Guests who show up in your wedding colors on purpose.

Someone who understands. I'm only annoyed at the people who will do it on purpose, after I told them not to. If I tell someone not to and they do it anyway, I will be a little more than annoyed. As for the people who have no clue and show up in the colors, theres nothing I can do about that if they honestly didn't know.

I actually have had a few guy friends from college ask what the colors were so they could get coordinating ties. I thought it was a really sweet idea. I picked my wedding colors (and mind you there are A LOT of them) because they will look awesome. My BM's are in black dresses..my GM are in black tuxes with black shirts. Each BM has their own color (purple, pink, blue, yellow, orange and green) flower and the mens vest/tie and flower bounce off their partners. I am having the FMIL and my mom wear a color in the wedding (just not all black or any white). I wouldn't mind if someone wore my colors. It's not a big deal. It's kind of complimenting picture wise anyways. I wouldn't lose my cool over it. It's your day. People should know that! Who cares if the guy in the middle of row 8 has on a shirt that matches. I sure won't! I just don't want anyone in white.

Not a big deal. So he wants to match his girlfriend. So? It's not going to take the attention away from you.

Oops, Cody C was me. I was logged into my fiance's account.

I could care less what colors the guests show up in, and I definitely wouldn't let someone's boyfriend wearing red cause me stress, even if I had asked him not to. Let it go.. who cares! You have way more important things to worry about!

And you really feel like you have the right to "tell" someone what to wear? To make a request is one thing. But you're saying you told him not to like you're talking to a 5 year old. You'll be on cloud 9 on your wedding day. You probably won't even notice him.

Like everyone else has said, I don't think its a big deal at all. You're focus will be on anything, but what your guests are wearing. (If it isn't, it should be.) Don't let it get to you. Its not worth it.

Personally I wouldn't worry about it. You'll have so many other things to worry about. And no one will pay attention to him anyway - except to ask stupid questions like "I didn't see you come down the isle?" But I think it maybe bothering you more since the BM is giving you trouble.

A lot of people these days are asking the guests to "wear something in red (for example) to show your love and support for the couple." It's becoming a theme thing. In fact, we were considering suggesting our guests wear fall colors or retro clothing (not required, but just for fun) to show their support. Maybe this is why the boyfriend thought it would be okay?

You have enough to worry about without worrying about what your guests are going to be wearing. Pick your battles carefully and show that you aren't as petty as she's obviously trying to make you.

I wouldn't worry about it - chances are he won't be able to find the correct "red" anyways...on the other side though, i don't understand the issue - my siste (not in the wedding nor are my nieces) asked what the colors are so she can have my nieces coordinate...it didn't strike me as odd since family photos will be the order of the day.

I have to say i have been in a few weddings and I've always bought FH a ties that "matched" my dress. never out of disrespect for anyone but so that in the pics we get of just us we match. and I have NEVER had a bride be upset by it. Just because he wears a red tie doesnt mean he is going to steal the show or anything. the only thing people will say is when they are dancing together later in the day that its cute how he matched his tie to her dress.

I don't see the big deal about this either. Personally I think that people can wear any color to weddings except white. Now if your guests showed up in the same dresses as your girls then that would be a problem.

In my family it's disrespectful to do that. Not any certain culture or religion, just a family thing. I once got chewed out because I wore a simple black dress to my cousins wedding. That happened to come really close to the bridesmaids.

That is ridiculous of your family. As long as you don't wear white or the exact dress of the bridesmaids then there is no reason to chew out a guest at the wedding.

I doubt anyone will notice. its a common thing for guys to dress to match their women for formal events, so its not weird that he asked. (in my opinion) its rude that they both wanna do it anyway since you asked not to though. but either way, its not something that should be a big enough deal to ruin the day, so why fret? theres always gonna be drama. my stepsister found a really cute dress she wanted an excuse to buy, so she asked me if she could wear it to the wedding. its a white dress, but its about knee length, and i told her, yeah why not. shes gonna add a cute bag and a colored belt to it to dress it down a bit so why do i care if she wears white? all eyes will be on you anyway girl!

I agree with everyone else, def not a big deal. I will lay the smack down if I have ANY guests in jeans or anything else inapropriate for a formal occassion tho. lol. I know for sure if FH was in a wedding, I'd prob try to match him or be close in color. We match or coordinate somehow for EVERY formal event. One of the GM's wives is wearing a dress to match her hubby, another is wearing the opposite color just so she'll coordinate. I took it as a compliment that she cared. I'm also layin the smack down if anyone's in white but that's another story!