Drink tickets?

You wouldn't do drink tickets for someone coming to your house just to hang out or for a bbq. Bad hosting.

What do people not understand about the concept that asking your guests to open up their wallet at any point in the evening is crass??

You are HOSTING an event. That means that you. are. paying.

@Brittney no "hole has been dug" lol. This has been very informative. I'm still not sure what direction we will go, but definitely no tickets now!

I think this is hilarious. If I had a guest who would be offended that I only paid for two drinks for them after paying for an entire wedding (assuming you might be) those aren't the kid of people I'd be associating with anyway. Granted we are hosting beer and wine, if it wasn't in our budget we wouldn't cancel the wedding lol.

Idk your situation, were not asking for gifts etc, in fact part of the reason we're having a wedding is Bc our family would be upset if we got married without them however we are paying for it ourselves. If this is your case do what you want. Don't be bullied into doing something else.

It's not a good idea.

Whaaaaaat omg

@Brittany

Pretty much the same situation...and thankfully our guests are close and personal friends or family members and would not be offended at a drink minimum either!

At the end of the day we will do what feels right to us. I've said it in other comments, but my FH has 5 years sobriety and although many pp's think alcohol is a must to provide good service, we simply do not. With that said, we are looking in to beer and wine. Anyway, thank you for your input!

@Love thank you

Nyyyyyeeeeeaaaagative. Hard pass.

Love? I don't need to 'wipe my glasses", but thank you for recommending that. If I did, no doubt I would correct the multiple grammatical errors in your posts, so maybe you should be hoping they fog up even more. Not to mention the misplaced cap letters, but hey, what's a few errors between friends?

No. She cannot "do what she wants to do because it is her wedding". Once she has one guest, it's not her wedding anymore; it's a wedding constructed to entertain guests.

But hey, recommend wrist bands, hand stamps, tickets, whatever.

You're right. I'm not going.

@Love, you're still giving awful advice. "It's your day your way" sounds like a five year old who is throwing a temper tantrum.

As soon as you invite others, it ceases to be solely about the bride and groom. You can elope if you don't care about your guests. Your budgetary restrictions are not an adequate excuse for poor hosting. Sorry not sorry.

You don't care about your guests, fine. But that seems to be what you are going for, so I'm sure you'll accomplish that. Good luck.

It's crazy how people who don't serve unlimited alcohol are called a poor host. I will be having unlimited beverages and multiple choices of beverages, one NOT being alcohol. There will however be a bar in another room if anyone chooses to go get their own drink. I am proud of who we invited and what we have chosen to serve. I guess if you are THAT upset about me not having FREE alcohol for you, BY ALL MEANS take your card or gift back. Open the card you brought and use it to buy the alcohol you want. I didn't invite my guests for their gifts!

It's really sad that there are so many people that expect free alcohol, not just a beverage. I don't have snobby, wanna be high class, friends and family.

Oh lord. LURKKKKKK.

Tacky tacky. Bottom line.

We went to a wedding with a cash bar and all the guys spent most of the time in our friends truck drinking whiskey since they didn't feel like paying for it....

Jennifer, you mentioned hosting beer and wine. That's actually fine, because you're hosting something for guests who do want to drink.

I understand the drink part, but not the specific alcohol part. If you are serving them refreshments (AKA soda), tea, coffee ....and we are doing complementary champagne toast. it's not like we are telling people they cannot drink: alcohol does't take away from the wedding and we are not forcing them to spend money: its an option if they wish to drink or not.

If I was hosting a dinner at my house I wouldn't go get wine/beer just for the dinner, I may serve what i have at home (i normally have a bottle somewhere) but it wouldn't be an unlimited amount of beer and wine. I was assume they would expect water or soda.

ETA: actually, if I hosted a dinner it would be 99.9% likely the guest would bring a bottle of wine to the house.

I didn't read all the comments cause it seems like a lot of bickering but, I'll give you an honest observation here from my very own wedding.

I first hand witnessed one of my guests carry my card, not sealed, into the bar with them the first time they entered. They were 100% fully prepared to pull the money they had in there if I didn't have enough or was charging for it. There is no other reason for them to carry an open card into the bar. I received said card in my card box, sealed and containing their generous gift since I hosted properly and had plenty of beer, wine, and cider. But they were prepared to nix my monetary gift if I hadn't.

Even if you don't drink or don't care, remember that many adults like drinks as a social buffer at big events and many will be disappointed or worse. I know we hear people on here all the time say they'll take money from their gift if there's no drinks and I know for some that's hard to believe someone you know would really do. But it happens. Be a good host.

If you need to save money see if you can hire a private bartender and buy your alcohol yourself, I found its much cheaper than buying a bar package.

If you have drink tickets, how about adding hand stamps so people can leave and then reenter the reception? That keeps the carnival theme going!

Lol. Don't run out of alcohol. At least open beer and wine.

No alcohol does take away from the wedding! How the fuck do you think I got people to stay until 12:30am on a Thursday night?! Food, DJ, open bar, with a chocolate shot bar at the end of the night.

Learn people, LEARN.