End of May Wedding

I would wait to cancel or postpone right now but I would definitely read over all my contracts in case you do need to change things around. Good luck!

If it makes you feel reassured, i don't see the harm in just seeing what your options are if you did postpone

Our wedding is the week after yours. It's so hard to tell if the CDC guidelines would be extended or not. We are talking with our major vendor to come up with a "Plan B" date to celebrate our wedding in the event we would not be able to have the reception on our day. So far all of our vendors have been great to work with. Ideally, we would like to be married on our original day, but as of right now am not sure if we will be able to get our marriage license.

Same day as us ! We're waiting it out forsure...we going to give it till middle of April to know which is about 2 more weeks

Depends on a lot of things. Where are you getting married? What are the state-level restrictions in your state, and what does the outbreak look like in your state? Who are the people attending your wedding? Where are they coming from and how are they getting there? What is their level of risk? What are your dealbreakers -- i.e. if X, Y, Z people can't come, if only 50 people can come, etc.?

We were also supposed to get married 5/23 and rescheduled early last week. Our venue, which is located in Maryland, ended up canceling all weddings through May this week.

So, the question may be taken out of your hands by the venue canceling. Do you want to be in that position or would you rather be proactive?

We decided since ours is may 9th that we'll get $$ back from the vendor! Said they would! Have a small wedding and ceremony with about 10 people, then the end of August we will have a bigger reception with our 75 invited guests.

Ours is the same day as yours. I have been trying to play the wait game and not make a decision until mid-April. However after my fiance and I talked, and then I spoke with my parents, we decided to reschedule. I wanted to make the decision now versus later, just is case the venue got booked for the remainder of the year. Of course my heart is broken. I gonna make lemonade out of lemons. I the bright side is I have a lot more time to get in shape and loose a few more pounds to look even more AMAZING in my dress!!!

Best of luck and wishes to you and your fiance.

We're getting married the same date and are waiting until April 24th (our RSVP date) to make a call.

However, we've reached out to our venue and asked if they would consider holding a backup date for us for 45 days as a courtesy, until we're sure we can move forward. And we're reaching out to all of our vendors to get their postponement policies. We've also negotiated with our venue for them to move our due date for final headcount and payment to May 9th, to avoid paying for any last-minute cancelations from guests.

We planned a killer three-day-weekend specifically for all our friends and family, and want to have that experience and memory still, even if we have to wait. So we will postpone versus cancel. If I just wanted to marry my soulmate and best friend, I could have just gone to the courthouse, but what I wanted was three days to really spend TIME with all the people I love the most. I still want those memories because I know I really will cherish it the rest of my life, so I'm content to wait as long as I need to for it

Hi Nicholas! My heart goes out to you in this crazy time of stress and uncertainty!

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We're in the same boat, our date is the weekend after yours. We've been super stressed since we are planning for a week long traditional Indian wedding but decided we will wait until the end of April to make a call either way on going through with it or postponing. If we decide to postpone we will likely still get married (court wedding) and push the reception to a later date. It's super complicated trying to get all our vendors to line up for a Plan B date as we're doing a multi day/multi city thing and we started planning almost two years ago and have most of our vendors locked in for over a year. I recommend talking to your vendors about a Plan B, regardless of whether you need to use it or not. We're trying to take things in stride and remain optimistic. Hope it works out for all of us!

Ours is May 30th and we are waiting until mid-April to make a call. I did reach out to our venue just to touch base and they will not refund us but will apply our deposit towards another date, however they have super limited availability this year and it's really unlikely we'd find a date that works for us, our closest guests, and all of our vendors.

We are trying to hold on to a glimmer of hope that the situation will improve and we can still have the wedding we planned, but I think it's unlikely. However, I'm hoping that in the event the CDC guidelines or state guidelines were extended and our wedding was flat out illegal to have on that date, that maybe our vendors would be more willing to refund us and we can just cancel the wedding we planned and do a small ceremony instead. It's not what we wanted, but postponing our wedding for a whole year is not ideal for a number of reasons, and I can't imagine just pushing the date out and extending the feeling of this distress and uncertainty. Creating a Plan B just to create a Plan C just to have that not work either is just more emotional capacity than I have right now. The whole situation just sucks.

My FH is a musician and he is playing guitar in a wedding at the end of May. They are not cancelling as of right now.

Hi there, so sorry you are going through this too, you're not alone! I've just posted a lengthy message regarding this issue. I think it would really help you to read it.

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/june-couples-postponing-due-to-covid-19-encouragement/e2e6a03e5635af33.html

All the best,

Natalie

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Hi there, so sorry you are going through this too, you're not alone! I've just posted a lengthy message regarding this issue. I think it would really help you to read it.

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/june-couples-postponing-due-to-covid-19-encouragement/e2e6a03e5635af33.html

All the best,

Natalie

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Hi Natalie. Thanks but you need to realize every situation is different. In our case, we are already in our mid-30s, our wedding is smaller, and postponing a full year is not an "easy" answer for us. I'll comment more in depth on your other post.

That was our original date and we made the decision over the weekend to reschedule to 7/5. Our initial plan was to wait until mid-April, but we didn't want to miss the boat on other open dates if we waited too long. We live in the tri-state area where restrictions have been extremely heavy, have a number of elderly folks and a few pregnant friends on the guest list as well as people traveling in from out of town. It was an impossible and extremely painful decision to make, but one we knew we had to. We have been lucky enough that our vendors are essentially all lined up with the new date, but it has not been an easy process emotionally or logistically. I think our greatest fear was that the CDC guidelines would be extended, and we could not imagine them "opening up" the country for Memorial Day Weekend, but I really hope I'm wrong and that we get through this swiftly. Wishing you all lots of luck and strength. This is not an easy decision to make.