Do you feel guilty spending all this money?

I don't feel bad or guilty but I wish is wasn't that expensive

I feel the same way. I just realized ( Like sat down and actually looked) at how much money we are spending. I am not happy about it but i also don't want a sucky wedding either. Tried to convince my fiance lets do a destination and he refused. Said his family won't travel.

When I was planning I would feel guilty at times for how much things cost. However once our day rolled around and now looking back....I have no regrets. Our wedding was beautiful and we got so many compliments on every aspect which I planned everything and made most everything myself. It felt so good. Although I went to a wedding after mine that she spent way more than I did for a much smaller wedding than mine and it wasn't near as nice as mine. So I honestly think it's a matter of how you budget and shop. I was definitely shopping around for the best deals. I wasn't one to just purchase anything at any time.

Don't feel bad just think before you let the excitement make you go over board.

I don't regret spending money on such a special day.

Same here and I have three kids so I feel guilty as well even though I know this is a moment I can't get back I can't get pass the money we are spending

View Quoted Comment I needed to hear that!

Nope, I surely do not regret any of it lol. We have focused on spending on things that we really wanted and letting a lot of other things go. So yes it is way more money than I would ever spend on one party (until a 10 year vow renewal lol) but it is about more than us..two families joining together is priceless to me. I am very thrifty and I feel like we are having an affordable wedding for the HCOL area that we live in.

View Quoted Comment @Adrianna are you including the money your family is spending on the food they’re cooking in that?
@Pegs I always wanted to do a wedding in Greece but when we priced it out it was a little bit much. Do you mind me asking what your budget is?

I don't think you are being dramatic. I feel the same way. When the deposit for venue and honeymoon were paid I kind of freaked out. I don't have any regrets because I do want this memory with the love of my life, we just have to get use to the expense of paying for this one day. Just remember to breathe and relax and remember you only get to do this day once with your love so make it count.

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Totally agree

My dress was 3k. I feel guilty at times but you only get married once~

Sometimes I feel guilty because my parents are paying for it, but my mom constantly, and I mean constantly reiterates how nice she wants everything to be for me and for all of the guests, so I tend to just put all of it out of my mind.

I have said it before, but I feel guilty when I see people's budgets on here. In my city the average wedding costs $60k. But when I see here people spending $10-15k it makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong.

I'm constantly torn between backing out of our contracts and losing thousands of going forward. The thing is, I had a small wedding the first time and always felt like I missed out. So that keeps me going. I don't want those regrets again.

Yes! I feel this too! I’m so excited to have a wedding with all our family and friends celebrating with us, but every time I have to write a check it makes my stomach drop, thinking of all that we could do with this money. Sometimes people make comments to FH and I about how this is only one day, why are you doing this or this? And it gets to me and makes me think wow, we should’ve just eloped. Especially when you add in all the stress and drama. I think it stems from me being really cautious with money though, seeing it spent on things I would usually never do is so foreign to me! But I know our day will be amazing so I try to think of that.

I mean, would I love if I could've had the wedding I wanted, and had, for half of what we paid? Of course, who wouldn't? But do I regret spending what we spent? Nope. I only plan on doing this once, and we have the rest of our lives to make more money.

Yep definitely do...There's so much more, less selfish things I could be doing with the money. Either giving to charity, saving, or paying off student loans. I think that's true of many of us here.

Yea I feel guilty all the time and wish we had eloped lol

What really helped me is that we had a smaller wedding with only our closest friends and family. And overwhelmingly, the majority of our budget went to venue/food and beverage, so I had no issues treating my guests. If I had a larger wedding with people I wasn't as close to, I think I would have felt that more.

My aunts who came said the reception felt like a gift for them (they've had to do tons of work at all my cousin's weddings), and that's exactly what we wanted.

However, our parents didn't contribute much and we already had money in savings. It didn't affect our lifestyle, paying off debt, or affect our future plans such as a house.

I feel slightly guilty with the spending, but also realize it's one very special day that I won't ever get back again. Kind of like going on a vacation (for me) and spending all that money. I rarely ever do it, but know that sometimes it is needed and makes for great, lasting memories!

Oh heck yes! 100% guilt every time I pay something off or put deposit down. I have major issues with spending money so that doesn’t help. But I think it’s so crazy to spend all this money for everyone else (food, drinks, A WEDDING). I just don’t care honestly.