Jennifer
Super June 2012

Guests asking for rides from the Airport from the BRIDE? ODD or Normal?

Jennifer, on April 13, 2012 at 6:00 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 21
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I just had a guest FB message me:

Friend: Are you going to be picking up/dropping off people from the airport

Me: only my mom and brother on Wednesday

on Thursday it's the rehearsal so we can't pick people up that day

then Friday is our wedding shower so we won't be picking people up either because we'll be down at the Spa getting setup

Friend: Ok, What about Sunday?

Me: Sunday is the Trash the Dress and We'll be entertaining my family in the evening. My family doesn't leave until Monday morning

Friend: Hmm. I might be able to do that

Me: my car will be pretty full with me, FH, mom, brother and his date luggage

Seriously? I would never ask the bride to chauffeur me to and from the airport. I thought he'd get the hint that wasn't on our agenda for our weekend..

Note: There are other friends we all know coming into town that will be driving past the airport. he can coordinate with them to catch a flight when they can drop him off

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Latest activity by Alyssa, on September 25, 2019 at 3:51 PM
  • Carrie
    Master December 2011
    Carrie ·
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    I think it's odd he even asked esp. since he is just a friend. But after that conversation he sounds pretty dense.

    I put multiple transportation options on our website to make it clear to guests we would not be driving them around ;p

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  • Rubylee
    VIP February 2012
    Rubylee ·
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    Aww, lol. I had 1 friend expect me to pick her up from the airport.. I think guests asking for rides from the airport is odd, especially if they aren't family - most people know that a lot goes on there are endless lists of things to take care of pre & post wedding day.

    [: oh guests, how funny they can be!

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  • Gee O. aka Happily Wifed Up
    Master June 2012
    Gee O. aka Happily Wifed Up ·
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    Odd!!

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  • Jennifer
    Super June 2012
    Jennifer ·
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    @Carrie W. I guess I need to list the taxi and shuttle options on the travel part of our website. I just assumed our guests are adults and can figure out transportation on their own once I told them the closest airport and how to get to hotel and venues.

    This friend is one of our dancer friends who we've known for quite some time. However, in the beginning we were the authority figures (teachers) in our friendship so we were always planning every deal of events for them, how to get to shows/ performances etc. And I did do a lot of the driving and all that... so maybe that's why he thought it was ok to ask me for a ride.

    Still, make me scratch my head and go: REALLY? You're not Kidding?

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  • Jennifer
    Super June 2012
    Jennifer ·
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    In retrospect I should have just said: No, we're only picking up my mom and brother. other than that we don't have the time or resources to pick-up and drop off folks

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  • Meghan
    Super July 2012
    Meghan ·
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    He sounds like a very dense guy... he might not be aware of who's coming into town for the wedding. I flew to a wedding in chicago a few years back and only asked the bride if she knew of someone else flying or driving that could help me with a ride.

    I wouldn't have even admited it was me doign airport for my brother. I would have said something like my cousin or aunt is taking my brother.

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  • Jessica
    Master September 2017
    Jessica ·
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    I did have one person contact me (I live 2 miles from the airport) BUT our wedding is 2 HOURS away from here. When I told her her best bet was to fly into a different airport and take a taxi/shuttle 30 minutes, she got the hint!

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  • Jennifer
    Super June 2012
    Jennifer ·
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    @Meghan... You're right... I shouldn't have even suggested that I was even going near an airport

    I just wasn't thinking he'd really expect me to be doing that service too!

    @Rubylee G... expect really? at least it only was one guest!

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  • Jessica
    Dedicated June 2012
    Jessica ·
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    I guess each bride is different. I wouldn't mind picking up my guests from the airport, I feel like that's the least I can do for them if they're travelling to support FH and I. Right now, the only person I plan on picking up is my cousin, who is also one of my BM. But if they're coming in before that Friday and needed a ride, I wouldn't think twice about going to get them. FH is also picking up his family/friends from the airport.

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  • Jennifer
    Super June 2012
    Jennifer ·
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    @Jessica, You're amazing! And you're right, it's an awesome thing to be able to do! I just didn't plan that into my schedule, especially since we didn't know when people would be flying in. I probably would pick them up if I could because I'm usually the airport-ride-giver... but like I told him... we really don't have the time because we won't be near the airport or will be with OOT family.

