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Etiquette rules: new users read and comment

Beatrice, on January 9, 2017 at 11:01 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 185

Why a Honeyfund is rude: -you're asking people for money -the website takes a percentage -people can't afford a vacation so why should they pay for yours -it's tacky -poems don't make it cute Asking for cash: -it's tacky and rude -guests know how to buy gifts -just don't make a registry -you can...

Why a Honeyfund is rude:

-you're asking people for money

-the website takes a percentage

-people can't afford a vacation so why should they pay for yours

-it's tacky

-poems don't make it cute

Asking for cash:

-it's tacky and rude

-guests know how to buy gifts

-just don't make a registry

-you can always upgrade something

-living together doesn't equate to not needing up upgrades

-why should someone give you cash

-if you're trying to save money by collecting others, reevaluate why your wedding is so expensive

-have the wedding you can afford.

-poems don't make it cute

Self catering

-botulism

-glitter covered slaves

-botulism

-potlucks are gross

-health risks

-stress

Dry/cash bar (only okay with AA or religion)

-not everyone is an alcoholic

-supply or beware of drunk drivers from bootleg

-thank your guests don't punish them

Friendors:

No one wants to work

They aren't qualified.

No one cares as much as you do

185 Comments

  • RJP
    Dedicated July 2018
    RJP ·
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    Ok.. I really don't want to sound dumb... I have been married once before but we eloped. So..im really new to all of this. Is it bad etiquette to pay for the alcohol of the wedding party and a cash bar for others? I am not saying I'm doing it this way. I am just curious? I want to have a nice, beautiful wedding that everyone enjoys. However, I don't know that I can afford to pay for the alcohol for everyone.

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    Master July 2026
    Beatrice ·
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    Yes it's bad etiquette Becky. That's a tiered cash bar.

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  • K.M.
    Master September 2018
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    Becky, that is extremely rude. One, that's a tiered wedding because you aren't treating all of your guests the same and second, all of your guests should be provided with free alcohol (wine and beer at minimum).

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  • RJP
    Dedicated July 2018
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    Thank you for the responses. As I said...really new to all of this.. had no idea there were so many things that are considered bad etiquette..

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  • MNA
    Master April 2018
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    @Becky: As others said, it is very rude. If you're having trouble affording food and alcohol, even just beer and wine, for everyone on the guest list, it is a sign your guest list is too big for your budget. Cut until you can afford to host everyone properly.

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  • Vandekerklove31717
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    Bump! It was getting too far from the top.

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  • Samtoine2017
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    Ahh ksh bump it

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  • Mrs.KatieK
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    Bump

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  • Mrs.KatieK
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    Much needed bump

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  • The Bride
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    Word.


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  • BecomingMrsOz
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    Bumps

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  • Mrs.KatieK
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    Bumping for people who don't understand how plus ones (and etiquette in general) work.

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  • Vandekerklove31717
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    First page is full of double rings, so I'm going to bump this back to the front.

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  • Caitlin
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    Bump... getting to close to the bottom of page 1

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  • MrsDSoonToBe
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    Bumping so it'll be on the first page.

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