Brittany
Beginner May 2020

Getting Married on Original Date?

Brittany, on April 21, 2020 at 7:27 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 8
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Hi and all my love to my other postponing brides! I was just wondering if anyone was still getting married on their original date, even though they are planning to have their normal wedding as planned later on. My FH and I want to get legally married on our original date (May 23rd) even though we have postponed the actual wedding to September. This much we know.

What we weren't sure about is what this would look like in May. A month from now there is a chance that at least our parents, siblings and officiant could gather, even with masks (so max 10 people total), but if not possible safely, then we could just do it all be zoom, which they have made possible now in NY. Either way - we weren't sure if we should invite other family/close friends to the zoom? Should anyone give a speech - maybe someone who wasn't going to speak at the main wedding? What should we wear? Or should we just fully elope and not tell anyone so that it doesn't take away from September at all?

Let me know if anyone is doing anything similar or has any advice! I know it's very minor in the scheme of things, but I think it might bring us some joy on a day that otherwise might be sad. On the other hand, if things can go on as planned in September, maybe I should just be patient?

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Latest activity by Brittany, on April 24, 2020 at 11:42 AM
  • Chantal
    Expert May 2021
    Chantal ·
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    Hi wedding date twin! We are doing the exact same thing! Original date was May 23rd, moved it to August and going to have our wedding officially on May 23rd. We're going to have a tiny ceremony at our original venue (it's his family's Christmas Tree Farm) and then have a little dinner after with our immediate family (parents and one sibling each). Low key but nice Smiley smile

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  • Brittany
    Beginner May 2020
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    Yay! Congrats wedding date twin! That sounds perfect, glad to hear you guys are on the same page! I was starting to worry about celebrating on both dates, but now it is really turning something that was sad into something happy while still being safe, so I figure why not! Agree - just need to find the tone for the ceremony to be low key but happy, and save the real party for later. Spread a little happiness in these times! Though I am jealous of the Christmas tree farm, that sounds amazingSmiley smile
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  • Kristi
    Beginner June 2021
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    We are still getting legally married on our original date, June 27th 2020. Our officiant agreed to do a backyard ceremony with our immediate family and possibly some of the bridal party (depending on restrictions) I’m going to buy a low budget white dress and save my original dress for the formal wedding and my fiancé will wear one of the suits he has in his closet. We plan to have someone there to take photos to share with love ones who can’t be there. Our formal wedding with all of our family/friends will be a year later on our first anniversary.


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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    Yes. That’s our plan B. We initially selected our date (10/10/20) simply because it was fun. But the date has grown to be very meaningful. So, if we have to postpone the wedding, we’ll still get married on our date and then host the celebration up to 6 months later.
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  • Melissa
    Savvy March 2021
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    Hi Brittany!

    Yes, we postponed our June 5th wedding date to 8/28/2020. We decided we want to legally get married on June 5th. Our venue (vineyard) is letting us get married there with our officiant performing the ceremony. We will also have our photographer there to take photos. It will just be us, and immediate family. We plan on announcing our Marriage to everyone on June 5th.

    Our 8/28/2020 wedding will be a ceremony and reception just as we planned in June. I'm excited because we will have 2 days to celebrate. At the end of the day, the important thing is I'll be married to my best friend.

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  • Brittany
    Beginner May 2020
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    Ahh thanks for all of you who answered!! My thoughts go out to you and your families. This is all so crazy, but trying to really count my blessings and keep things in perspective.

    All of this makes me feel better! I didn't know if I was being selfish/crazy asking people to give a little bit of excitement on that original date, but I think I was being paranoid. I feel good about the plan now Smiley smile Wishing you all luck and happiness!

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  • Amy
    WeddingWire Administrator August 2013
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    Hi Brittany,

    I'm glad you're feeling good about your plan! You have a great attitude about all of this uncertainty. I know it's a tough time for you as you reimagine your wedding, but putting your plan B in place is a huge step.

    If a family-only ceremony in May would help to ease your stress, I think you should go for it! (My sister had a family-only ceremony at her wedding, and it was lovely.) You'll be married as planned, and then you can focus on the September reception. If there are group size restrictions in September, then you'll cross that bridge when you get there.

    There are several ongoing discussions on the subject of having two events (ceremony now, reception later OR elopement now, full wedding later). Check these out:

    Covid-19: Marriage now, wedding later?

    Covid19 Brides still getting married on original date?

    Small ceremony now, big wedding later

    Etiquette in the time of coronavirus?

    I'm Eloping because of Covid-19.. can i still do all of the traditional events?

    The bottom line is that you should do exactly what feels right for YOU. Smiley heart

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  • Brittany
    Beginner May 2020
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    Thanks so much!! I hadn't seen the other threads, now I will check them out Smiley smile Keep up my unproductive week lol. Thank you for saying that as well - I think my fiance and I have a tendency to worry about everyone else, especially since we are asking them to spend money to travel (though domestically), hotel, etc. We don't want to feel like we are being greedy with two ceremonies. We are leaning toward making the May ceremony special but it's own way... more casual! I'll keep everyone posted where we come out (assuming I have something useful to share haha). Love hearing about all the different things are doing and glad people are finding ways to be happy and safe!!Smiley heart Smiley heart

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