For Those of You Paying for your own wedding.....

I expected we would pay 50/50, but once we live together i would like us to set it up according to what each of us make. its not really that way for rent, its 50/50, but i dont make him pay for half the utilities and i buy alot more groceries because i buy all the cleaning supplies. i also pay for anything house repair related, simply because its my house.

We don't live together so to make it logistically easier we created an account together that we both contributed equally to. This account we use for our wedding expense. Even though he makes more, we have decided that for now, we are putting in equal amount. For me it's all fair since he used his own money --outside of this account-- to purchase my engagement ring.

I make more than hubby currently. Our initial agreement was for him to pay for the reception and I'd cover everything else. The reason I suggested that was b/c he was the one insisting on inviting a gang of people so I said if you want them to come you feed them. As it turned out, my dad paid for basically the whole wedding - reception included so we ended up paying for very little on our own. We paid the deposit for the venue, I bought my gown and we paid for our rings & the honeymoon. Everything else dad subsequently paid for.

Fh is paying for most of our wedding the things he wanted me to take care of was my dress,the cake,the photographer,and the intertainment

As always, i must apologize if i repeat the same thing as anyone else, but i get a little tired reading at night a few posts in...

anywho...FS and I dont live together yet either. though we are looking at a house right now, which he'll be buying on his own cause my credit is kind of crap at the moment, darn retail jobs didnt help me at all! I just got a full-time job, but FS still makes a considerable amount more than I do and has $$ saved up. so, he's made all the big payments so far, and im pretty sure thats how itll stay. though i promised to myself that im paying for all decorations, invites, and all that type of stuff. i dont think he minds really, i get kinda weird about it sometimes. i keep track of all the wedding papers, contracts, and expenses. and i hate to remind him of payments cause it reminds me of how little ive contributed so far. but, ill be going to grad school next year, and when i get out, ill be the money maker. i tell that to myself sometimes...cont...

And i feel a little better. i just want to feel like im pulling my own weight

Well FH is pretty much paying for everything. I'm just going to be paying for my dress and accessories. He does make alot more than me though.

He paid for 50% of everything. I ended up only paying about 10% of all expenses. The other 40% came from both our parents and monetary gifts.

He also made three times my salary. I had higher expenses too- my school tuition.

If the situation was reversed, I would not mind paying for the whole wedding (of course, he would pay for my ring though)---BUT I'm more naturally frugal. So I would insist on a simple wedding with a small guest list. He wanted to invited a lot of people to begin with!

Here's another thread:

I just realized that I probably put in more like 20%.

But well, in the end, everything will be "our money"

and who knows, one person might make more money, but then the other person totally takes care of the house/kids/errands and is the emotional support, physical support, keeps the other in clean clothes and fed etc....It will even out in the end.

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Um...WE are paying for OUR own wedding. There is no 50/50 or playing the fairness game. We already have joint accounts and what's mine is his and what's his is mine. Financially, we function as a single unit, which is why we've never had any disagreements about money. If he's going to spend a lot, he talks to me about it first, and vice versa, just to make sure it's there to spend. Seems to work great for us.

I am paying for everything. I make more than FS, but have more bills. He makes less and less bills, but I am still trying to pay for everything myself. He is saving money to use for our apartment when we start living together which I won't be able to do after paying for the wedding. So I feel like that counts as his contribution. I also won't let him pay for anything because I won't tell him any of the wedding details. I am planning everything for him as a surprise so if I told him he had to pay for stuff, he would want to know why.

We've been sharing finances for a few years now and try not to say my money or your money but it happens once in a while he pays for rent and alot of other bills I don't pay for so of course I am going to pay for the majority I want to say 80-90% of it because he already pays for the bills so Im the extra money. Its not something I think about because once you get married the money should become ours not yours and mine and money is always going to be a very important part of your lives so make sure you are comfortable with your choices and understand each others responsibilities with money in the relationship If you make more I think its completely okay to pay for more of it as long as you feel comfortable with it.

We too have a joint account but the bulk of the money came from my tax return last year. Regardless it's our money.

We both are paying for our wedding. FH will most likely be paying for more. He paid for the wedding venue/reception, photog, DJ. I paid for all other items. We have a joint account that has been in place for over a year and we both contribute when we can and use that the pay for wedding related expenses. When its all said and done it was paid with our money!

My DH and I ar paying for the wedding 99.9% ourselves, my mom & her wife put the down payment on the venue which was $1,500 but they will be getting that back as soon as we can give it to them. My situation: DH and I live together and pay bills jointly most of the time. There are still bills that *I* pay myself, like my huge visa bill and he has a prepaid visa and a small mastercard that he pays himself..our joint stuff being: rent, electric bill, cable bill, cell phones, etc... we pretty much pay those together. Just recently (and i'm not sure why we didnt do this sooner!!!) we now have 80% of our paychecks going into our joint account..and a bulk of that $ goes to the wedding and sometimes if we have an expense.. like my $700 car problem..we make exceptions. I used $300 from our joint and put the rest on a CC. So.. we are paying for the wedding jointly for the most part..but because we both put $ in and its diff amt almost every pay period, its hard to say how much we each contribute

Well as for us I used my tax return 4000 and got 2000 from him to kinda pay back 1/2 then 1000 from my parents.. but he is living in Germany and also paying for everything here for my daughter and I in the states except food n gas. I make in one day working what he makes in 2 hrs... but we are pretty much going 1/2 n 1/2 I guess but with him paying for everything household wise I guess not.. hope that makes sense..

We are both paying for the wedding - but as I am the one who wanted a church wedding & he wanted a small destination wedding - I am paying for the majority of it myself. I have no idea as to the percentage - I would say 20% or so - but I'm a little short right now and I'm sure that he'll kick in the remainder with no real complaints.

We are paying for most of it, his parents are contributing 5g's but my parents pretty much live iin a shoebox. So since his parents are helping out, I try to help out with everything i possibly can. We already have a joint account so we add a thousand into our savings once a month.

FH and I already live together, though we haven't combined our finances in the traditional sense - we don't have a joint account yet. We haven't formally split wedding costs down the middle, though. When it all washes out, we probably will each have contributed close to the same amount, but we're not micromanaging what expenses belongs to whom.

FH has actually paid out more money then I have but we also think of it as our money opposed to his or mine. Your wedding is still a year a way so his financial situation can always change.