First looks who is doing them We are not

View Quoted Comment Hi kendra there is no right or wrong answer but as you said what is right for you both ty for your comment come back and let us know what you decided

View Quoted Comment Yes is beautiful too and if he does mind then do what will make your day special ty so much for sharing your story and comments with us

When I was a kid, I dreamed of walking down the aisle to see the look of surprise on my future husband's face as he got to see me for the first time.

It was a nonnegotiable for me for a long time, even until 3 months before my wedding (now). However, since we're doing an evening wedding, it just makes more sense. I like the idea of my fiance bawling during the wedding processional, but I know he's already going to. Having a first look is more about being able to take pictures before the wedding so we have more time to spend with our guests, the people who raised us and changed us and frankly, people we are paying for to be there.

An alternative (which is what we're also doing!) is to get coffee the day of, before you both get ready. This is to ground each other, to pray or exchange vows in a much more intimate and authentic atmosphere. My family has been doing this tradition for years and I love it!

All in all, do what you want to. Don't let family members or someone on the internet make you feel bad for what is your wedding. Ask your fiance and decide together.

View Quoted Comment Hi Elsj that is so true but is so heart felt in what you just say. And that's all it is some will don't it and some will not thank you for sharing your story and comments with us

We went back and forth on it, but when my fiance said he wouldn't be "as excited" to see me walk down the aisle if he sees me for a first look the whole idea went out the window for me. I do, however, love the idea of being able to get pics beforehand and spend cocktail hour mingling with friends and family. I def see the benefits of doing it both ways.

View Quoted Comment Hi Ternia I feel the same except for first looks we are keeping it traditional here and there with some twist in it. Thank you for sharing your story and comments with us

View Quoted Comment Some wants to see their FH faces that surprise moments but its also the grooms as well say no ti first looks

No first look for us. We'll still be doing photos before the ceremony just separately. It's not really about tradition for us I just want the first time we see each other that day be when I'm walking down the aisle towards him (I feel it will be when the day is the calmest). We aren't hiring a wedding planner since I have such a big family with planning in their blood so I know between getting ready, coordinating with photographers and videographers, etc it's going to be crazy beforehand. Also the biggest plus I'm really looking forward to time with my girls before the ceremony.

I see the benefits to both sides. I love the idea of wowing him as I walk down the aisle and he sees me for the first time, but I also love the idea of getting some private time together before the ceremony and getting those amazing photos of just the two of us. I'm afraid I won't get the amazing photos I want without a first look, but I (and my fiance) would really love to see each other first as I walk down the aisle. Any advice?

View Quoted Comment I wanted him to be “wowed” as well and had that moment captured but I knew I would be so nervous that day. I was more at ease after I saw him for first looks. And I’m glad we did it that way because we would’ve lost so much daylight if we waited to take pictures after the ceremony.
Our wedding was in the winter at a hotel so to take pictures with parents at sunset in the cold wasn’t ideal. That’s two of the main reasons why I decided to do it.

We are going to do the photograph of him on one side of a door and me on the other. We are also doing “first looks” with our parents. I want to capture my dad’s face when he seeing me. Just some ideas for additional things.

We are not doing a first look as I feel like it would be special to see me walking down the aisle

View Quoted Comment That's great that what you and your FH decided is what will be your special wedding day

View Quoted Comment Yes that is a great thing and special and you gave me a good idea for me and my mom. That will be a great memorable memory for you too look back on

View Quoted Comment Hi Skb I'm so happy that,that worked out for you and your now husband Congratulations on your marriage thank you so much for sharing your story and comments with us

Doing first look! Husband and I got married 2 years ago when our wedding was post poned due to covid. I didn’t want to initially, but now that we’re married I figured it’s a Good idea to spend time alone, see our decor before anyone arrives and save time during cocktail hour

Do you have a website I can look at or pictures

We are actually getting ready together. We don't want to be apart at all that day. We want to spend as much time together as possible. We will be doing a first look with our parents. We have been together for 14 years and our parents are aging (Father in law recently diagnosed with dementia) so we really want to wow them. I'm excited. I love all the ways that everyone does their first look or walk down the aisle. It's so tailored to each couple. I get pumped no matter what people do. haha.

View Quoted Comment Hi that is such a great emotional moment for all of you and to get those moments from the parents is a wonderful thing. That you for sharing your story and comments with us.

View Quoted Comment Hi we are keeping some traditions but also have a twist too my sons are walking me down it something different my father isn't alive inhale also wanted that for me and my fiancee said not he wants to be surprised when I come down the aisle. And I want the same. I'm happy to hear that some are staying traditional and others are stepping out the box. It's your day thank you Ashley for sharing your comments and stories with me and us