Feeling Down

View Quoted Comment Thank u!💙

I agree with some of the other women on here. Communication and definitely therapy is key. If not for the both of you maybe just for yourself to really examine how you feel in this relationship. He needs help with learning how to deal with stress and challenging. Also how to express his frustrations in a respectful manner. If he agrees and does seek that help. Just take it from there. One day at a time, it’s not like we can go anywhere right now anyway so it’s the perfect time to focus on that. 🤗 head up girl

View Quoted Comment Autumn, you are so right. I know it’s a stressful time and was thinking on those lines. Then I read more and realized she deserves so much better.

Tell him bye! Nobody needs to go through that. Even if he was in a stressful situation he shouldn’t have done that.

No one deserves that kind of behavior, no matter what “stress level” they are under! Especially since he doesn’t even “regret” the comments! Something bigger may be brewing, and now may be the time to figure it out ... while you still have the time to! Sorry.

I am so sorry that he said such hurtful things to you. There is no way you could not dwell on what he said. What he said was definitely not necessary, no matter how stressed he is. After going through a divorce from someone that never appreciated me, my suggestion would be to really give this a lot of thought as to whether he is truly the one for you. The one for you would thank everything on earth that he met you, no matter how hard life was. He’d do all the hard times again just to be able to meet you all over again. Trust me. You deserve more.

Wow, I hurt for you! I know this is a wedding forum and usually I would say work it out, but something in your conversation is telling me otherwise. I'm sorry, but very very rarely will someone change and when they do it is usually for their benefit, not the one they have hurt. Life is too short to put up with someone that doesn't acknowledge your feelings and apologize. Good partners will apologize when they have hurt you, even if they don't understand why you are hurt, because they made you feel bad. Do you really want to be saddled with someone's mental baggage?? Best of luck to you, don't sell yourself short.

View Quoted Comment Thank u. I will def be taking time to myself to sorry through how I feel

View Quoted Comment No I def dont wanna deal with someone's mental baggage, life is hard enough!

View Quoted Comment Aww thank u. This gives me something to think more about

You deserve more, and as scary as this may be to do, walk away. You don’t need to settle for someone that for a second said that he regrets you - marry someone who thanks their lucky stars that they found you. Best of luck.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. So many people have been saying the same thing!

I am so sorry. When I was reading your post my jaw dropped. I understand everyone is stressed out I am a RN working in PA and it is a stressful situation working at the hospital right now. I come home and vent to my FH and he is so supportive.


With that being said if my FH ever said he regrets meeting me and getting engaged to me that would set off so many red flags up in my mind. I would question everything. I would ask why would you ever say that. Also I would ask do you really love me and want to start a family with me. If wavers at any of those questions I would question about getting married.
I was engaged once before when I was 18, I am now 30. I had everything planned; the dress, venue, bridesmaids had their dresses, flowers, and so much more that I had already gotten for the wedding. I found out my fiance was cheating on me when he was stationed on Japan. I decided to call off the wedding and end ot with him. I knew he was not the guy for me and it took everything I had to call the wedding off. I kept thinking in my head he loves me and he would never do it again. I was the one who said I can't trust you because of your actions.
I hope you make a choice that is you and you alone because you think that it will not last.
GOOD LUCK!

View Quoted Comment Thanks for sharing your story. I'm glad your happy now! I will have to make a decision soon

I'm sorry that he spoke to you that way. No person (especially us women) deserve to be treated in that manner, especially in these times. I know we cannot tell you what to do, but I would take that incident as a strong influence on how you decide to move forward with him. My grandparents always used to tell me that how someone reacts in stressful times is how they react in private, IE. they showed their true feelings.

This is horrible! And what a downer of him to make his future wife feel this way. I hate that your hurting during this time. It sounds like he might be emotionally abusive? Idk I'm sorry if I overstep. If he's telling you he regrets meeting you then maybe this is your sign that it wasn't meant to be...i know it's not something you want to hear but I don't want you to marry someone who makes you feel like this! STAY STRONG!!!!

View Quoted Comment Honestly he can be emotionally abusive and its only when hes stressed. I need to learn to stop making excuses because theres no need for me to go through it

My exhusband said this to me once. I excused it at the time. I wish I had left him when he said it; I would have saved myself years of a bad relationship. I would leave.

I am SOOOO sorry you had to experience that. You do not deserve that. You are worth having a man by your side that has respect for you and your relationship. That was not right and the fact that he is sticking to what he said after the argument only shows you how he truly views you. When I started planning my wedding, a friend told me that wedding planning will show the true side of both of you because its the first big thing you both have to work on together. It sets the tone for how your marriage will be.

View Quoted Comment Don't stay with someone who emotionally abuses you. It doesn't matter that he only does it when he's stressed. Basically you're telling us you're his punching bag that he "only" uses when stressed. Abuse in any form is an absolute reason to leave. Do you want your future children to learn from this?