fh involved in wedding planning or not?

My fh said just tell me when to show up. He doesn’t want to make any decisions. 🤣

View Quoted Comment Yea same here. Hes like its your day youve been dreaming bout since you were a little girl. True but still a little input would help me a lot.

Let him know how you feel, and work out together what part of the planning you would like him involved with.

You are not alone, it’s driving me nuts too

Thank you, we just had a good laugh at this

My dude always says “just as long as you’re happy and I get to marry you, I’m happy.” Super sweet, but UGH! I’ve found that when I ask him to do things that he is interested in, he gets super excited and on board with planning- he is a photographer/journalist, so giving him the responsibility of finding and hiring the photographer has been great for him. When I mentioned that I might try to do our invitations myself to save money, he asked if he could do them! He is definitely better than I am at that sort of thing, so obviously yes! And his whole office got super excited about it and has been helping him out. (On work time! 😬) and lastly, he is totally choosing what he and his groomsmen wear- I don’t love it, but oh well. When he gets excited about something, it just makes me so happy that I don’t have to do it! So I completely stay out of his way... we’ll see what we end up with! 😂

I keep him updated on what’s happening. That’s our way of communicating. So if it’s something he doesn’t like he will let me know. So in a way... he’s secretly involved.

Yeah, my FH isn't super involved unless I specifically ask him to give me his opinion on something, and even then he doesn't really care about too much. I do wish he was a little more enthusiastic about the planning, but I also know that he just genuinely doesn't care about most of the small decisions and details and and when he does truly have an opinion, he tells me. So I'm trying to allow that to be enough.

View Quoted Comment Omg sounds EXACTLY like mine! 😂😂

I think this is a guy thing. I have been cool calm and collected this whole time until recently and I flipped on him. He always says you want this, this is your wedding. He wanted to elope. So now he is making an effort. To save my sanity I started making a list and giving him tasks of stuff he needs to do and be responsible to complete. This week it is pick out guys attire, get my ring resized, and choose cupcake flavors. So cake and cupcake flavors are choosen. I think this is helping calm me and getting him involved.

Mine doesn't get involved at all.. I'm sure he barely listens when I even talk about wedding stuff.. that's why I get all the phone calls from groomsmen, bridesmaids, my parents and his parents. Its extremely annoying

Oh he has almost nothing to do with it. He'll throw in an idea here and there or I'll try to include him in the big decisions, but he made it clear he's leaving it to me. His mom helps a lot since she lives where we're getting married (destination wedding). Sometimes I wish he were more involved, but the majority of the time I'm fine with him not being involved since it gives him crazy bad anxiety.

I felt the same way until my fiance explained it to me this way....he cares about the marriage and getting me not the wedding. He said the wedding is my vision because as females we picture it from childhood. He said its the same as us buying a car, all I would care about is the color the interior, the outside and if it will get me where I need to go. But, he would care about the engine and all of its intricate parts. Our passions are different, but we both want the other to enjoy it. I finally understood why he isn't as involved it's not his vision its mine he just wants to make sure its brought to life and I'm happy. I hope that helps you like it did me.

My fh is COMPLETELY opposite. He wants to be involved in EVERY step. He even wanted to see my dress (which of course I shut down completely). It's like I'm glad he wan

Sorry, my comment got cut short lol....but I was saying I'm glad he wants to be apart of it because it shows me he is just as excited but sometimes I just want him to just go with the flow lol

Well my fiance surprised me with plans already been made. Looking at the paper still had me stressed. We getting married next year and found a planner! Thank goodness! I hope your fh become more involved. Have you stressed how you really need his help? I bet he planned that bachelor party though lol guys are silly at times

My FH is a little to involved lol he has an opinion on everything!! He even had an opinion on my dress. He has his own Pinterest account with his inspection pictures saved. He loves being involved and it stops me from going crazy.

I don’t mind my partner not being very interested in the planning. Means everything will be my way lol.

Yes. My FH is covering the venue, all the paperwork and we are using timeshare free week. My cost is the reception.

My FH doesn't care much about most of the details, so when he does voice an opinion about something, I try my best to do it his way.