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Mrsbdg
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Guest attire: How much say does the couple get?

Mrsbdg, on September 6, 2019 at 3:37 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 204

Hey y’all! Well. My dad is getting married in December 🙄 As planning has gone on his FW has really pushed my sister and I around and I’m curious if my hatred towards her is tainting my judgement (okay, I’m bored at work too and her most recent text came through this morning and I’m still processing)...
Hey y’all!
Well. My dad is getting married in December 🙄 As planning has gone on his FW has really pushed my sister and I around and I’m curious if my hatred towards her is tainting my judgement (okay, I’m bored at work too and her most recent text came through this morning and I’m still processing)

The wedding doesn’t have a listed dress code but she’s been texting us lists of rules even though we haven’t asked her input at all.

Also we are not in the wedding party or in any way a part of the ceremony.

Her rules thus far:
Wear clothing that covers all tattoos (for me that’s : forearm, wrist, behind my ear, and upper shoulder) (for my sister that’s :upper back, ribs and wrist)
Shoulder, chest, back and stomach covered (no mesh)
No suits, pants or jumpsuits
I remove all piercing (nose, septum, rook, and tragus)
No black, grey, red, yellow, or green
No books or sneakers under my dress (and no stilettos for my sister)
Floor length or knee length dresses
Nothing tight or fitted
No natural curls, no heavy makeup, no red or dark lipstick, and no dark nail polish

Other rules are:

We aren’t to talk to her family without her or my father around.

We aren’t allowed to drink.

My sister, husband, and I aren’t to speak Spanish to one another around her family.

A few of these rules I already plan to break: I’m drinking and speaking to my husband any way I wish. I’m tempted to just buy whatever dress I want.

Also, yes, we’ve talked to Dad and sent him screenshots and he’s basically said she’s a picky bride and that we need to respect our FMIL.

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  • Jr
    Dedicated November 2020
    Jr ·
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    Lmao id say sorry dad too many rules I just dont wanna mess up your big day with my “natural curly hair” give me a break!! Id take a rain checkkk
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  • Deirdre
    Super March 2018
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    Yikes, I could never imagine doing this. I know it's your dad's wedding, and this might damage your relationship with him, but I wouldn't go. I don't care how picky a bride is, no one should be trying to dictate all of that to you. You're an adult, no one should be telling you how to dress to that extent, even at a wedding. No one should be able to you how you can speak to your husband. Oh, and I can understand her not wanting you or your sister to get fall down drunk at her wedding, but for crying out loud, I could never imagine anyone telling that. Good luck, and I'm sorry this woman is entering your family.

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  • Florida Marlins
    Expert October 2017
    Florida Marlins ·
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    I want an update!!!!

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  • L
    Savvy October 2019
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    What was the outcome??? So many of us would like to know what went down with the Monster-in-law! 🍿
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