Drink tickets?

Butt when you say "drinks" you are really meaning alcohol.

Providing, water, soda, specialty home-maid lemon aid, tea and coffee does not account for drink? It has to be alcohol or it' doesn't count?

@Brittney-I wouldn't leave if there wasn't alcohol, so long as there's something. If I have to pay for it, I'm not sticking around because chances are, there's going to be way more egregious etiquette disasters on their way.

@Jessiejv...unless you have polled every single person in the world as to what proper hosting at a wedding means to them and how they feel about drink tickets, you truly do not know that Cassidy is in the minority. No one is asking the guests to pay when they have been provided with drink tickets.

@Love lol this is the internet. I can comment on whatever I want. I don't have to stay in my lane. And you really can't tell me how to post either.

Having no alcohol because of your budget is rude. Cut your guest list, push your date back, or be rude to your guests. That's all there is to it.

This went left quickly!

Just don't have drink tickets FFS!

Yuck.

Love? That's an inappropriate response to Vicki. And I'd love to go to one wedding where every guest is greeted. Cute idea. Not done.

Of course, OP can do anything she wants. And no one will tell her they hated it.

A "squillion".

That's a lot.

@Love-the majority of people on WW disagree with drink tickets, statistically, using them as a representation for the greater community in terms of diversity, you could easily correlate it to the real world.

And Love? You can't call people names...like 'Booze hound".

My cousin's wedding had drink tickets for the first round of drinks since it was included in the package they got and than from there it went to a consumption bar after that. Everyone grab the first drink during cocktail hour with the ticket and than after pictures and they walked in every drink was on the bride and groom. Since it was a lunch wedding there was too much drinking going on.

@Love-what happens when the first two drink tickets disappear? Are there going to magically be more? I doubt it, either you have to mooch off people or pay at the bar. BTW, most people drink two drinks within their first hour, so mass exodus.

So @Love calling someone a "booze hound" is rude and offensive. You don't know people's back story. What if someone who was recovering was reading this? How rude.

As for the question, what about possibly talking to your venue/bar tending staff and telling them to be very alert about consumption? That way you aren't the poor host, it is the venue? Just throwing it out there as a possibility, though I'm not sure about etiquette with this.

@Sarah-a good bartender will always appreciate a heads up about Uncle Bobby. We then know to slow pour them and watch for signs to cut them off.

@Jessie, thanks! Just wasn't sure about the "bad hosting" aspect to it all.

Nah

Omg bad idea if can't afford a wedding just save to have a nice one

@Michele C- read the comments. Money wasn't the reason.

You won't have positive feedback on here for drink tickets

Lindsay, so not only did your father's family members fight at one alcohol based wedding you remember attending (out of eight? Is that what you remember?), but there was a recent fist fight between you uncle and cousin that involved the police and a ruined, very expensive wedding cake? Well, I hope you aren't inviting them to your wedding. The bio connection doesn't trump the potential ruination and humiliation the hosts might face at one of the most expensive -- probably THE most expensive -- event the couple will host. Why punish everyone else? I get it...these are not people with a particularly impressive pedigree (and I don't apologize for making that assumption because anyone who starts a boxing match at a couple's wedding does not deserve to mingle with socially polite individuals at a formal, once in a lifetime, event). But, I get it. These people, the ones in your family, would you assume, "sell" their drink tickets? Even at the tackiest drink ticket wedding, nobody is making cash on selling their tickets. The tea-totalers are giving them away and the alcoholics came prepared with flasks...so, your argument holds no water. Those who just like a good party will organize a party, leave after dinner, and enjoy an evening together at a bar.

Beer and wine served at an open bar is now considered totally acceptable. It is far less expensive than having an open bar that includes even the lowest grade of liquor, which is well liquor. To think that a couple actually invited so many people that they had to limit their guests to two bottles of beer of two glasses of wine says a lot -- not in words, but in motivation. We want the optics and we sure as hell want the gifts.

OP, no drink tickets. Host an open beer and wine, but how does one approve handing out the equivalent of cheap, carnival ride tickets. Many of those guests won't consume more than two drinks, but a proverbial ankle bracelet is demeaning and cheap. And Lindsay -- I think it was you who mentioned something about people attending weddings for alcohol. Hell, no. They do not. When will this idiotic argument die a death. It's far cheaper to host a party at your home with bottles -- if what you want is a drunk party. Attending weddings because the end goal is to get drunk? That's absurd, and the couple will end up spending (after factoring in travel, clothing, gifts, and lodging) more on a single drink than they've ever spent in their lives.

Each and every time I receive an envelope that obviously contains a formal wedding invitation, the first thing I think of is, "Oh, excellent! Another wedding! Another love story! Another opportunity to see Sharon, Steve, Richie, Aunt Carolyn (who's 90), Ellen, Mark, Patti, Mike, Maureen, Brian, Jeannie, Matt, Nancy, John, Denise, Carl, Michael, Rita, Jeannie, Mary Frances, Aunt Rita, my siblings, etc. I think of the opportunity to dress beautifully and spend time catching up with my family. I think of being hosted beautifully -- being treated like a VIP at a fancy event. Yeah, sure, alcohol is part of that. Fly the flag of prohibition all you want, but alcohol and parties go together, and fighting it is fighting human nature. I mean, I guess we could all meet in church every two years and share some coffee and cake in the basement, but that ain't much of a party. Actually, when it comes to being judgmental, I find a majority of the most offensive stuff coming from those who want the crowds but don't want the bill to make that party rock.

So, if that's how a couple feels -- we want the optics and the gifts, but we're serving "drinks" that include lemonade and iced tear...well, fine, but don't try peddling that nonsense to those who see behind the veil...and a majority of guests see very, very clearly.

'Everyone is going to be happy just by being there for you on your day. You don't need an open bar to satisfy your guests.'

This just seems so bizarre to me. Before I invite friends over to my place for dinner, I make certain I have wine and beer for them with their meal. So for my wedding (that my friends have travelled for, bought a gift for, gone to an effort for) of course I will make sure all their drinks are covered for the night. It's just common courtesy.