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Super March 2011

Future brides that are not pregnant, how long will you wait after?

LC, on November 4, 2010 at 1:28 PM

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FH and I will be 32 by the time we get married. We want to wait at least a year to get pregnant. How high is the risk for us and the baby? I know I want to have the first one before 35 so I don't feel old at all. Neither of us have babies, never been married before so we want to enjoy each other for...

FH and I will be 32 by the time we get married. We want to wait at least a year to get pregnant. How high is the risk for us and the baby? I know I want to have the first one before 35 so I don't feel old at all. Neither of us have babies, never been married before so we want to enjoy each other for at least a year. How long did you wait or how long are you going to wait to get pregnant after the wedding?

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  • Mrs. Speer
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    Mrs. Speer ·
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    We have plans to wait for at least a year after. FS will be almost 26 when we get married and I'll be almost 25.

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  • MrsD2011
    Master October 2011
    MrsD2011 ·
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    We'll both be 27 when we get married, so we will wait about 2.5 to 3 years ... I'm not entirely worried about being in my 30s when I have kids, my mom had kids in her 30s and they turned out just fine no special needs or anything ... everyone tells me oh you are going to have so many complications because you're going to be so old and I'm like nope I don't think so ... I even have a couple of cousins who are in their 40s and they are having kids and they are fine too ... Right now we have so much stuff on our plate that I freak out every month if my period does not come on the day it is supposed too ... we cannot add a baby to everything we have going on right now ...

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  • StephJean
    Devoted February 2011
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    Ill be 25 and hell be 28.... i want to have kids soon and so does FH. but our house is too small now for a family so probably will wait until we get situated in a bigger home in hopefully 1-2 years! yay for babies =)

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  • N
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    Nan-sayy ·
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    We're both 27 and I know the older I get the more difficulties we might have so eventhough I always wanted to wait to have children around 31 32 we're thinking of trying before 30 but we still have alot to do before children not sure we will see what happens

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  • Elizabeth
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    Elizabeth ·
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    My fh and I will both be 30 when we marry. We want to wait two to three years before getting pregnant. I do worry about the risks associated with getting pregnant as I get older but they say up to 34-35 is safe so we figure we have awhile. We only want one kid anyway so I figure it should work out. We want to enjoy being together and also be in a better financial situation as I am about to graduate next year.

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  • Lauren
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    Lauren ·
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    We'll be 21 and 23 when we get married. I think maybe 3 years, when I'm 24 at the earliest. But we shall see =) I really like kids, I want to adopt some day too, as well as have my own.

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  • Nicole
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    I'm 25 and FH is 27. We each have our number one all time wish-list places we'd like to visit before trying kids. We're going to keep saving like we have for the wedding, and hopefully maybe a year and a half after that, we'll do my dream vacation (Italy!) and then I'm hoping for his 30th, we'll be able to do his - Japan. We're aiming for after we get our dream vacations to start trying, but if it happens before, it happens. I'm starting to get baby fever, so we'll see if we actually stick to our plans!

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  • R
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    Rane ·
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    Hey, there are date triplets!!! Shannon, me, and Furture Mrs ... Cool! Anywho, we are looking at 2 years after the wedding... at the very least. We have a bucket list that we want to do... like go to Italy... Disney World... before we have kiddos.

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  • Faith
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    No kids for us! Ever!

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  • Stacie
    Just Said Yes May 2011
    Stacie ·
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    I am 23 and he is 25, we are getting married in 6 months. We have a long road ahead of us, I am starting medical school next year and he, a phd program for pyschology. After all said in done I will be around 31 or 32 when I'm a practicing physician, but I want to wait until I'm closer to 35 to start. If I were not committing to medical school we would start earlier though.

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  • Jaime
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    I'll be 20 and FH will be 23 so we've got plenty of time. even though i want a baby as soon as possible, we've got a lot to sort out first. I'll be graduating shortly after the wedding so i want to make sure i have a stable job and good medical. we're looking at moving about half an hour away from where we are now and the house is going to be a project that needs quite a bit of work. that has to be finished before we even start thinking about seriously TTC. FH has a good job and won't have to go anywhere with that thankfully. I'd also like to get a little bit of money saved up first, just in case. I know that we're both young still, but i want three kids and that takes a lot of time. I don't want them to all be in diapers at the same time so we're going to space them out a bit. with all of that together it'll probably be at least two years. I cant imagine it being any sooner, though i really would like to try just a year after we're married. i love kids and i want to start a family!

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  • Sarah
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    Sarah ·
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    When FH and I are married, we'll be 22 and 23. We're thinking of waiting a few years, have some of 'us' time and vacation, etc, get a house set up. I also want to wait until he gets through with all his schooling and has a career. Thankfully I'm all done with that, just waiting on him. I've always been the type to be UBER excited and I just cant WAIT to have kids, but I'm also pretty excited to have time for the two of us to do things before kids.

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  • lisa
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    FS and I just talked about this today. When we get married I will be 22 and FS will be 24. We were looking to have kids when I am bout 24-26 somethere in that age range would be good, so he would be 26-28. We want to make sure that we have "us" time first.

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  • Mrs. Phillips
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    I want two kids and FH wants 4, so i figured two more wouldn't hurt. i also want to have all my kids before i'm 30, so then when they are grown we can still have fun. i love kids and my mom just had a new baby at 42 so we get to have our time wit a baby right now. we really like to travel so we still would love to go more places before we had kids

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  • STB Mrs. Potts
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    We are going to wait until I am graduated from college, and have worked for about a year. I have about 5 years left of school, so in 6 years i will get off the BC and we will TTC. I will be 26. He will be 28.

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  • ceaiaa
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    since we both will be done with school next year, which is also around the time of our wedding, we are planing on trying right after the wedding. we cant wait to become parents, especially since i have five nephews, its time for my own( just one for now, we both agreed on that)

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  • ceaiaa
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    ill be 25 and he will be 27 when we get married next year

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  • ceaiaa
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    Me and my fh will be done with school around the same time next year we are getting married, i will just have turned 25 and he is turning 27 a few months after our weddin. we are going to try right after the wedding. we both agreed one is good for us, and wait a few years after, to settle in.

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  • Danielle
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    Danielle ·
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    I already have children, so I can't contribute much to this, but keep in mind that just because you start *trying* doesn't mean you'll get pregnant. Some of the very young girls now are trying and have not gotten pregnant yet after several months, and the older you get, the longer it often takes. But, you also might do it once and wham bam it's baby time!! Everyone is different, but keep in mind that it might take a year or two to get pregnant- so trying at 33 does not mean you'll have a baby before 35, and you may still be exposed to those risks. Though also remember, not everyone who has a child after 35 has problems, and plenty of women who have kids younger than 35 do. I don't mean to say that if you are 35 you'll have issues...I hope you followed what I meant without me sounding offensive, that was not my goal.

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  • Mrs. Smith
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    We are going to be 38 & 44 when we get married. I cannot contribute much to this, since we have decided not to have kids. But I feel it is important to enjoy your life together first before settling down and raising a family.

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