For those who didn't invite parents

I didn't invite my bio dad and I have no regrets. He stopped playing an active role in our lives because he had his step kids. My grandmother asked me to invite him and I said no. He was upset and told my grandmother how upset he was but I still said no. You haven't been supportive or interested in me for quite some time prior to our wedding. I was not giving him space and opportunity to show boat and act like he had anything more to do with my upbringing other than half my DNA.

There was another bride on here that didn't invite one of her parents and she had lots of last minute cancellations due to her decision.

My parents are invited, BUT we purposely chose to get married far enough that my mom wouldn't bother to try to come, because I don't know want her there, but didn't want to hurt my dad's feelings.

It feels like a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. We're planning on a Disney wedding, and I MIGHT add the web broadcast option to the package so sad can watch, but I'm so happy she won't be there, it's worth it for my sanity and nerves.

DH didn't invite his dad. I'm not even sure he knows we got married.

Neither W nor I invited our mothers. We wound up being unable to invite one relative on W's mom's side we would otherwise have loved to have, because we couldn't reasonably expect said relative not to spill the beans to W's mom, but W's dad's side had no issues with coming whether W's mom was invited or not. (W's dad did ask a couple times if she would consider inviting her mom, but she and his wife shut that down pretty quickly, so it wasn't too much trouble.) As far as I know, W doesn't regret it for a second, and it made our wedding much less stressful and more enjoyable.

I didn't want any of my family there to begin with, so I don't know how it would have affected the rest of their decisions to attend or not. I spent a lot of time being anxious over it during the planning process -- I couldn't shake the feeling that if my family found out I was getting married and they weren't invited I'd be in big trouble (yes, even though I'm an independent adult and we haven't spoken in years, hi there anxiety-brain) -- but I never regretted it.

Yeah I know after the crap that was pulled with our furbaby yesterday, his aunt isn't invited. His mom... Well it's his mom but she's on thin ice with him. I just don't want him to regret it

We're not inviting FH's dad. I'm not sure he knows we're engaged.

We're not inviting my FMIL. I don't know if she remembers we're engaged.

We didn't invite either of my parents. Honestly it's one of the best decisions I made. We had a lot of my family not come because of it, but it just ended up showing me who actually respects and supports myself and DH.

I'm the one who had a ton of last minute cancellations. We had over 30 from my mom's side of the family no show because she wasn't invited. They said that I needed to invite her because she's my mother, but funnily enough no one have a fuck about my dad not being invited. Even though we spent a lot of extra money for people to boycott the wedding it was well worth it to see who really cared in the end.

Not inviting anyone from my mothers side except my Gram and one cousin. Zero fucks given. I was almost tempted to invite her so she could see how well I'm doing without her toxicity in my life but I'd be too stressed out over how she'd ruin the day. We'll see if anyone has a problem with it, but I seriously doubt anyone will miss her, or any of them.

That'll be us @riddell2be. Only inviting his brothers, one aunt, and nana. Lol!

We invited everyone, but it sounds like my mom won't be there... because my dad and his wife will be at the wedding. My parents have been divorced for 17 years... sadly, nothing in their relationship has changed. I'm actually relieved mom won't be there. She has borderline personality disorder and makes everything single thing about her. If she were to attend the ceremony, I know that she would cause some huge ridiculous scene (let's just say she has a track record...).

My dad is not invited. But I haven't spoken to him in over ten years. No one would expect me to invite him. None of his family is invited because I ceased to exist when he & my mom got divorced (when I was in my 20s).

My sister didn't invite our mom to her wedding. She left us when I was nine, and my dad was a single dad. A lot of family on my moms side didn't come because they found out she wasn't invited. Also my mom had the nerve to show up anyway. My sister cried. It was awful. I don't want my mom to come but I'm inviting her anyway to spare some feelings. Secretly hoping she doesn't come.

We're not inviting my mother, my father, or FH's bio mom. All three are abusive, nasty little rodents that I've not spoken to in years.

ETA: Nobody at all from my father's side and FH's bio mom's side are invited. They're just not worth the drama and suffering they bring with them. We don't think about it much....we're just happy celebrating our wedding with those who actually have loving relationships with us!

FMIL is getting remarried next month. FH doesn't want his soon to be step-sisters at the wedding. Both of them are under 13, and will be by our wedding, and we agreed on no kids.

Explained this to both FMIL and her fiancé, and while he understood even though he thought it was "untraditional in the South", we got eyerolls from his mom. We'd also already assumed it was a moot point, because their mom has primary custody, and they'll probably be in school by our wedding. If FMIL protests, we'll miss her, but we can also party on without her.

ETA: FH has no relationship whatsoever with these girls, and had explained that he doesn't want one. The divorce was kind of nasty, so everyone was a little shocked that she's moving on so soon and basically starting another family....

I didn't invite mine. But I had cut off all contact with my mother 15 years before. And I knew that my father would not come without my mother. It wasn't like it was a shock to anyone at the time of the wedding.

Is it awful that this thread made me feel better? Just when you think you're the only one with a screwed up family life, you find out you're not alone. If nothing else it reassures me not to feel guilty that I refuse to respect someone or have a relationship with them just because we share dna.

I'm inviting my mother but I know she isn't showing because I'm not going to pay for her to come. I am doing the same for my sister. I paid for her to come to my last and be a bridesmaid and she ended up going home early leaving me to find a bridesmaid and flower girl with a month to go

My FH and I both are not inviting our fathers. He hasn't spoken to his Dad since he was young and has no idea where he is.

My dad on the other hand, is just an asshole. I haven't had a relationship with him for quite some time, this started after my parents divorced. One of my co-workers said I should consider inviting him. I understand where she was coming from since she is a parent. However, on my wedding day I want to be able to say that everyone that attended my wedding were people that I love and care about and have no ill feelings toward. My Mom passed away 3 years ago (we were very very close). He was trying to make the funeral all about him and telling us when we should have a service. I just rather not have that kind of energy at my wedding or being aggravated more than i already will that day.

I think it is up to the bride and groom on what they feel comfortable with. I know with all my heart I will NOT regret inviting him to the wedding. I will just wish my Mom was able to be there.