Can you take back Rsvp’s??

This website has a good template in case you need to uninvite guests: https://theeverylastdetail.com/coronavirus-wedding-postponement-email-templates-to-send-to-guests/


I would recommend sending it the same way you sent your invites (through mail, email, etc).

While it definitely sucks, I think people will be very understanding. I also think a lot of people probably wouldn't be comfortable attending an event as big as you have described so they might decide on their own that they don't want to attend. I think if you have to uninvite people then I would probably call each person and kindly explain the situation. I think emailing or texting is rather impersonal.

Normally you can't graciously uninvite people, but with covid, you may have to and people should be understanding. It might go over better if you explain that you can't have everyone you want to celebrate wedding there in person because of covid concerns and/or restrictions, but they're still welcome to join you via Zoom/FaceTime/Skype/Google Hangouts. That way they're not totally excluded.

I'm not sure how you would invite people. But I feel like with everything going on they should be understanding. Plus with things not getting better in your state you might not have to worry about uninviting guests because you might end up with a lot of people not going do to them not wanting to risk getting covid. I guess I'd say if you gave people a plus one maybe tell them they no longer can have a plus one if they aren't in a relationship or in a serious relationship because of circumstances. Im sorry I don't have any better advice. I hope you find a good solution to this.

I'm sorry I meant to say uninvite people in the first sentence

View Quoted Comment Yah, that’s a good idea about asking them to not bring a plus one. There have been very few cases where I live in Michigan (under 100 total confirm d cases since March), but downstate isn’t good and I have a feeling it might effect the whole state.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!’n I’ll check this out.

People are a lot more understanding than you think. If you explain the situation to them you will be fine. This is a strange situation that we’re going through- also some people don’t want to go to large gatherings. Good luck!

I'm sorry but I guess I'm going to go against the crowd on this one. There's no way to un-invite a guest without offending them. Hopefully the number of guests allowed doesn't drop, but I'd think if the rules change, wouldn't your venue have to refund you? It's going against the law.

View Quoted Comment I think our vendor will try their best to work with us. But they can’t give a definite answer since we aren’t in any situation that is causing us to reduce our numbers yet. However since we will not be postponing in any way (ceremony or reception) I’m afraid we might have to uninvite guests if they reduce the max number of people allowed to gather outside.


I agree with you. There really isn’t a way to uninvite them without offending them. But, honestly the day is only about Chris and I and we would love to celebrate with everyone if we can. If we can’t then we have to do something to make it work. We have been together for 10 years, we want to start a family. If we can’t have the traditional wedding or at least exactly as we are planning we are ok with that. Being married to each other is what really matters, so if people are offended then I can’t help that. There is a pandemic going on, so it’s not like we are saying “oh we can’t afford our catering bill we now have to downsize.” So I really hope they are understanding. If they are our friends or family I would hope they would be. However we both suck at wording things and etiquette, so maybe I’m wrong and we will piss off everyone that can’t come. Someone else posted a link to a template to help people who are having to do this. It looked pretty helpful. Fingers crossed we don’t have to go down this road. It’s such an awkward thing to face.