For Those of You Paying for your own wedding.....

My FS and I are paying for our wedding, he makes more than me and has about 1/2 of our wedding budget in savings already, but it's really not an issue, because we both see each others money as our money, in a few months we will share an account so we wont be able to tell the difference, so it's pretty much whoever has the funds pays. Either way, if he pays more from his savings, that means I still have money in my savings, so we still have savings, and it's all good!

I have been reading the posts and have read MY wedding. That makes it harder to think of the money to pay for the wedding as our money. First you should remember that it is OUR wedding. I really like the idea of a separate wedding accounts for people who do not live together, but for people who do the money should already be considered our, or you should be working towards these sort of ideals. This is part of living together, the working out of money and other matters. (like housework)

We do live together so that probably makes it easier. We've started a seperate savings account that we both put money into each month. He has been putting in less than me, but in a couple months he'll have a big loan paid off and he'll be able to put in almost as much as I do. We use that account for all wedding stuff and ONLY wedding stuff. Can't wait for tax returns!! I would only be mad if he wasn't contributing more because he was spening his paycheck unwisely.

When we decided to get married and started planning we had no money saved. After doing some research and encountering the real price of a NYC wedding we both decided to have money automatically deducted from our pay checks (each pay period) into a 'wedding account'. Now mind you it's pennies but we needed to start some where. Whenever I get any 'extra', or the 2x a year I get paid 3x in a month, that money goes to to the wedding. Sha does the same.

Sha actually makes the most between the two of us, but her bills are also higer. Plus her daughter is still school aged and with that more money is needed. My son doesn't work but I no longer have to give him money for school or buy him clothes. In December I had to start paying my student loan back and that became even less money for the wedding.

All in all, we are a couple and no matter what we consider this as a joint effort no matter who ends up adding more wedding money. In the end we both have given equally to our relationship.

Fh and i are paying for about 90% of it ourselves. we have had a joint savings account for a while, plus i have my own seperate savings, and weve just been putting in as much as we can. were not worrying about whos putting in more. were already thinking of it as 'my moneys your money' lol.

For big purchases - our wedding being one of those, we actually split it as a % of our income, rather than a % of the cost of the thing we are buying. It takes a little bit more calculation up front, but we find that it stops us from having any resentment.

In my FS's and I's case, its actually a % (income - student loan), as he has to get his paid off and mine is already done, and I'd rather he keeps making the payments so we have more in the future.

We live together and split the rent and he takes care of one utility and I take care of the other 3, although we are getting ready to move and that will eliminate one utility. I also contribute more than 3x his amount a month to our wedding fund. Since we're moving and it's cheaper, I expect that to jump up to 5x his amount but I know he will bump up his amount so maybe it will still be 3x. It doesn't really bother me per se, but there are times when I really want to go shopping for myself and I can't because I have very little left over after bills and savings. :p Actually, what makes me more worried is that we both want me to stay home someday after we have a family, but there is no way I want to do that on his current salary. Even if I work part time from home (which is the idea), it's still a huge loss unless he gets some huge pay raise which doesn't seem to be the case.

I am paying for all of the wedding, he doesn't make that much right now being out of work and I have more income.

I actually have enough money for the wedding already set aside. FH is keeping an eye on our WW Budget and as I spend, he's contributing. In then end, we'll be pretty close to 50/50.

We are paying for it ourselves. But we live together and share almost all other expenses. I don't work but have other income that can and does pay for more wedding stuff than my FH has so far. It doesn't bother me. The money we are spending is extra to what our household needs. The kids come first, house second, us third, wedding forth. If it means I need to shove back my date yet again I will.

I haven't really thought about how to divvy up the expenses. He just says he's paying for "x" while I'm off spending spending spending and buying whatever needs to be bought. He actually told me to tell him when I need him to make a purchase because I keep forgetting that he has money too. We're both financially capable so I haven't really thought it out and created any type of budget.

My FH said he'd pay for it all, but I know he'll be stressed out once we start paying out the funds. Since we recently bought our house the amount of cash on hand dipped WAY down, and I'm still buying furniture. I plan on paying for whatever I can (the coordinator will be on me, cause I just don't want to do any of the planning) and my parents want to chip in wherever we let them.

I'm not, but I think that to be fair, you should look at your remaining money AFTER necessities such as rent. Let's say you have 600 left and he has 400. Total, you have 1000. Since you have 60% of the money, you should pay 60% of the wedding. That's how FH and I work out living expenses, and it seems like the most fair way.

So far I've contributed more, but for the last year I've been employeed full time and FS was still in school and barely working at all. Now I've incurred more expenses (car died, had to purchase a new one, etc) and FS is working in the field that his degree is in making almost 3x as much as I am. Now he is contributing more so than I am. In the end it will probably come out about 50/50 and we pretty much have the outlook that our finances are combined even though they technically aren't right now.

I'm actually paying for the entire wedding since all of his money goes towards his treatment and child support. The only thing he has paid for is my ring. It doesn't bother me, I make more then he does and he's got to take care of his daughter and health so I handle everything bills, mortgage, wedding etc...untill he's able.

We're splitting things 50/50. Right now we make about the same because he hasn't been working much overtime since he met me.

We live together so our finances are together so Im not really sure... and it doesnt really matter since if its not "our" money now soon it will be "ours" My family is contributing alot though and its kinda irritating because his family is not ... his dad makes way more than my parents combined and his mom and step dad spend all their money on going out to eat, golf, shopping...etc... I dont expect them to pay for anything but I will be a little mad if they dont at least offer to cover the rehersal dinner

Yeeeeah, for u it's more like a 70/30 kind of thing, because he has the better paying job, but that's it.

Yeeeeah, for u it's more like a 70/30 kind of thing, because he has the better paying job, but that's it.

We are paying for the entire wedding ourselves. My FS and I already live together and own a home. We split the mortgage and all utilities in half. I make over double what he does, but I don't use double electricity or water so I think even split is fair. We each pay our seperate bills (car, phones, student loans, etc). So far I have paid for all the wedding deposits and will end up paying for the bulk of the wedding. We discussed it and he is going to pay for the entire honeymoon. Right now he lives in our home in NC and I am in PA(since Dec.) until he finds a job here and can move here with me. Since I am not there he pays for all of the utilities in the house but I still pay half the mortgage and all of my temp apartment bills. Geez! Hope he gets a gig up here soon.

@Julybride-I have a hard time with "our" money as well and I think it's because it is mostly mine. Might be easier if it was mostly his I do want to combine our accounts after the wedding though.