Guest attire: How much say does the couple get?

HOLY MOLY! Sounds like a text book Bridezilla.

You really have no say at all on how your guests dress. Of course putting "formal attire/ Sunday best/ Casual" will help guide guests in the right direction (hopefully), but to lay out actual dress codes is just absurd.

I also think it's nuts that she's telling you how to act as well. I can maybe possibly see, "If you're determined to be too drunk, you'll be asked to leave", but that's about it. Her rules seem pretty ridiculous. Sorry you're having to deal with this. Yikes!

Wear a nightgown. One of those old frumpy ones with long lacy sleeves. And house shoes. With no makeup and bedhair. Technically it wouldn't be breaking her rules and tbh she kinda deserves it with her draconian dress code. No speaking Spanish? The hell even is that rule?

Sorry, but who the heck does she think she is?!? I would wear whatever you want (as long you're not going intentionally over the top to piss her off). You and your sister are adults and she's not your mom. She is the woman who is marrying your Dad, who sounds like she's several McNuggets short of a Happy Meal.

No natural curls or speaking Spanish?!? She's basically saying she's embarrassed of your culture... how does your Dad feel about that? Screw her. Drink up, habla espanol and be you!

So she is a nightmare and I get it's your dad, but I wouldn't want to go to that wedding. Her demands are completely uncalled for. That's not a picky bride, that's a psychopath.

Reading this I would say the Bride To-Be is going a little over the top and has some crazy rules. But I am just wondering who is paying for this wedding - your father, your future step-Mother or the both of them?. And why isn't your father having a conversation with her in the presence of both you and your sister regarding these texts. The reason I am asking these questions because regardless of how "crazy" someone's request is, if they are paying for it, they can have all the crazy rules they want and either a person respects them or not show up. Weddings aren't cheap and between the ceremony location (even some churches have a nominal fee for their members) and the reception venue - the person footing the bill has all the rights. Also depending on the laws where the reception is being held, you never know, you may just piss her off enough that she calls the police to have you removed....the signature on the bottom line of that contract holds the power. This isn't something to take lightly, that's why I would have these conversation face to face with your father with her present so all persons can express how they feel.

With respect to the dress code - it needs to be clearly stated. My dress code is semi-formal and it's stated on the Save the Date cards and the invitations. And I have persons at the door of the reception venue to greet my guest and those not in the proper attire will not be allowed in. WHY? Because I stated the dress attire in the beginning and everyone had ample time. The price of their meal isn't free and more than likely those not in proper attire didn't purchase a gift anyway - no you're not welcome. That may seem harsh but when they pay for an event then they can have it their way but on my dime, my way or don't come. With respect to the covering of the tattoos, where is the wedding ceremony being held? Some churches are still very traditional and have a strict dress code, even for special occasions. Again, have a face to face and obtain a clear understanding and reason.