Future MIL sent out e-mail Save the Dates to people not invited! How do I handle this?

You didn't send them, I wouldn't address the issue. FMIL gets all the fun

I think FMIL needs to handle her oops...

Yikes!! I think that your FH needs to sit down with his mom and explain to her that unless she plans on paying for the extra guests she needs to let them know they are not invited. If you don't have the funds to pay for it then you don't have it. I would have been livid if someone had done that when we were planning our wedding.

The title alone made me shit my pants

You're right, FH needs to have a very frank conversation with his mother. But it is not up to you to let these people know they aren't invited, that is her responsibility. She looks like the jerk here, not you!

Have FH talk to FMIL. She needs to be the one to contact these people and explain the mistake.

Holy crap! that is a nightmare.

Did she know the guest list or just assume all were invited? Yikes, she is going to have fun fixing this.

I would take away her computer access for the remainder of the wedding planning.

I'm sorry what a pain! Definitely on her to correct her error or pay for all these guests she invited.

Yup. her mess, she cleans it up.

Wow- this is crazy and Im very sorry this is happening. You need to have your FH address this ASAP with your FMIL bc this type of "stepping in" and "stepping of toes" is likely to negatively affect your relationship/marriage. In fact, many marriages that result in divorce indicate that FMIL/family involvement is at least in part the reason for the incompatibility (especially if he is close to his mother).

Either way, in the now moment this does need to be addressed by someone, either your FMIL, FH, or you bc you don't want these ppl. showing up to your venue, and you are unable to accommodate them. Do not throw this under the rug. These ppl. are not at fault for receiving the e-vite. Rightfully so they deserve to at a minimum receive notification that due to funds/etc they cannot be accommodated at the wedding and to please ignore the e-vite. Obviously, word this carefully and nicely. But you cannot just ignore it. Unfortunately, there is no happy ending here. If you could, I would say accommodate them, but you said you can't (and that's fine).

Sad to say, she was very aware of the limited guest list. I feel like, she felt if she did this, we would have to invite them. I think it was a passive aggressive move to get her family invited. It is not possible with the budget or the venue. The venue itself only holds up to 80 people for a reception. It is very small and quaint. What we wanted. Our list of 72 including bridal party was perfect for the venue. She is not able to contribute, but has stated many times that we HAVE to invite so and so and we have told her there just isn't room. I am sick to my stomach over this issue. Embarrassed and just so upset.

@Marlene , is absolutely correct about FMIL's, the stepping in needs to be addressed because if she "gets away" with it now , it will likely continue. Been there, IT's not fun!

Not your circus, not your monkeys

OMG this is insane- i would be livid. Stay out of it and i would have FMIL contact every single person and have her explain her crappy decision to send out STDs on her own especially since she isn't even contributing to the wedding!

I cannot wait to hear what FMIL says....

This is not your fault. My concern is that she'll refuse to contact them and people will just show up.

I'm so sorry for you! That sucks! Your FMIL has some explaining to do....

I just don't understand people sometimes... sorry to hear your FMIL did that.

Hearing stories like this does make me appreciate my future in-laws though

I just wish I was there to sell popcorn and rent chairs to ticket holders lucky enough to watch the shit show she created. Hopefully, life lesson learned

What a nightmare. You are correct your FH gets to deal with his mother. I wouldn't worry about what she did. It's not on you. Send out your invites to who you want. Let your FMIL deal with overstepping her ground.

Ugh!!! I'm so sorry you are dealing with this! I would be upset too. Like others said, let her deal with the mess she made.