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Future KH
VIP October 2011

Guestzilla and Vendorzilla

Future KH, on December 13, 2010 at 2:01 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 44

The "bridezilla" post got me thinking. Women (in general) work very hard to avoid negative labeling, like "bridezilla". I think the word is thrown around too much and incorrectly. Everyone planning a party (not just brides) is entitled to make some reasonable demands of vendors and guests (such as...

The "bridezilla" post got me thinking. Women (in general) work very hard to avoid negative labeling, like "bridezilla". I think the word is thrown around too much and incorrectly. Everyone planning a party (not just brides) is entitled to make some reasonable demands of vendors and guests (such as the date, location for vendors and asking guests to find their own child care if they are local or RSVP in a timely manner).

Normally, guests would oblige and understand. When it comes to weddings though, instead of understanding, I have found people trying their best to manipulate me for their benefit. One of those ways may be to call me a bridezilla (I haven't heard the phrase yet, but I assume it is just a matter of time). I say, let's turn the table and start calling the "guestzilla" and "vendorzilla". Anyone care to share some stories of what makes a guestzilla or vendorzilla?

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  • FMS, the barefoot wife!
    Master August 2010
    FMS, the barefoot wife! ·
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    Don't forget Sisterzillas, Momzillas, FMIL/FFIL-zillas, and Randomperson-zillas!

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  • June
    Expert March 2011
    June ·
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    I haven't had any trouble with vendors so far but have only dealt with the venue as of now. Noei - amazing story!

    I learn so much from this site, I feel I owe you all since you're saving me lots of $$$!

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  • Amy "Been here too long" W.
    VIP November 2011
    Amy "Been here too long" W. ·
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    I haven't had any vendorzillas yet, but I do have many guestzillas. My friend/coworker said I was being rude to not allow random plus ones to all the single guests. She said it didn't matter if I knew them or not people should always get a plus one. My FSIL said I was using ageism to discriminate against her 3 year old grand daughter by not letting her be flower girl. We are not allowing any kids at the wedding and if we did it would be my niece not FH. I was also told by another guest that I was being a snob by requesting cocktail/formal attire. She said jeans can be dressy too. Seriously?

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  • Carole M (a.k.a "old tart")
    Master October 2011
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    @Kathy....The caterer is coming to our venue. So, it adds a different dimension to the equation. I would not expect to take lefotver buffet food from a venue(even if 10 people I paid for didn't show). Also, this particular caterer was the only one who would not guarantee a price a year in advance, and the only one who did not box up the leftovers. All of the other caterers, while snooty, def had no issue with leftovers or locking in on a price. With regard to the leftovers, all caterers but her said I paid for the food, it is more of a pain to pack it up and take it back with them. All of the others also said the only prices they could not guarantee would be seafood.

    Re finding out she was reselling....beyond tacky!

    Thankfully, we found an awesome caterer who not only has delish food, but also has a very pleasing personality.

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  • Aussie Bride
    Master February 2010
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    Our vendorzilla was a florist. I went in said I hadnt decided on flowers or anything that the only thing I knew was that I didnt want to see lots of greenery. Well the florist kept telling me how pretty the greenery was and showing me these bouquets she'd done where the greenery was very obvious. Again I stated that they were pretty but I didnt want to see much greenery and did she have anything she could show me that didnt. She spent the next 15mins trying to convince me that having a lot of green in the bouquet was the right thing to do. Eventually my husband said im sorry but she doesnt want a lot of green so we will look elsewhere. I was so frustrated. Guestzilla we definately had. My DH SIL wore a blue dress to match my wedding colors as she told me and brown cowboy boots to our formal wedding. She threw out the invite and then kept asking me what date and time the wedding was. She threw a fit right before the wedding because my bridesmaid didnt hear her say something to her cont.

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  • Aussie Bride
    Master February 2010
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    As she was searching for something so the SIL said she doesnt like me and refused to come to the wedding. BIL convinced her to come they then walked in halfway through the ceremony knocked over our aisle runners and then she left her 3 month old baby with anyone and would walk off. Including putting her on a chair next to our photog who was taking photos and walking away so the photog ended up holding the baby so she wouldnt fall. Then she demanded she be allowed to drink (she was under 21) chucked a fit about it. I said no but her husband got her some without my knowledge which I then made very clear he would be paying for any fees we were charged if it was found out.

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  • L. Turtle
    VIP August 2011
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    Oy oy OY!! I can't believe some of these stories!! FS and I were especially flabbergasted by the guests who cut the cake themselves and the guest who wants the couple to invite his future girlfriend and not his present one. Also, Carole, that woman caterer sounds like she's breaking some laws, and if not, then definitely some ethical guidelines...

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  • >>>Insert Ty's New Gangsta Name Here<<<
    Master March 2012
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    Randomperson-zillas!

    *dead*

    Those would be: The ppl inviting themselves via FB and Twitter, no? LOL

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    Well, my sister did start a whipped cream fight with my son in the private dining room of the Legal Sea Foods where we held our luncheon after the ceremony. However, since they got whipped cream only on each other, we weren't dealing with clean-up costs, so I suppose we should consider ourselves lucky?

