Dry Weddings are a hot topic on here, but...

Not to be mean here, but you're not the etiquette police or the one planning the wedding. Is your sister asking for your opinion? If not, i don't think it's your place to say anything. That being said, open bar is always better. Her guests will appreciate it.

The last time (and only) time I was at a dry wedding my fh and I left and went to the package store and came back with something for our entire table. It was a semi formal wedding so probably was highly frowned upon.

Is there any chance of a compromise? Perhaps only beer and wine served?

I personally don't understand the fascination with Alcohol. I don't like it and neither does my mother. Why should I put up 2G just so everyone else can drink away their insecurities. I'm providing great food and good music and most importantly quality family time. That should be enough.

Because, Private User, you're presumably trying to be a good host. "Drinking away their insecurities"? Judgmental much?

There is nothing wrong with an adult person wanting a glass of wine at a party, whether YOU like it or not.

Quality family time.... Can I get a refill?

I am not a big drinker (I maybe have one or two drinks during social times or more than a few at my bday or cousins Halloween party). I usually play dd for everyone. I'd never even heard of a dry wedding before I came to these forums. I always assumed you supplied alcohol and food at the reception because you are "thanking" your guests for coming to your wedding. Most people (at least the ones I know) want to have a few drinks when socializing. I asked a couple of my friends about dry weddings and they said "I won't go to one because they are so boring"

@Zoe seriously? Alcoholism? Not every one who drinks becomes an alcoholic (I grew up in a house with an alcoholic Marine from Vietnam! It's one of the reasons I don't drink much). I think you need to learn a little more. People don't like dry weddings because they usually tend to be boring and people leave early!

Also, I'm in Kentucky and only have limited wifi/data (I'm on my phone). Can someone share with OP the post from the girl who recently went to a dry wedding and EVERYONE complained and left to go to a local bar, including the brides parents? I can search and find it from my phone

@Private User, are just you and your mother attending your reception?

Great music (that no one will dance to because they're sober) and quality family time. Hopping wedding!

Anyone who says "that should be enough" is rude AF.

I've been to plenty of weddings and the few that were dry weddings, we're just BORING! It's understanding if alcohol is against someone's religion, I get it and I know one can have fun without liquor in their system, but from what I've experienced, weddings without alcohol, guests bail and it's no fun. I'm sorry.

I'm having a DW and it's in an all-inclusive resort, which means liquor is served at all times, free of charge. Even if I didn't have this option for my guests, I will pay for liquor to be served, why? Because they are taking their time to attend our wedding, spend money to travel, and enjoy themselves. As long as people know how to behave themselves, I'm all good with having all types of liquor! Cheers!

@Ghostly I think you have the right idea. If you know that most of your people don't drink, think of those that do and what they would like, get them involved in deciding what they would like if needed!

If she doesn't have Alcohol people will just sneak it in and over drink.

Goodness. Went from people giving great advice to people giving me shit for asking for my sister and giving my opinion because it is probably unwanted and I must not know my sister or her friends and guests...

Absolutely ridiculous.

I know my sister and her friends because they are my friends. We hang out in the exact same group. Secondly, yes - my opinion was asked. Thirdly, what the hell is wrong with some of you? Lol. Incredibly judgemental - not necessarily to me and my opinion, but definitely other posters and their opinion. Name calling is very uncalled for. I thought we were all adults here???

I just flagged Zoe. Her comments about alcohol are completely out of line.

Alcohol allows people.to relax and enjoy themselves more. I don't drink much, but I do enjoy a sip from time to time

Quality time with my family is what drives people to drink.

I don't really like the excuses that adults should be able to have fun without a drink, it's only a few hours, and my guests should feel honored to take part in the most important day of my life.

The thing is, I know a lot of people who work 50 hours a week, are on call on weekends and don't really get a lot of time to relax and unwind, especially if they have kids or other responsibilities outside of work. So, "just a few hours" may end up being their only opportunity out of the whole month to do something fun.

Also, consider the spouses or plus ones of your cousins/siblings/friends/coworkers etc. They may not know you very well and may not be honored to be a part of your special day. They're probably there out of obligation. Aside from the fact that they probably don't want to be there, they may not be close to other people or may not know them at all. It could be quite awkward for some people to have to mingle with strangers or acquaintances. Especially if they are like my FH or good friend and have social anxiety and are dead silent in groups of people they don't know well, even though they are actually the most hysterical and fun people I've ever met. Sometimes it takes a couple drinks to loosen people up and get them to lower their inhibitions.

Your big day is never as important to other people as you think it is. They'll be supportive, tell you how excited they are, and have plenty of positive things to say to you. Regardless of how happy they are for you and how special they want to make you feel, your wedding is not as big of a deal to everyone else as it is to you. It's just nice to do them a favor and try to make it a fun time, especially if it's in the evening and if there is dancing.

@MissM- So you are judging all receptions that serve alcohol by your one experience while simultaneously chastising PPs for judging dry weddings? And you are asking PPs why they can't go a couple of hours without drinking, while you apparently can't spend a couple of hours properly hosting your guests who drink? Pot meet Kettle.

And yes, the wedding CEREMONY is about the bride and groom. But the wedding RECEPTION is about thanking the guests for attending the CEREMONY.

I personally do not drink from Sunday night to Thursday night every week because of my job responsibilities. It's only water and coffee for me. When I hit the weekend all I want to drink with my meals is beer or wine. They are my favorite beverages as I don't like sweet drinks (pop, juice, etc.) It has nothing to do with the alcohol content. I would be ticked off if after getting all dressed up on a Saturday night, spending $100 on a wedding gift, and possibly spending money on transportation and a hotel room, I couldn't enjoy a glass of beer or wine with my dinner.

I went to a dry wedding and trust, my sisters and I had a bottle in each handbag. People were crashing our table and actually offering to pay for a shot! Long story short, a lot of the guests left early and went to the bar down the street.

I myself I'm not having alcohol at my wedding either because my family is strongly against drinking, also because our venue doesn't allow it and because we will have children at the wedding and reception and we don't want to be the causing factors if there is an alcohol related accident when our guests leave.

@FMW

So right! No one wants to spend the whole evening staring starry eyed at a couple and marveling at the wonder of their love while offering up their intangible support as a sacrifice to the romance gods. They want a party, they were invited to a party, the couple owes them a party. Give them one.