Drink tickets?

If I showed up to a wedding and there were drink tickets a) I would check and see if I was at the correct space; and then b) bid a hasty goodbye, take my card and go.

Chances are if the bar is improperly hosted, everything else will be too, and no one wants to deal with that.

"It's your day" Ugh. No, Brittany. That does not justify poor hosting. Your guests should not have to pay for anything at a party that YOU are hosting to thank them for attending your wedding.

@LoveB that's shitty advice.

Proper hosting isn't subjective. Neither is etiquette.

At least own the fact that you don't want to properly host an event instead of trying to pretend proper hosting isn't a thing. It's a thing.

So is being rude to your guests.

This is me, not the OP . If she doesn't want to have alcohol then ok. The tickets I think are a crazy idea, people going o be selling them off and look in for more if they really want. I don't think providing alcohol is a wedding host thing, I have actually only been to one wedding with an open bar, out of seven or eight that I can remember. It's not a finance thing for everyone. Some people have reasons and some people have priorities. I don't think it make you a bad host.

Lots of strong opinions on here lol. I really do appreciate the feedback. I have not made any decisions about alcohol. My FH is 5 years sober so alcohol is not a high priority. We definitely want to be good hosts while being conscientious of cost. Beer and wine will more than likely be the route we go. The tickets actually came across cheesy to me (not at all rude). Fortunately the people we are inviting are long time friends and family...not people who would leave because of tickets which in no way indicate poor hosting of entire wedding @jessiejv

But to each his own

Ewwwww! So tacky!

@OP, no to the drink tickets.

@Lindsey, yes to a dry wedding. Everyone has different dynamics in their family. At the end of the day, your responsibility as host is to make sure your guests are having a good time and are safe. If your dad and his family can't behave themselves (and you absolutely have to invite them) then skip the alcohol. At the end of YOUR wedding day, you still have to live with and be around your family. Do what's best for you and your guests.

Death and weddings bring out the worst in people...ugh!

Not having any FOOD or a place to sit would be improper hosting....and I would say excluding a bar would be the least of a guest's worries. If you need to drink that bad at my wedding then there is a strip dedicated to really fun bars and whatever else your pleasure is just over on the other side of the bridge...by all means help yourself.

Drink tickets are for my quarterly alumni association happy hour, not for a wedding.

Yeah FYI, if you're inviting people who are such inappropriate drinkers that they're getting into fights at formal affairs, they probably have a flask in their pocket to chug in the bathroom... so whether you provide "tickets" or even a dry wedding, this is still going to happen.

You don't have to listen to people calling you tacky. I don't care what they think. Everyone's idea of tacky is different. While I don't think it's a good idea, you can just offer beer and wine. Or find a venue for byob and make alcohol readily and available to your guests.

@Vicki....pump your brakes followed by breathing into a brown paper sack...mmmmkay???? In my culture, you first provide your guests with a greeting, followed by a seat and then refreshments. If you do not provide the alcohol--it is not seen as being rude as long as you provide them with food and great music to dance to. In fact, when they come, they are the ones who supply the alcohol as gifts. Unless you are privy to every single culture in the world and their traditions, then maybe you should not come for me and tell me that my advice is "shitty." My, aren't we grown up today!!!!! OP can do what she wants. If you want to spend a "squillion" bucks in order to host your guests properly at your boozy wedding then, great.

@Cassidy-it is gauche to make any of your guests pay for anything at your wedding. Your reception is a thank you to your guests. If you cannot host them properly with food, drinks, chairs and temperate conditions, elope.

FSS Brittany, no venue in my area (nj/ny) does that. I have NEVER seen a limited bar (or a cash bar) in close to 1500 weddings. I have also not seen aunt Edna get so trashed she pulls her panties over her head and dance on the bar, but maybe my couples are different....

It is NOT your day once you invite one guest. And no, Cassidy, 'tacky' is not subjective. Tacky is tacky, and drink tickets are.

Beer and wine is always suggested here, which you'll find out once you lurk some more. BYOB is never suggested because of the liability associated with that.

@LoveB aside from very limited religious exceptions, a dry wedding is rude. Budget constraints doesn't count.

I am not "coming for you" whatever the hell thats supposed to mean. Other posters including yourself mention budget as a factor; when budget is the reason, it is indeed rude to not host your guests properly.

Tacky to you may not be tacky to someone else based on what they prefer. @Cassidy did NOT think it was tacky to be given a drink ticket because she is not a drinker and she was mainly there to celebrate the happy couple and not to get buzzed.

Yeah, well all have different ideas of what proper hosting is. It's up to th OP to hear what all we say and let the OP decide. only one wedding in MA I have been in has had an open bar and I have never even thought that alcohol would be free. But that's my family and friends and where I live. We aren't keeping them from drinking or not serving them anything to drink (non alcoholic)

@Love-Cassidy is in the minority. The majority of people don't believe people should pay for anything at people's weddings. I have never been to a cash bar wedding but you can bet your arse that if I found myself at one, I'd be either taking cash out of the gift I brought or leaving as quickly as I could. That's a faux pas I wouldn't abide.

@Lindsey-no, proper hosting is proper hosting no matter where you are. Food, drinks, place to sit, temperate conditions. You just haven't been properly hosted.

I truly don't understand why anyone would leave a wedding just because there's no alcohol. That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. I'm not a fan of the drink tickets, but am a fan of a consumption bar if you don't have many guests that drink. Maybe that's an option.