are having 2 photographers all day the day of, so I'm confident I'll get solo shots then

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  • Natasha
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    I am not having them done and I don't think I will regret it. I will just make sure my photographer gets a few good ones with me by myself. I know a lot of brides who did not do them. My mom on the other hand wants me to do them, but I rather not.

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  • Lynnie
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    I'm not doing them, but I had also never heard of them until I joined this forum Smiley smile

    I can see the benefits of doing them though! Like @Summer said - you can do a trial run of everything to make sure it will all work on your wedding day!

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  • Pumped Up Kicks
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    I'm with @FreshToDeathAng, I've never even heard of them until this post. I'm definitely not doing them, there will be PLENTY of photos of me in my dress!

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  • Amanda
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    I'm not planning on having them and especially since the majority on here has never heard of them before...what's the point?! We're already bunking Southern tradition and not getting married in a church or by a minister or having a religious ceremony...grandparents just about keeled over with THAT but they've come around Smiley smile

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  • Private_User804
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    We had engagement photos done instead and love them! I will get some 'bridals' done on the actual wedding day - have scheduled to be out of hair and makeup an hour early just for that reason.

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  • Lauren17
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    I'm in NJ and i never even heard of them before WW.

    Not getting them done and i don't regret it. Seems like another added expense that is not necessary! Just have your photographer take some shots of you by yourself on the day of the wedding.

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  • VC
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    What are portraits? Seems pretty old school no?

    We will have pictures of us taken the day of with just the two of us. Does that count?

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  • Alicia
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    I'm not having them done. My photographer will take photos of just me on the wedding day, I'm sure. Which is just fine.

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  • Sandra M.
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    I'm not doing them but my photographer offers them. I don't need a bunch of pictures of just me looking off in the distance. I'll get a few pics on my own before the ceremony.

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  • LadyPearl
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    I've never heard of them til WW. Don't know anyone who's done it and I've never been to anyone's house and seen them displayed.

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