Guests who show up in your wedding colors on purpose.

Uh, a lot of people try to wear wedding colors as a way of blending in. I don't see the big deal. Is this a cultural thing?

My thought? What guy asks to wear the same color as his girlfriend? Now that's just wrong.

My sister-in-law.... I would not doubt it if she would do this. Just because this has nothing to do with her and she won't be getting any attention. Can you tell I can't stand her?

Honestly, I don't think it's that big of a deal. Who cares what color her stupid boyfriend wears? Don't let it ruin your day. I gaurantee NO ONE will be paying attention to what he is wearing, your guests only care what YOU are wearing! Plus, one or two people are bound to show up in your colors by accident, so what's the big deal if one person does it on purpose? He's only going to make himslef look and feel stupid.

I was going to say the same thing. I think a lot of people try to coordinate their clothes if they know the wedding colors. I don't see it as a problem. Its not like they are in the family photos or anything.

I don't guess I understand why it matters what the guests wear.

It's a problem because I'd like the guests to be able to see the wedding party standing out in the crowd. The important people. If everyone is wearing red, the no one will know who's the wedding party and who's not.

@Mrs.Hubby My sis in law will probably try to do the same thing, since her husband and son are in the wedding and she's not..I don't particularly like her either. If she pulls something like that I will have some choice words for her. She would have freaked out if I would have wore her colors to her wedding.

@Michele S. We kinda thought there was something off about that too.

I dont really see the big deal with him wearing the same color as your colors. I mean I would be pissed if someone other than my flower girl showed up in white but other than that i dont see the big deal.

I can understand your frustration, but in the grand scheme of things, it's not too big a deal. I would just let it go. Who wants to be chasing people down for wearing the wrong color and kicking them out on your own wedding day? It's just not what's important. People will know who is in the wedding party and who's not. If you let little things like that get to you, you'll be grouchy and miserable the whole day. Try to focus only on the things that are truly important!

Whats hard is that Red is a more common color..If you chose turqoise or something like that, I can bet your wedding party would be the only one in that color

Yah, like for instance, my BM's are wearing black. I dont care what my guests wear! But my BM's will stand out because their dresses will be out of this world gorgeous!

I say don't worry about it, unless osmeone tries to show up in white or ivory. Couple of ways to think about it; No one will even notice if he is wearing red, and red is a hard color to match (like black) so don't worry! They'll all be looking at you and your hubby, and ther eis NO way to mistake the bridal party, they're the ones all matching and carrying flowers! Number two: Even is he did show up in red, that doesn't make your marriage invalid. The most important part of the day is that you marry your FH!

I think this isn't something that you should worry over. Who cares if her boyfriend is wearing red? He won't be standing up at the front of the church, so people will know he's not in the bridal party. Seriously, this is not something to fret over--just let it go! You have way more important things to worry over.

I think its fine. Other people might wear those colors just because. Your bridal party will stand out because they will be walking down the aisle, standing next to you, taking pictures, introduced, and at the head table. I do not think anyone (guests) will think twice about it. But if its a big deal to you, let them know. I just don't see why its an issue. Good luck anyhow!

I think that it will be fine.. I wore the same colors as my SIL & brothers wedding so that I wouldnt stick out in the family pictures since everyone in the family was in it except for me... and hes a guy so its way different than girls... besides I think that he should match his date but thats just my opinion... I bought a purple dress to wear to my FSIL wedding that thats her colors but Im considering getting another dress

I think it would be a compliment if guests were to wear the colors in your wedding. ive done that in the past as a guest to a wedding, and it was appreciated. what i don't understand is the comment about wanting the 'important people' to stand out. isn't everyone at your wedding suppose to be important to you? rest assure your wedding party will stand out on their own, thus the flowers and formal dresses. choose your battles wisely, this is not worth getting stressed over in my opinion. don't sweat the small stuff. i do wish you well and hope it all works out how you'd like!

Some couples are just like that. There is a couple at my church that wears the same colors every freakin sunday. I think it's country but to each his own. I personally don't see anything wrong with folks wearing the wedding colors per se. I mean there's only so many colors and what if a guest doesn't know it's your colors? In this instance it's not the case but it's possible. And seriously on your wedding day, I highly doubt your primary focus is going to be on what her boyfriend is wearing. Don't sweat the small stuff. And that's definitely small stuff.

Oh plenty of people asked what my wedding colors were and tried to coordinate!

It was fine because the real star of the show is the bride and groom and a few babies and toddlers as scene stealers.

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You kind of want every guest to feel a part of the celebration!

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Your wedding party will get enough show time with the aisle walk, formal and getting ready pics, speeches.....

In a way, some ppl want to honor or make the bride happy by wearing the her favorite colors. They just don't know etiquette really.

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What's really embarrassing to them? The close friends or sisters who are not part of the bridal party, wearing the same colors. It's like they know they are not part of the bridal party, but they are trying too hard!

WANNABES!!!

I think i might be slightly annoyed if ppl set out to specifically find out my wedding colors & to wear them to "blend in" ..i dont really see why as a guest you'd want to "blend in" w/the wedding party and the decor.. but that's just me. DH & I chose the ppl in our wedding party to stand w/us because they are the honored few who we feel close enough to want to share our entire day with, plus parents of course. Altho I agree with not wanting to have others looking as tho they are part of my wedding party, I don't think I would/could let it bug me enough to upset me like that. There are tons of other victories to win when it comes to how you want your big day to go, i would pick a different battle to get upset abt, but, again, that's just me. We're all different & who are we to tell a fellow WW bride how she shld feel about anything she might be dealing with? A wise person once told me that real friends shld never tell you how you should FEEL, they shld just listen w/their hearts.