Family is pissed it is Adult only

This is what we are doing. No kids, except our son and if we have a flower girl. Having your own son there is different than a bunch of kids that are extended family

Im doing the same thing, I don't think a wedding is a good place for young children to be. Im having my flower girls and that's it for the children. if someone cant leave there child for 4 or 5 hours for a wedding there's something wrong. lol

we thought about doing that too, but then thought open bar...mmm we will just do Adult-Only...I just do not understand why people cannot take one night to enjoy themselves kid free with us....I am a mom so I get how hard it is to get a babysitter etc...but oh well... family and friends can be mad...all in all it will be a great night, and maybe cheaper?

We're doing adults only...literally with no exceptions. Our FG (my niece) and our RB (my friends son) are leaving after the ceremony. I didn't want kids around all my family/friends when they're partying & drinking. Also, most of my guests have told me they're excited to get out for a night.

You are not wrong at all. Kids are NOT "all or nothing" - it is perfectly reasonable to invite your son and nieces / nephews and no other kids. Having immediate family kids does not trigger a requirement to invite all other kids.

This topic comes up multiple times per day. You will see may people are having adult-only weddings with a few exceptions for children of immediate family. Totally fine.

Also, you wouldn't be putting "no kids" on the invitation, that would be rude, so Kris' comment doesn't even make sense. You simply address the envelope to those who are invited.

I am so excited to see everyone who is on the same page as me! Who wants to have their kids around while they are partying, dancing, and drinking? I for 1 do not enjoy it...If they can't make it, I get it...but I definitely think they will be missing out on a great time!

This thread makes me feel so much better.....we are having mostly adults with some exceptions.....i was so worried about people being pissed but y'all are right !they'll either come or they wont

I would love to hear them explain how you wanting to control the guest list of YOUR wedding is selfish?! THEY are the ones being selfish trying to manipulate and guilt you. Stick to your guns. If some people don't come, so be it.

This is exactly why FH and I are including children. Our wedding is OOT for most of his family. We would be asking them to either travel for a weekend without their kids, or find a sitter in a hotel room in a city away from home. We would rather deal with the kids being there than not have those family members present.

There will be four children at our wedding. My two nephews (age 4, RB), FH's two sons (age 9 & 12, GM). Absolutely no other children. If anyone can't attend because of it, well, my numbers/cost will be less. But budging for anyone.

You are NOT rude or wrong. Stick to your guns.

To me a wedding is a family event, not an adult family only event. Rah to their own but I've never seen a bad experience with kids at weddings only great fun dancing etc

I'm fine with no kids. It often means OOT guests can't come, and helicopter parents may decline, but it's your choice.

I legitimately don't care if anyone is pissed that my wedding is adults only. Most weddings are not fun for children. Period. I have no interest in catering to little people when I don't have any and I don't particularly want to be around them at a big event I'm paying for. I don't want to second guess the music I play or what words I say or how much anyone drinks.

We are having adults only, except for the BP. What you're doing is perfectly acceptable for whatever reasons. My only advice would be to keep those reasons to yourself, and when pressed be concise and simple. The more you try and justify your reasoning to people who don't agree, they'll argue and say "oh well kid is well behaved" etc and try and create loopholes.

I only have one etiquette question here -- do the flower girls have brothers or sisters? In other words, are you breaking up siblings and inviting the girls, but not their brothers/sisters? If so, then yes, you're in the wrong in breaking up minor siblings. Otherwise, you are absolutely in the right in inviting who you want.

We're having a child free wedding except for RB and FG for the exact reasons you stated. I don't understand why people think its so unfair, um hello its an open bar? How do you expect to really enjoy yourself while keeping an eye on your rugrat? How is that EVEN good parenting!?!?! You're going to be under the influence of alcohol along with other people who most likely will get drunk and you're demanding that you have your child present.

I don't want kids crying, screaming, having a tantrum or talking during the ceremony and speeches there's always one - and the parent never picks them up and removes them. I don't want kids running around under our feet, getting into things they shouldn't, breaking things, hurting themselves and be bored.

I want the adults we invited to be able to have a stress free fun night without worrying where little jimmy went and oh i gotta go change his diaper bla bla bla.

I also don't think it's fair that family and friends assumes all their kids should be/are invited. When they all got married none of them had kids so they all got to have a kid free wedding, why is it so horrible that we want the same thing?

@futuremrslavender it's your right to not invite kids and you have a lot of valid reasons for it. That said, telling parents that the reason you're not inviting their kids is because (a) it's bad parenting to bring their child or (b) that YOU want them to have fun without worrying about their child will never go over well. Just an FYI.

You can absolutely have your wedding the way you want. Especially if you paid for it, but some people will be hurt. I have 2 children and if I was invited to a wedding without my kids I would probably turn it down especially if it was family.

My wedding in April is extremely kid friendly and that's my choice. I think about 1/3 of my guest list are children and that's only because I would never exclude my family on such a joyous and happy day of my life.

@Elizabeth, I'm not telling any of my guest that. I was just stating my own opinion why I do not want children there.

IMO I don't think its an appropriate atmosphere for a child to be in, people drinking and getting drunk, but hey to each their own.

I think it is completely acceptable to have an adult wedding. If people get upset just state that the only children included were those in the bridal party... just make sure those are the only children invited. People will become upset if they feel exceptions have been made for some people and not others. But overall I think it's completely acceptable to say adult only. Edit: don't write adult only on the invitation (this is rude) just address the envelope clearly to who is invited. For example instead of writing smith family , write Mr and Mrs smith