Feeling super insecure......

Don't worry Blair, your wedding will be fabulous. The most important thing is you will be spending the day with people that you love and marrying your best friend. The most extravaggant and over the top weddings aren't always the best. Make the best out of what you have. Your wedding will have your very own personal touches, not something that has been rented out time and time again to different brides. Hope that makes you feel better * HUGS*

By the way, I love Mexican food, way better than some fancy prepared meal.

I can attest to this simply because my family just went through this. In fact, on one side of the family alone there were/are five weddings between November of last year and June of this year (hence why we are waiting until next year!). The first wedding in November was insane! It was elegant and sophisticated and SO much fun. The couple out-did themselves but probably dropped minimum $50G if not MORE than that on ONE day. As a guest, it was a great experience. The next wedding was in February this year. This wedding was much more simple, yet still tasteful. It was evident that the B&G spent less than the last wedding. However, that said, the food at the second wedding was better, the atmosphere was more relaxed and we still had a good time! The only poor comment I must make about the second one was that the DJ was terrible. Totally not the B&G's fault, but that didn't make for a great dance party during the reception. The next wedding we attended was in April and it was even more low-

Forget what they got to say....Just because someone has more money to offer to make their day special, a lot times they still don't out do the people with a 10k budget. Reason being they picked all this fancy stuff and really don't need it. I would say enjoy your planning don't let her 50k bother you and go to hers just as happy. Besides you will be doing some low key comparing yourself its just second nature LOL Hope this advice helps.

Dont feel insecure! im on a budget and my wedding will be flawless. one of my close friends parents paid about 30,000 for her wedding(yes it was a beautiful wedding) and to be honest i was envious because it was sooo pretty. however once i found this venue i fell inlove and i was like this is prettier than any venue ive seen AND cheaper!!

like kimberly said, make the best out of it, its your day.

Key. It was a cocktail style reception. There wasn't a lot of food, but there a were drinks and music and a photobooth and we had a GREAT time! The couple probably only spent $3000 (if that) all in. But it was perfect for what they wanted. So having attended three different weddings thus far from the scale of extravagant and elegant to completely low key and relaxed, I find myself not comparing wedding to wedding, but rather, looking at how each wedding suited the couple and was a resemblance of them.

Just remember that it is your day. Do what you want. Don't lose sight of the point of the wedding, that is, the marriage that follows! Whether you spend 100k or 3000, the next morning you'll wake up with the same status: That as a WIFE. So ultimately, it doesn't matter! People will appreciate your wedding because it will be a reflection of you and your FH. Anyone who says otherwise doesn't matter..

I agree with the other ladies. more expensive doesn't always mean better! Guests jsut want to have fun and enjoy themselves. You wedding is going to be special and fun no matter how much money you're paying for it.

The best thing about a wedding is seeing someone you care about so happy and being able to witness this occasion!

The food, decor, etc, those are just extras.

It's nice to have a great dance party though

I do understand why the insecurity would come into your mind but don't let it!

Money isn't everything, how you use it is.

You can buy a $50,000 bottle of wine for goodness sake.

Well said Labake and Christy R!!

I can relate, one of my BM wedding is in July...her venue catering alone STARTS at $150pp (and that's only catering I know b/c I looked there too) Her parents are paying for the wedding and I'm sure it is going to be beautfiul but I guarantee ours will be just as beautiful and fit who we are as a couple. I'm a a bargain hunter as are most budget brides so just b/c something wasn't super expensive doesn't mean it won't have the elegant feeling, ya know what I mean?

Concentrate on what you and FH want and don't worry about any nay-sayers, chances are they aren't married and have no idea how much things cost, or they were married YEARS ago and still have no idea what things cost nowadays...

I went to a wedding a few weeks ago and just found out it was a $50k wedding. I was shocked. It was beautiful, but I don't know where they spent their money. This past weekend, I went to a friends wedding and her budget was similar to ours, appx. 10k. While her wedding venue wasn't as pretty, I had more fun at hers!!

Its all relative. And like Labake said, its how you use the money.

