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Downsizing ??

Sharlene, on August 8, 2020 at 6:48 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 3
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We sent Save the Dates in Match for our November wedding. We are planning on sticking to our November date but we lost our venue and need to downsize from 250 to 150 guests. What is the appropriate way to notify the guests that received save the dates but will not receive an invitation?


Latest activity by Lynnie, on August 11, 2020 at 1:00 PM
  • Tara
    Savvy August 2020
    Tara ·
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    We sent out our save the dates literally two weeks before the pandemic hit. Ugh. We’re now having a much smaller ceremony in my parents’ backyard at the end of the month. Here’s some of what I wrote in our email to guests we had to uninvite:

    “Due to the circumstances surrounding COVID-19, we have made the difficult decision to reimagine our wedding plans. Unfortunately, we must reconfigure our guest list in order to meet state requirements and ensure the safety of our loved ones. This means we will only be able toaccommodate our immediate family at an intimate ceremony.”
    I also let them know that we would be doing a Zoom call for those who couldn’t attend in person but still wanted to see the ceremony. I felt really weird about it but everyone was completely understanding.
    Good luck with your plans!
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  • Sharlene
    November 2020
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    Thank you! Your suggestions for wording is helpful.
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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    Hi Sharlene! I'm so sorry you're dealing with this! Downsizing is tough, but you're definitely not the only one who has needed to scale back their wedding so your guests should understand.

    We have some tips on scaling back in this article: How Do I Downsize My Guest List if I’ve Postponed My Wedding? and you can also check out these forum posts from other couples facing similar situations: Can you take back Rsvp’s??, Cutting the Guest List, and You are uninvited letter.

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