Future MIL sent out e-mail Save the Dates to people not invited! How do I handle this?

Do not send her an invitation or let her get anywhere near one that she could copy; she does't get it at all why she can't have your wedding the way she wants it. If it were me, I'd have security at the door with the real guest list.

And I would go very low contact forever on someone with no respect for you, your decisions, and your boundaries. Actually, thinking of possible future children, I'd want to cut her off completely.

Wooooow. Mo, this sucks. I'm really sorry. If my FMIL did something like this I'd have some very choice words for her, it's not her wedding or her money to decide what to do with. I've heard that a lot actually, when I talk about the wedding budget with close relatives or why we are wanting to keep it small (50 guests), and people are like "well, your FH makes really good money why can't he cover the extra extended family/parents friends". Like, um, because we'd prefer to have the extra money to fix up our new house and go on a long honeymoon next year? It's no ones business and if they're not paying, I don't care what they say...

OMG. I'm so sorry. I feel like I'm going to deal with my FMIL doing stuff like this. Let her deal with it! Her mistake, her problem. Just make sure she handles it so they don't just show up!

Omg this shit is crazy. She totally needs to call all of these people and tell them it was her mistake. What on earth is she thinking.

I just saw your update. You handled it well. She is acting crazy!

I'm sorry this happened to you :'( ridiculously unnecessary stress. She better clean this up! Not you!

Omg I am so sorry you are going through this. My heart is racing just from reading about it!

FMIL has to call them and explain her faux pas. Not your issue. My Grandma invited people, thinking she could later talk me into adding them. Nope, she had to recant her invitation. Keep strong!

I'd put the ball in her court. She either has to go through the process of telling people it was HER mistake and "uninviting" them or she has to pay for them (if you wouldn't mind more, and it's just a matter of money). If you want to keep it small and it's not a matter of money then she only has one option.

Well you handled that very well. She sounds like an absolute nightmare.

WOW what a nightmare of a situation!! I would leave it to FMIL to deal with. Let her know that she can inform the ones who aren't invited. That's ridiculous. But just go about everything as planned and send out your STDs and invites, like others have said.... let her deal with it.

Oh I would be pissed. FH needs to have FMIL contact these people and let them know she jumped the gun.

I applaud the grace and testicular fortitude you showed in the situation!

Yikes, I agree and the mother should let those guests know they're not invited. Not you.

Good for you, you handled that beautifully. I would be at loss, this seems like a nightmare. Good luck and bless you for being so calm and gracious, I would of flipped my shit.

@Nonna, testicular fortitude, bwahahaha I spit a little coffee on that one.

Omg. So sorry that you had to deal with this, this is one of the reasons why my FH and I decided to elope in Punta Cana because I had a feeling something like this would happen to us too. Lol but the message that you sent to everyone who she invited was perfect and they should not be upset about it!

Don't even feel bad about it, it's you and your FH day and your MIL should be respecting that!!!!

Make sure she fixes the problem so you don't have a bunch of people pay for travel, etc. and show up at your venue.

I can't believe she refused to contact the people she emailed.... wow. Great job with the email though. And please stand by your decision to cut her out until the very end- good luck!

You handled it very well. She sounds like an absolute nightmare. I would keep her in the dark about EVERYTHING wedding related from here on out. Just let her know where she has to be and when, nothing more.

Fuuuuuck!!!

Not your car crash to deal with, but damn! Sorry this has even happened. Let her sort it out.

OMG!!!!! I am literally having anxiety for you. I would be so livid. You handle it with grace. FMIL needs to contact those people and apologize.