Guest attire: How much say does the couple get?

I'm sorry but she sounds like a mental case. I think this is an issue for your father to deal with. I see he doesn't seem willing though.

Normally i'd say it's what the bride wants is what goes, but she's being crazy. I know me and i'd go and wear what I want

This is taking the term bridezilla to a whole new level. I would wear whatever you want and speak however you want to whoever you want. What's she going to do, kick you out?

I don't think I would go.... I am sure that is easy for me to say considering I don't have a relationship with my father... I would just kind of say, "I am afraid I am going to break a rule and I would rather not upset her on her wedding day or be stressed out that i'm not acting or looking appropriate enough for her".

This is crazy controlling. I would probably break every rule for fun. Also, no books under your dress?

OMG. That's to much. I think that some requests are appropriate since you are family, but she has gone overboard. Might as well wear a burqa.

She's being ridiculous. Break every one of those rules and sit in the front row.

UGH! Are you in the bridal party past being the groom's daughter? If not then she can take her list and pay for a dress she deems appropriate or she can let you dress yourself like an adult or any other guest at the wedding.

If I were in this situation I wouldn't go to the wedding. What is left after you apply all those restrictions??? A paper bag?

Is this woman insane? Even putting the outrageous attire rules aside, not allowed to talk to her family without her or your father around? What the heck is that? As long as you don't show up in your birthday suit or drop f bombs left and right, I don't see the problem

I would break every rule too! I think she meant boots but I would put books under my dress just to spite her.

Makes sense, but I like books under the dress better!

This is board line insane. I have never seen so many rules in my life. Honestly, you are a grown adult and can do whatever you want. I doubt you would do anything to purposefully disrespect your father, so I don't see why she feels the need to place so many rules on you and your sister. Wear what you want, talk to whoever you want however you want, and drink all the drinks !