Drink tickets?

No need to be rude. *No one is being rude

But you should not drop an exorbitant amount of cash to have alcohol if you don't have it. *No one suggested exorbiant

I'm all for open bar, but don't bitch at someone else because they want to get married with their friends and family and would prefer to skip the booze It's her wedding, and she's entitled to have an awesome time, despite what you think.

People have the wedding they can afford and it's to celebrate the union of two people they love, not to get wasted. *Why jump to "wasted?"

but some people just can't economically spend 30,000 dollars on a wedding. *Where did that amount come from???!

One can host guests by providing them with food and hospitality. *And alcohol

Taking out a loan for your wedding just to imbibe your guests is just dumb. *Agreed. No loan. Budget correctly

If you want to go down in history for one of the worst weddings, go for it. You will never live that down, and your wedding will be memorable for the wrong reasons. Hey you can have fun games and have guest earn tickets....Not. If you have a problem with people not being able to handle their intake, the bar tenders job is to cut that person off. Don't make everyone suffer for a few rotten apples.

We're doing an open beer, wine bar with a signature drink. Champagne will be available for the toasts.

Noooooo

I did drink tickets at my first wedding (DISCLAIMER: It was over 10 years ago when I was 20 and young and naive and broke and I now know it's tacky and bad). It was a disaster....my former FIL handed out tickets, gave too many to some, none to others, people complained to the in-law's family about it and it was overall a bad idea. This time around I'm doing pretty much the opposite of everything I did the first time because now I know better.

Properly host your guests. Go with a consumption bar or serve unlimited beer and wine. Just don't do tickets or a cash bar. Your guests will remember and you will (likely) be embarrassed about it in the years to come.

Personally, i dont like that idea Theres a venue that fh and I wanted it was our ideal/dream venue but they don't allow you to bring in any alcohol only water they give you like 2 tickets per family but everything else has to come out of pocket which is why we ended up choosing a different venue where we'd be able to host our own alcohol unlimited. Many ppl say the same thing about that venue that they dont like how you have to purchase your own drinks

@JessieJV because taking cash out of the gift isn't tacky?

Seriously. I'm not fond of the ticket idea-but I consider it an honor to even be invited and I'm not going to complain about the number of drinks that weren't offered. I'm in attendance to celebrate their special day and I don't consider the reception their "gift to me" nor do I consider anything done at the reception equal to anything I would expect at their home. I would never judge any of this as "crass or tacky". They are celebrating their day in the way they want. When I celebrate mine-I will do it my way.

I've been to several weddings in our family for the past year or so. My wedding was the only one with a totally open premium bar... Guess which wedding everyone is still talking about having the greatest time at after a year?

@Cassidy-Never did I say that you shouldn't host a wedding you can't afford. If you cannot afford to comfortably host 100 people with food and beverages, then cut you damn guest list.

@Jessica-When in TackyTown, I shall do as the peasants do.

I love how some of you keep talking about how expensive open bars are. I had a beer and wine open bar for around $1,300 for 85 guests, and that was with having a shit-ton left over at the end of the wedding. It's not that expensive, and it should be one of your highest priorities when making a wedding budget.

@A&W- Up here it's more expensive to have a cash bar because the license is more expensive for the venue.

@Jessie, wow, that's crazy. I wish it were like that here because then maybe it wouldn't happen so much. Luckily, I've never been to a cash bar wedding.

I actually agree with Nonna T and JessieJV. Good Lord.

I think highly of my guests and wanted to do everything I could to make sure they enjoyed their time at my wedding. I knew how much energy, money, time and work can be spent into getting lodging, clothing, transportation etc. to attend a wedding. Providing alcohol for them to celebrate with me was the only option.

Not providing alcohol just makes me think you're cheap. Or you prioritize your own wants over the experience of your guests. I went to a wedding that probably was $60,000 and it had a cash bar... definitely took out $150 of my $200 gift at that one. If someone pays for a $5000 dress but doesn't care enough to pay for their guests drinks, that is extremely rude. And entitled. Like "Oh sorry I deserved this expensive ass dress for my special day and you should just be lucky I invited you here to be in my presence, now go buy yourself a $6 beer".

OMG Nancy, let us write this date down for posterity!

Alcohol only gets expensive and unnecessary when people have to pay. I'm guessing all these pro cash bar people are having dry bach parties too? Will your bridal party be giving you two drink tickets for the night?

Looks like weddings do bring out the worst in some folks. Some of y'all need to chill. There is no harm in constructive dialogue.

My bridal party and bachelorette party is dry. I never knew drinking was such a big deal ?

@Lindsey - But have you met WINE? It's a big deal!