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I think the biggest question you should ask is are these behaviors and words normal? I wouldn't say right off the bat leave him because marriage is a committment and no one goes in wanting a divorce , but definitely re-evaluate the relationship, and postpone the wedding with everything that's going on. Give him some time and try to have a talk with him about it later. For now, just take a breather and maybe write your feelings down on paper.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, I will do that. I think that's what is best for now

View Quoted Comment Aww Autumn ur post is sweet and it does hit home for me. Thank you for your kind words

I'm really sorry but this is a very childish way to communicate. 1 to your wife and 2 during a time when you need each other love and support the most. I would not tell you leave him or stay but what I would say is that marriage is NOT easy and times will get rough after the wedding and he is showing that he has issues dealing with challenges. No one has the perfect rule book on how to react to a situations like this in a pandemic n losing finances but lashing out on your spouse is definitely not helpful. You know him.better than anyone and he knows you. He was being spiteful for whatever reason and that's not cool at all. Talk to him and express your feelings directly as this is all part of being engaged and learning each other ways before saying I do. If you see his actions matches his words then that's another story! Men act childish at times some think weddings are a complete waste of money...I say let him know sternly how you feel if you said that to him how would he react n feel? Either way communicate trust me no relationship is perfect! N I hope he makes it up to you and do much better 😊

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I was shocked when he said it because hes been involved in our wedding planning and he has made changes since therapy, but I'm seeing in some areas he hasnt

Hi there. My opinion is that that kind of abuse is very toxic and yes it’s abuse and some form of emotional abuse. I would explain that to him and explain that you’re in this together during this difficult time and he should act like it. That’s a red flag and he shouldn’t have said that to you. Stay strong beautiful.

View Quoted Comment Thanks love! All this support is appreciated

View Quoted Comment Completely understandable ..however dont allow your feelings to be dismissed as this will set the tone of your relationship in the future ....its really great you guys in therapy that is much needed before getting married. I will revisit the conversation another time when its aired out to see where his head is truly at in general with your relationship and if he truly opens up n be honest that will be your answer. Make decisions on a calm mind n weigh your options seriously as this is your life and your happiness is important. Best of luck my dear 😊

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Will follow your advice!

Im so sorry this happened and from what I read in your comments, sounds like it’s a pattern. No one can tell you what decision to make as it is YOUR decision. But I definitely think it is a HUGE sign that postponing is the best decision for now. Then you can really take the time to reflect on the relationship and if this is what you want for the rest of your life. Sending you lots of love ❤️ ❤️❤️❤️

I am sorry you are going through this and having to feel this way. I know it must be extremely difficult to try and plan a wedding or change a wedding with this craziness. I think if you can take some time to think back on why you two are together and let that help you both refocus on one another. I hope it all work out for you and that this all settles down soon for your sake. Sending positive thoughts your way!

Ummm no. That is not okay and you will continually question his love for you, for the rest of your days. Some things cannot be taken back. That was a huge blow. We are all going through so much. I don’t handle people using stress (or most of anything) as an excuse to hurt someone. Take this time to figure out what you want. Everyone can tell you to leave but it’s so much easier said than done. I was told to leave my EX-husband... I knew the day after my wedding I messed up. I tried to hang on for another couple of years. It was rough. Mental and physical abuse. But until you know in your heart you deserve better and not make excuses for him, you won’t leave. I finally did 7 years ago and found the love of my life.


Just take care of you. You deserve better. I hope he proves me wrong. I’m sorry you are going through what is supposed to be the happiest time of your life 💜

View Quoted Comment Thank u!💚

View Quoted Comment Thank u! I hope so too!

View Quoted Comment Aw thank u, I appreciate your kind words❤

I am so sorry this happened to you. First No Man should ever Tell you that They Wished They Never Meet You. That is very Rude not to say Heart Broken and They are not Interested or planning on being your Forever. There are things in life that isnt our fault. You deserve worthy. You need to pick your self up and move on. I hate to say this on your big Day but it's True. And One day You will feel much better bout the outcome of your decision. Good luck to you. And Keep your Spirits up.

I’m so sorry you had to hear those things.
In this time I do believe a lot of us are stressed, aggravated and definitely over thinking. Is it right what he said? Absolutely not. But I will say, he may be feeling hurt, aggravated, stressed and not know how to talk about how he is feeling. He may be feeling everything that you are. I’m not sure of your situation during this time of COVID but I know men can be very prideful and at this time it can be really hard. No relationship is a fairytale or ever come easy. It’s something you work on everyday good days & bad days. This could just be a bump in the road, I hope that you two can ride over it together! That always determines the strength and love that you have for eachother. It has to be worth it. And if it isn’t you will know. I hope this helps, wishing you happy and healthy wishes and better times to come ❤️

View Quoted Comment I completely agree. Please pay close attention to red flags, especially before it’s too late. I hate to say it, but this is abusive behavior. You deserve someone who won’t speak to you in that way when upset... a mature adult who can control their anger better.
I’m so sorry you have to go through this, especially right now, but please listen when God is speaking to you. Don’t settle for less than you deserve.

View Quoted Comment Thanks! I need to listen and see things for how they really are.

I am terribly sorry. I would give it a few days for him to calm down and maybe talk it out. The current situation the world is in IS VERY stressful. Most men are terrible with expressing their feelings correctly. I am not taking his side by any means, but you're the one in the relationship and you know him best. If he is always this reactive, I would definitely reevaluate things. My ex husband was a saint until we married, two years later it turned for the worst. Keep your eyes wide open and be safe. Lots of love.