Family is pissed it is Adult only

We're also having an adults only reception (FG, RB & their siblings are invited), and what shocks me is the gall some guests have to try every which way possible to include their kids at or near the reception. Even worse, they have someone who can watch their kids - they've told me so, but they assume I'm paying for their kids' dinner and babysitting. WTF?! I got so frustrated by it all, that I finally just gave everyone a contact number to professional babysitters and let them figure it out. If they can't attend, I totally understand. It was an unexpected stressor that I just didn't need to deal with. I know it sounds cold, but we planned it a certain way from the beginning, and we weren't about to change it for just a few people. If we were to include kids, it would be all or nothing (except BP kids). I wish I could ask that particular guest, "What makes your child so much more special and important than those of my own relatives?"

Oh, and while we didn't say anything about an adults only reception on the invitation, we sure as hell included it on the reception information card!

I just don't understand why parents get upset that couples have adult only weddings. When I got married, children were never invited (and parents would not take children) to a wedding and reception where alcohol was being served. Children were sometimes invited if the wedding was a very informal deal, or if the reception was held at the church, but usually weddings were considered adult events. No one even thought to ask to bring their child/children.

I'm having difficulties with this as well. At first we were going to provide a hotel room w child care for FH groomsmen kids (10)...this caused an uproar. Now I was able to use a room on site at the museum...FH is not happy with this either...he thinks his friends will demand allowing their kids to be with them. I'm sorry but no. I do not want/have never envisioned children running around my formal black tie event.

I am also doing adult only with an exception of my fg and our younger siblings my parents were upset and I told them they have no reason to be upset all of their children will be there as far as my friends and cousins they are excited to have a kid free night

Adults only with exceptions of our flower girl and ring bearer for ours. Some people were upset but to be blunt, it's not their day and they're not paying for it. You're giving ample time for them to come up with a solution for child care and witness you two getting married. Don't stress about it

Our wedding is adults only. FFIL has been pissed about it since day one since that means we KNOW some family members won't come. Oh well, that's their choice. And FFIL has no right to be mad, it's our wedding not a family reunion. If people chose not to come because our budget doesn't allow them to bring their children we've never met then so be it.

Don't let people get you down about your choice. Adults only weddings are quite common.

It's up to you! But if you want to have a happy

medium then tell them, their children could come to the ceremony ( any damaged is their responsibility and its up to them to take the children somewhere else after) the reception is off limits! They should want some adult time anyways!

TBH I think its perfectly normal not to invite kids. Here if children are invited it is generally only immediate family only simply because all the babysitters will be at the wedding! I have never been to a wedding where friends children are invited, cousins kids generally aren't either unless there is a reason. My FH is mad about his nieces and nephews so we have invited them all, I only have one niece. I am very close to my cousins kids (they are also like nieces to me) so we made and exception for them and the MOH's 1yr will also be there because we have invited all of her family, her sister is going to take the baby home after the meal as she will have to get home to her own to small kids. That is it, all of the kids will hopefully be gone after the first dance 9/10pm because after that the reception is just drinking and is not a place for small children. We have a lot of people with very small children attending none of them have even considered asking. One has said she will have to pop home to check on baby sitter between ceremony and meal, another said she will probably go home after the meal (has a 4 month old), others are leaving their kids with family and staying over for the night. Its up to your guests to organise themselves.

I'm doing adult only reception and the only children there will be my Nephew (RB) and Niece (FG) and my SIL offered to have her mother come and get them right after the ceremony. I told her they're welcome to stay into the reception but if they get bored she can certainly come and get them.