Family is pissed it is Adult only

I wouldn't do it that way. Can't say you are right or wrong, but if the invite says no kids, and then people show up after getting babysitters and see kids there, they may be miffed.

As long as you are paying, you get to say who is and isn't invited. Wedding party children are always the exception to no children at adult weddings.

I agree with you. Your son should absolutely be there. I also agree that open bar isn't the ideal situation for kids. If people don't agree they can stay home...just my opinion it it your day not theirs!

I don't think kids are an "all or nothing" thing. It's perfectly acceptable to have YOUR OWN child there. I've been to plenty of weddings where my kid wasn't invited, but other kids were. For instance, I was the MOH in a good friend's wedding when mykid was about 8. He wasn't invited but her cousins were. NBD. My kid wasn't invited to my cousin's wedding, but was on the list of exceptions for my brother's wedding.

Your child and your BP kids can absolutely be there. You're in the right here.

Hate it for them. If they don't like it they don't have to come.

There is definitely an exception for your son and an exception for the kids in the bridal party.

Maybe its just me, but if there were any kids, I would probably want additional kids that they could play with so that they stay entertained.

there are a lot of kids in my extended family and they are all really well-behaved and entertain themselves at large events like weddings

They will definitely be the only children there, and the only reason they are is because they are in the ceremony, and because we want our son there for a dance with us during the reception. I definitely made it well known to everyone invited that they are the only children there, and that they won't be attending the whole time. I would hate to have an open bar and see parents not paying attention to their children while they consume beverage after beverage. I have seen it happen and it is tacky...

If you are paying and you feel that strongly about it, don't change your mind based on what other people say or think. Are any parents of children pissed? You may get some invitation declines if so, but its all up to you and what you want for your special day.

I agree with you. We do not want children at our reception the only exception is my 11 year old sister who is in the wedding party. When my Aunt's found out I was not inviting children they freaked out. They kept trying to guilt trip me into inviting them. I would have been fine inviting the older boys (teenagers) but the youngest is 7 and a terror. My one Aunt called me up and offered to pay for them to come.

We're also having an Adult only wedding. .expect for our daughter and his little sis. So many people keep questioning us why and some say they won't come. Which is upsetting. But it's what we want. There's nothing wrong with it. Some people are difficult.

What you are doing is totally fine, very common for weddings, not rude at all. However, when you do this you have to accept that some parents will not be able to come. They should not be rude to you about it, and you should graciously accept their decision, even if it doesn't make sense to you.

I'm doing adult only with a few exceptions. If people don't like it then they don't need to come! I don't mean for that to come off as I don't want them there but I personally would never make a big deal about somebody else decision on their wedding day! I agree with MissEtoMrsB, its all about you and your FW not about them!

Yes Karlyn my FW, has a cousin who has two 12 year old twins, a 3 year old, and a 4 month old who is super angry. They said we are wrong to not allow their family as a whole be invited to our wedding. I told them I completely understand, but we are not going to make exceptions for them, and not for our other family and friends who have babies. We love our friends kids dearly, but we are telling them. Come enjoy a night out with us... people will be mad...and they can be...but if they want to come they will. If they cannot we understand

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We are having an adult's only wedding, with my nieces being the only exception. They are family so they get a pass. Oddly, though, no one seems to have had a problem with it. Sorry you are dealing with people giving you flack. It's really rude of them.

All of my first cousins have kids and we are going no kids. We're not even having a RB or FG. Some of my cousins were mad at first, but they have had plenty of time to make babysitting arrangements. We put our foot down and have been saying "no" to anyone that asks. Our moms have else helped by spreading the word.

My mother's family has been hosting adult only weddings, since she was a kid - the late 1960s. Why do today's parents/kids have to be so G-D special?

You're doing nothing wrong. If people can't see the difference between your son/nieces who are in the wedding party and their children, that's their problem.

IMO, it's your wedding and you can do what you want. Some members of my extended family have gotten upset over this too. At this point everyone else has kids (I counted potentially up to 37 kids under age 11 just on my side) so I'm planning on doing the whole on-site child care thing.

I am sorry that people are upset about your choice but you can't please everyone, and it is your day.