Downsizing wedding after STDs are sent out...help?

It's too late now.

Noooo! If a lot of people are from out of town and get a STD they may have already made arrangements to come. Also, if someone called you and said sorry you were invited but we had to make cuts, wouldn't that hurt your feelings?

Yeah not sure, you shouldn't of sent STDs if you were unsure. Its going to be painfully obvious who didnt make the second cut.

STD = invite. You can't uninvite people this way without being super rude. It is frankly your fault - you sent them and now you want a "take back". I woudn't do it. I would live with my decision.

This is why, once again, many of us say not to send STDs at all or to limit them to ONLY VIPs.

It's definitely too late now. You could do it, I could fly a plane, but it would crash. It would be immensely rude to now tell about 1/2 of your guests that they're not invited anymore. "Hey guys you're not cool enough to come." Um...no.

I agree - a little too late since you've already sent the STDs out.

Hate to tell you but there is nothing you can do now. This is why it is said to only send STDs to people you 100% know you want there. would be extremely rude and tacky to do not invite them.

It's too late... why on earth did you send save the dates if you weren't sure.

Unless you were changing your plans to just elope or do something private (actually private, not private with 50 of your closest friends), there's no polite way to do this. If you still have a party and just some people get the ax, it would be incredibly rude.

Too late now. The only acceptable reason for changing now is you eloping for personal, family, medical, or emergency reasons. Not because you didn't think about your vision and desires BEFORE you sent out STD's.

Why do people send STDs without a 100% firm guest list & budget?

It's not like you had a tragic event, i.e. losing a job, injury, etc.... deciding a big wedding "isn't your style" at this point is kinda lame. You'll just have to scale back in other ways. I'm sorry!

Unless you are going from 150-10/15 people it's incredibly rude.

Absolutely nothing can be done. You can only cut those guests that did not receive STDs.

edit: ugh spelling

As others have said, you can't uninvite others. It would be extremely rude. Did you only send it to OOT guests?

Too late. Another reason I hate STD's.

@Princess Consuela, the hope is that it will be private. Immediate family, plus my best friend of 12 years and FH's best friend of 8 years.

To add a little more context on this, FIL's and my father had let us know how much they were planning to contribute from the beginning, but now their financial situations have changed as well and it is going to be financially difficult for us to accommodate potentially 150 people.

Well, if your plans have changed that drastically to just immediate family and the two bffs (should be less than 12 people) maybe you could call everyone and tell them. Your original post makes it sound like you only wanted to invite 75 or something instead of the 150.

You'd honestly have to cancel the entire wedding, then have a super small wedding with no more than 10-15 VIPs.

Do you have a venue? Try to pick something more low key maybe.

You can't "politely" uninvite someone to something. If you are going to do a super small ceremony now, you should at least call and tell the former guests, though. You should be prepared for a lot of hurt feelings.