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  • JennaKate
    Expert November 2011
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    Vendors so far I only had my planner back out because she said my budget was too small. No big deal, we hadn't signed a contract.

    Guestzilla would definitely be my sister. When we were down in Charleston planning, she cornered me at 8am (before breakfast or coffee or anything) and asked if she was going to be my MOH. Then when I told her no, we weren't having the family in the bridal party we wanted them all to do readings, she threw a fit and screamed at me. She blamed me for ruining the whole family, saying I was selfish and really I should have known how it would make HER feel. Then she threatened me by saying she wants nothing to do with FH or our future children and we'll have no relationship with her children. She is 35, married with two kids. Girl grow up! It's my wedding, you eloped at Disney World and I wasn't invited. She's not the MOH because of dramatic bullsh*t like this.

    I can only imagine what she'll want me to do when the wedding actually comes! IF we're speaking.

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  • Genevieve
    VIP February 2011
    Genevieve ·
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    So far I've only had problems with the random-person-zillas. Guests have all been great. My mom has been amazing. And after a couple of the random-person-zillas, we've kept our engagement relatively quiet (yes, it's not on FB).

    For me it's just been the random-person-zillas who try and tell me that I'm not really engaged b/c there's not a ring on my finger. Apparently a small metal circle is a highly important thing and a guy can't make a promise without it.

    I've also been told that having the wedding where we live isn't good cause it can't be big. Cause having a big wedding makes it more legal.

    And that I can't get married without a big wild bachelorette party. Cause getting really drunk and staring at naked men makes me more committed to him.

    And that my mom can't possibly bake the cake the for that many people. Cause my mom who ran a bakery as well as multiple industrial kitchens couldn't possibly figure out how to put something together for 35 people.

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  • Julie
    Devoted May 2011
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    My wedding planner set up a meeting with me then called two days before to confirm. I said, "Yes, we are still on." to which she responded with, "Oh, well, I'm busy, lets reschedule." Um, why didn't you just ask to reschedule in the first place? But, I let that slide and reset it for the next week, and she didn't show up! Nor did she call to let us know she couldn't make it. I called her and left a message asking where she was and she never called back. She did however e-mail me to say she was busy the day of our meeting and would call me to reschedule when SHE had time. And, NO APOLOGY FOR MISSING THE APPOINTMENT. My response to her was, "Yeah, we won't be using your services and would like our deposit back." That was 5 months ago and she hasn't mailed a check, called or e-mailed me to apologize. Coem to think of it, I need to do a VERY negative review for her.

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  • Jennifer
    Super October 2011
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    In Cali...reselling food would not fly for a second!

    thats gross to me anyway...

    I haven't really had any guestzillas...or verdorzilla not yet at least knock on wood!

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    @Genevieve H.: Hmm... We never had engagement rings. We had a dozen guests at our wedding. Our bachelorette parties were small. One was at Dave & Buster's (restaurant and arcade games). The other was at a traditional Korean bathhouse. So they weren't exactly wild, either. And NotFroofy baked our cake. Does this mean our wedding wasn't legal? ;-)

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  • Ruby
    Super August 2011
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    I just have the usual guest-zilla: My manager continuously invites more and more people to the wedding. Then, she puts me on the spot and says, "Its okay, right? They will be there." Uh... hell no? I really need to bring this up to her that its pissing me off but don't know how to do it without blowing up at her. She's single, in her 30s, and even though her sister just had a HUGE wedding this past year and got herself into debt ($90k loan for the wedding - wtf?), she still doesn't seem to understand that not everyone can afford or wants to have tons of extra people at their wedding. I wish she'd hurry and find someone so I could invite people to her wedding!

    My current venders have been very accommodating so far. Research goes a long way! Hopefully it will continue to stay this way.

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  • Ruby
    Super August 2011
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    Oh I forgot one. A patient tried to invite himself to my wedding. Sorry, sir, you are not invited.

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  • Fun bride
    Master November 2010
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    Vendorzilla: The ceremony organ player who charged $500, turned up 15 after the start time, and left me wondering for 15 minutes why I was not being given the music cue to walk down the aisle, a friend had to rush to his nearby house and drag him to the ceremony as he "thought it was next week"; no prelude music for the seating of the guests as promised.

    Guestzilla: the forced invitee

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  • A
    Dedicated September 2010
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    Vendorzilla: My videographer who wont deliver my video or answer any of my emails asking for delivery date. He's done this to a dozen couples, see my review here. I have asked the others to post reviews, his one good review is from a bride who he never delivered her final vid, and to add insult to injury he has her trailor up as an example of his work here. Many of us are filing lawsuits....

    Guestzilla: Most guests were gracious and wonderful. I had someone ask me if they were invited to the wedding I looked them in the eye and said NO.

    It caused an awkward moment, but hey we weren't close and I had no intentions of inviting them under any circumstances. Rude question produces rude answer.

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  • LC
    Super March 2011
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    Bridesmaidszilla. My BMs were not liking the dresses I liked for them, they always had excuses that they were too long, too short, too plain looking or that their legs are too pale... So i said NO BRIDESMAIDS!!! How's that.

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  • Genevieve
    VIP February 2011
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    @2nd: That totally makes your wedding not legal!

    *rolls eyes* some people...

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