Dry wedding... **UPDATED**

I must agree with most. It is very generous that your dad is paying for the wedding. However it is all about you on the special day. If it is not what you dreamed of then don't do it. You are more than likely only going to have one and one wedding only. Make it about you!! Good luck. Chose wisely!

@Fabiola: No. It is only "all about you" if you're marrying yourself. Otherwise, it's about you and your groom, until you invite guests. Then it's all about your guests because you're now hosts. The reception is your thank you to the people without who, there would be no big wedding.

@Zoe: Amazing. Once again, your assumption is proven wrong. DF and I don't drink, yet plenty of the people we spend time with do.

You give so much bad advice. Please stop.

I am having a dry wedding, but i am also gettin married in a church, but even if i wasnt, i still would have a dry wedding. Alot of my guests will be older folks that i have known all my life, and most are from church. My reception isn't gonna be for hours and hours either though. It is gonna be shorter, but we are having a huge bonfire afterwards for ppl that wanna come drink and celebrate.

I saw your edit but I wanted to chime in that I think you and your FH paying for a consumption bar is a great option and compromise!

I come from the south and was raised with evangelical southern Baptist grandparents. They drank. Their friends drank. I hate hearing that southern Baptist = doesn't drink. That's your community, not all of them.

Carry on.

I'm in the exact same boat as you! I'm not having alcohol but in having an afternoon wedding! The people who care that much about alcohol can leave or not come! I've gotten major hate on here for that, but like you kist of my guests don't drink and the maybe 10 that do only drink every great once in a while! So I don't see it as necessary! I actually think it's kinda said that anymore people think you can't have a great wedding and reflection without alcohol!

There it is. "It's so sad that people can't have fun without a drink".

Drinks are a normal part of celebratory activities. I hate hard alcohol, but if I'm having a guest over that loves gin&tonic, then I get it for them. Good hosting, less entitlement. "They don't have to come" is not a good reason to not provide for your guests.

I'm having a dry wedding, too, and we're having dancing. I've only been to one wedding that had alcohol, and I think it was just champagne for the toasts.

Most of my guest list does not drink for religious reasons (and that includes me). I wouldn't even consider serving it at my wedding. Supposedly there are a lot of people who can't have fun without alcohol, but I find that sad, and I just don't keep people like that in my life.

I don't have advice. I'm just showing solidarity, I guess.

Ask for a consumption bar. If you want dancing till the cows come home, it won't happen at a dry wedding.

As for those who are having a dry wedding, what is the reason? If 10 people drink, then buy the 10 people a drink. It's not like it's religious.

Yay for your update but why did you post this??? Looking for some attention?

I say screw the booze and do what you and your family want! It is your wedding, and given that your family/religion/culture is so important to you, I think your friends will understand! Remember...it's YOUR day. People do not NEED alcohol to enjoy time together. Does it loosen people up? Sure. But I think you'll be just fine without it if that's what you choose.

@futuremrsg you're joking, right??

It is not YOUR day if you are hosting a party.

@BeachBride I was definitely not just trying to seek attention. I have gotten some great advice from these people and am now looking into some new options that I hadn't thought of, which is what I was in search of. Thank you all again!

@Hallie: I find it sad that some people choose not to be considerate of their guests and properly host them. The sense of entitlement and selfishness is strong with those particular groups, it seems. So sad, but then, I just don't keep people like that in my life.

90% of our guests will be from the church and are devout Christians.

Butt we will still serve wine and some other drinks. I contacted all my friends that drink to make sure that they drink wine and the other drinks that there will be and they said that was fine. They would've been fine without it. I understand why you're doing it. Growing up in Christian community and family, wedding never had alcohol and people danced and partied all night. But I think it's fair to serve alcohol to those who want it. My family doesn't know yet but I will be having a drink or two. Lol.

Also do not post her me for validation on a topic like this. It won't happen.

Honestly in my area, dry weddings are very common. I've only been to one wedding where alcohol was served and it was a cash bar. I never knew any of this was considered rude or disrespectful. In my opinion, I believe that it's ok to have a dry wedding.

My view is that a consumption bar does not resolve the issues that you have raised- specifically that your father will view it as disrespectful due to his religious conviction. In a situation where such a large majority of your guests will not drink, I think it's perfectly fine to not serve alcohol.

To me it sounds like where you are from dry weddings are common and since such a large portion of your guests do not drink I would not worry about no one dancing, they are probably used to parties and weddings without drinking. I originally wanted to have a dry wedding for a lot of the same reasons as you. I will be underage and so will a majority of my guests and I have been to numerous dry weddings and had lots of fun. but I do have guests who would enjoy a drink so I have decided to serve wine and beer for them. most of my guests will not be of age or do not drink but there are few who do and I want them to have a good time as well. I am not doing a full open bar or anything but probably just a few coolers of beer and a couple different wines will be plenty for them.