Good luck!!

I was a BM in a friends wedding last June and they spent somewhere between $40-50k, if not more. It was a great day, there was about 150 people in attendance, but I would say that it wasn't the best wedding I've ever been to. It was sort of run-of-the-mill. A few years ago, I attended another friends wedding, she probably spend $15k or so and it was BEAUTIFUL. My wedding is hovering right around the $15-20k mark, and I am totally convinced it will be the bomb. It's not about how much you spend, it more about the choices you make and how personal it feels. Do not feel insecure, I get it- but it's not worth it! Good luck babe!!

Remember Claire's wedding? I believe she spent about 5K, and her wedding was simply stunning.

When I started planning I talked to brides who got married before me in the area. Most of their wedding were 30-50K. We were just unwilling to spend that. But they had 6K photography packages, and one had a 5K DJ. I honestly didn't think the DJ was worth it, and although photography was high on our list, my friend's pics were not worth 6K. One of them paid 8K for the dress, which I simply refused to do. And so on and so forth.

So I understand you can feel insecure. But 50K weddings do not necessarily feel like 50K weddings. Nor do 10K weddings. Nobody to this day believes we spent the amount we say we did.

My sister had her wedding two years go and it was hands down the most beautiful wedding I have ever been to. It represented them so well, the decorations were so beautiful. The only thing lacking was the food and I blame that on both her and her husband being vegans and the food reflecting that. Her wedding was under $15,000. There was a lot of DIY projects and personal touches

Last summer I went to my FSIL’s wedding. There weren’t any decorations, nothing personal and over all not an amazing wedding. Her wedding was around $40,000.

Don’t worry about cost because that has nothing to do with it. Worry about things that are in your control and your wedding will turn out beautifully.

Some of the best weddings I've been to were those that were more laid back and relaxed (i.e., less stuffy and extravagant). You are more able to let lose and dance, have fun and be yourself that way! Like the others have said, more money does NOT always mean better!

Do not feel insecure!! If you feel great about everything you've done thus far then that's all that matters. I feel the exact sme way when I see or hear about what other people are doing but I'm happy with my wedding and I know I couldn't do any better!! Don't worry about what the cousin is doing! Expensive doesn't always equate beautiful! Have you seen some of the worlds most expensive art? Some of it is absolutely dreadful looking! your wedding will be fantastic!

Sometimes things are way over priced. And really it should be about how much you love each other, not how much you are spending on the wedding. I would LOVE to go to a wedding that has a taco bar! My favorite wedding quote I've see is "A wedding is a party, not a performance. If at the end of the day you are married to the one you loved, then everything went perfectly" and you don't need to spend $10K for it to be perfect!

Our wedding was under $10,000. We're still hearing from friends who tell us it was the most fun wedding they ever attended. And I was shocked to learn recently that my son's wedding cost about twice as much as ours. I suspect that a lot of the extra went into the dress, the photography package, and the wedding planner, none of which were things that would matter a lot to guests.

This is not to criticize their priorities. But you have to realize that if you're inviting only people who care about you and your happiness, they are going to enjoy the wedding (regardless of cost) because they will see how happy you are. And if your guest list is bigger than that, you're inviting too many guests. ;-)

Dont be hard on yourself, your wedding will be amazing. You wedding represnts you both as a couple and if you can step back and go ..SO WHAT, i didnt 6 grand on a DJ, we'll have a blast cause this DJ is kick ass at 800... ya know? If you and your new hubby and friends have a great time then thats all that matters. Trust me, mine is LOW key for real, but it will be fun cause im making it entertaining for the guests!!!

Hi Blair!

Don't feel insecure about your wedding. I always have 3 rules that I tell my newlyweds at every meeting.

1. Make sure you enjoy your meal.

2. Your family and friends are there... Just relax.

3. Dance like noone's watching.

As long as you are happy with your wedding, that's all that matters. I have done backyard barbecues and 400 person weddings in my 17 years as a wedding entertainer and I can tell you, regardless of how much money is spent, as long as you have the right entertainment, your wedding will be a success!