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  • Ab
    Master October 2011
    Ab ·
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    I think typically people know enough not to hound the bride for a ride..I was always under the impression that part of traveling to the wedding , even if you are flying is getting a ride from the airport..However none of my guests flew in, they all drove..If I had had a few people flying, I probably would have offered someone to pick them up, even if it wasn't myself..I also invited my OOT guests to the RD (again, I didn't have many OOTs that wouldn't have been invited to the RD anyways)...now if there were a ton of guests flying in, that's not as feasible.

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  • Jennifer
    Super June 2012
    Jennifer ·
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    @AbZ. you have a good idea. In case more people are asking for transportation otpions, I'll chat with FH and see if we can arrange someone to be on airport duty.

    The funny thing is this guest could get a ride with one of the other 30 people coming in from the city where he lives. They're already planning carpools and shared hotel rooms and they're used to the drive (they've all done it before as a group).

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
    2d Bride ·
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    I would suggest directly to him that he might check with one of the other 30 people--and let him know which 30 people are invited.

    We picked up one guest from the airport. However, we had worked out public transportation so that she could get from the airport to the accommodations on her own, if we were unable to get there. When we were able to get our marriage license early enough in the day so that we had time to stop at the airport on our way from the marriage license place to the accommodations, we just called and told her she wouldn't need to take public transit after all.

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  • Jennifer
    Super June 2012
    Jennifer ·
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    @2d Bride... Great ideas! And actually, after that part of the conversation I did mention that.. or the option that one of them could drop him off on the way back out of town.

    I actually made a special FB event to let everyone know from that group of friends (our old dance team) who was invited so they could coordinate. That's how I know they've already started setting up carpools and hotel rooms. Smiley smile I've seen the posts about it.

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  • HRH Mags
    Master March 2014
    HRH Mags ·
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    I guess I am in the minority here but I wouldn't have minded if a guest asked me for a ride. I actually would expect it from some of my friends. Taxi's are expensive! Then again my guest is around 60..if I had hundreds of people I could see how picking them all up could be tedious LOL.

    Id suggest carpooling for him. I plan to set up rides/carpooling with people flying in for ours but again, my guest list isn't too large Smiley smile

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  • Sherri
    Expert April 2012
    Sherri ·
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    I had a friend tell me that before she got married, she had to run around and pick up everyone. she ended up forgetting something like with her dress an accessory.

    i find it bit odd. i mean, if you are their only contact out there, then maybe ask if you can find a ride for them. but i wouldnt ask a bride to pick me up. thats just me though.

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  • Ester C
    VIP July 2012
    Ester C ·
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    So if he needs a ride to/from the airport is he also expecting you to drive him to the ceremony and reception and then back to the hotel?

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  • Juliette S
    Master February 2012
    Juliette S ·
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    Between my DH and I, we picked up a bunch of people from the airport (12 of out 64 guests)...it was fun...they were excited I was excited. We only dropped off 1 though Smiley smile It was a DW though and the airport was only ~10min away. Also, all the pick-ups were on Thursday...we didn't try to do any for people arriving on Friday (wedding was Saturday). One of them put their fb status as: VIP treatment -- the bride is picking us up at the airport...best wedding ever!

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  • Rebecca
    Expert May 2012
    Rebecca ·
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    My wedding is 1 1/2-2 hours away from where I live and the closest airport. I've had a few guests ask what they should do about getting to the town where the wedding is at. I've told them all the options without me, and then told them what my schedule is and if it works with theirs I can help them out. Basically I told them I can pick them up until Thursday and they can stay with us until Friday morning, and I'll be headed back to where we live Sunday afternoon and have an early flight for our honeymoon Monday morning. I figure if there are enough people willing to work with our times, we can just take both of our cars. FH will have his filled with all the wedding stuff and I can put people in mine.

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  • Madison
    Dedicated October 2019
    Madison ·
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    I'm so glad I'm not alone in this. My FH best man basically spent a week trying to get me on the phone so I could play travel agent for him (simply because I used to live in the state we are getting married in).

    I told him to use google and said the two airports within driving distance.

    He's now staying an extra night at the hotel (thursday night) same as us, because we are picking him up in our state and driving up with him (annoying but sure whatever).

    Then this man has the nerve to ask us to give him a ride to the airport the morning we are leaving for our honeymoon. I REFUSE. How are you so dense that you are paying for a whole extra hotel night, but can't afford a cab? And on top of that WE PAID FOR HIS SUIT.

    I'm furious. I should've told him to screw off from the beginning. The modern day wedding guest has ZERO clue how much work and money goes into this party, and they still feel entitled to more and more and more.

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