FH just received a wedding invite (a bizarre invite)

Our wedding is in the same place but will have a 2 hour time between so we can do pictures and the room can be setup also allows time for the dj to setup, photobooth to set up, and caterer to prepare. 90% of my guests are staying at the hotel down the street and will also be provided with maps of the area and near by stores and attractions they can visit if they choose to do so.

Thats crazy and pretty rude actually. 5 hour gap at the same place! wow

I actually would assume your invited in this case. It was probably just an oversight or a poor invite making job. I'd mark 2 down and let them call and complain.

psss..your Fh should tell his friend and SO to come on here!

Weird

The same thing happened to me when fh was invited to the rehearsal dinner. He asked the groom if I was invited and the groom was like "duhhh, ofcourse she's invited" He said that her parents had done this invites and didn't know my name. I would assume this is a similiar situation.

The 4 hour gap though....weird.

Ana, I agree that is awkward. I think your FH will have to ask. If you just assume you are not invited and FH RSVP's for only himself they may think you don't want to go to their wedding, but if you RSVP for both of you and you are not invited that is just as uncomfortable.

They probably assume you know you're invited.

I say go girl!! Its your FH in that wedding, not only that but they know you two are together right?? I dont see why you or your FH would have to call and ask. I say but 2 attending on the RSVP...and go!! and the GAP...WOW! lol...well I guess go home for a nap and get ready for the PARTY!! =)

That gap situation is silly. and about the invitation invite, the obviously arent subscribers to this site lol or they would have know better!

Wow that gap is annoying! I had my wedding at the same place and had no gap between the ceremony and the reception.

Maybe the invite address-er was lazy or didn't know your last name or something.

That 5-hour gap means that a lot of people may skip the ceremony and only show up for the reception. It happens.

@Rig - thats what i would probably do with such a big gap unless i was in the wedding (obviously) or it was a close friend/family member. im sorry but i dont look good ALL day long lol i would have to get re-ready before the reception! no thanks too much work.

That is strange. I would also want to know if I was invited.

As far as you not being on the invite ----- FH was in a wedding this weekend and the invitations only had his name but i knew i was invited. I just filled out the RSVP with both our names on it . Our place card had us already married with his last name

I know it might be wierd but

as far as 4 hour break WTF thats all i got

I bet someone just wasn't sure of your name, and didn't want to put the wrong name. You can totally go! The 5 hour gap is annoying, I think I'd just go to the reception.

FH told me that the groom asked how to spell my name, but maybe he forgot where he wrote it down or something like that. I would have been fine with a "And Guest" or whatever. But to just not write anything? It just makes me uncomfortable.

As to the gap, we live an hour away so I won't be going home on the break. FH's parents live about 15 minutes away so maybe I will just go there. I love my FILs, but to hang out at their house for at least 4 HOURS without FH will still suck.

With the invitation - I think that it was poor etiquette on their part... I disagree with others on here saying to 'just go'. Two wrongs don't make a right. Have FH find out what the deal is before RSVPing. No - I'm not saying to call up the bride or groom ... since he's in the wedding party he should ask around with the other groomsmen and see if they received the same problem with the invitation (no guests written). Until you find out that you are invited I would assume that you are not.

As for the gap - I am sure that both the bride and groom are very well aware of this time period. They also very well may have something planned for guests during this time. It's difficult for me to understand why so many people jump to the conclusion that all brides and grooms with time gaps just forget about the guests. Also - some brides and grooms may purposely have a time gap expecting that most will only show up to the reception so they have a smaller more intimate wedding.

Well maybe they didn't know you were living together (if you are)..but I guess he should know that lol. I hate that, it just puts the guest in an awkward position..judging by this and that gap I feel like the whole wedding won't really have the guests in mind at all..hopefully you have fun if you end up going. I think it would be appropriate if you went, you are the fiance after all!

I really hope there is a good reason for that much of a gap....

I'm not anti-gap. I don't automatically think they don't care about their guests. (Actually, though, over half their wedding budget is going to their honeymoon in Bora Bora, so I do think that the reception is less of a priority for them.)

But a 4 hour gap when both events are at the same place? That is just odd.

I am not sure how you should handle the invite situation but the 4 hour gap. What type of wedding is it? Catholic, Italian, Greek, etc. any of these weddings that have a long drawn out ceremony? Or maybe there is already something going on in the banquet room to where the room will not be ready for theirs until 6. It does seem strange though.