Downsizing wedding after STDs are sent out...help?

@Morris We could afford the wedding when the honeyfund was set up, I've said that several times. The honeyfund is an alternative to a traditional registry and, though you may find it tacky, that is our decision.

Future Mrs Caraher - I know you are already decided, but just be aware that A LOT of people find honeyfunds tacky, and even though a polite family member/guest may not say something to you, they might be on the side that it's tacky as well. Also, these honeyfund websites do take a percentage cut (for accepting credit card). MANY people will give you cash anyway, so why bother with a honeyfund...?

There is no way to politely disinvite people. But since you are justifying it by saying you want to have an intimate ceremony, be prepared for the aftermath. Those who don't make the cut are going to be hurt/offended. As far as the honeyfund, tackier than disinviting people who have already received an "invitation".

You have received advice from the previous posters. Just because it doesn't validate your choices doesn't mean that it isn't good advice. There is simply no way to do what you are planning to do without being rude and hurtful to the guests you are now wanting to uninvite.

Apparently out of all these comments I'm the only one that thinks its tacky?.. Oh ok.. You already want to uninvite 100 people so i guess you're already aware of how rude this is.

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Interesting evolution in this thread. You started out by telling us you'd rather save for a house than host these people who you sent STDs to. Then you said you were counting on money from relatives who said they'd contribute, leading us to think you genuinely couldn't afford these people. Now you're back to saying that you're trying to save up for a house and you'd rather put the $7000 toward that than to host these people.

FYI, do what you want, but people have a right to feel how they want about you. They will talk, they will be angry, they will be hurt, and some may no longer consider you a friend. Just be aware and do what you want.

Good Lord...reading this is giving me a headache.

Too late

Thinking about it, if I got a save the date and then they said nvm it's a smaller wedding, I wouldn't believe them

As others have said, its too late. There is no way to do this without being extremely rude and potentially ending friendships and ruining relationships with family and friends.

Honeyfund too?! Oh lawwwwdddd. What next? Self catering?

Yep........a really good reason STD's are a bad idea.

Too little thought too late in the game.

elope.