Divorced Parents Drama Vent

Same her but mom complained about it all. Anytime shed ask about how much something (wedding related) costed, she'd b***h "well you need to go get your father to pay for it since he never helped me when you were kids" (which is bull because he gave her over 3g a month in child support, even when i was LIVING with him and is still willing to help me with college). My mom didnt kick in a dime. My dad and step mom paid for the food and venue, we paid the rest. My dad even bought my dress. I ended up going off on her during our rehearsal dinner because she would stop trying to talk s**t about my dad and being passive aggressive. At least she was able to shut up and be civil the wedding day. Even with him footing so much of the wedding bill, he never mentioned her not coming. His only request was asking me to invite 6 people he wanted there and was paying for. When my mom found out she flipped out wanting her random bar friends there so I told her if she was gonna pay, they can come lol

I have this in spades. I have had a really rocky relationship with my father. He got out of Jail 8 months ago, he has been a heavy drinker all my life, it's just an ugly situation. He and I have mended fences since his getting out of jail, and I understand he doesn't have a job, he's been trying, and he can't really help pay for anything. He needs to focus on himself. My mother however thinks that he should be helping paying for this wedding. She has even said that if he isn't going to help he shouldn't come. She doesn't want to be seated anywhere near him, and he is saying he shouldn't come because it would upset her. I am very close to my mom, but I think my father should be at my big day. It's a just plain ugly situation. Divorced parents really sucks. They are causing me the most stress of anything.

I am a divorced parent, but my kids are not at the wedding stage yet. We did have an issuse at Christmas where my kids came home from their dad's with a present almost identical to what we were giving my son. Initially I was really upset. I think no matter what happens after a divorce there are always going to be some kind of feeling left over. You just have to put them aside for the good of the kids. I am not saying what your mom is doing is right, but I can really understand where she is coming from. You never know how you might react to something until you are in that situation yourself. Have you talked to her about how you feel? That might help if she knows how much it is bothering you.

It get even better when your parents have divorced mutliple times I have an "ex-step mother" who raised me and is still my mother in my eyes! My father is always bad mouthing her and does not want her invited to my wedding either, so I feel your pain! She has stated if it will cause issues she will not attend and is happy knowing I want her to be there! Thank god somebody can be an adult about it all! I still have no idea what I am going to do!

Ugh, I understand completely. My mom isn't currently talking to me over a PICTURE of my dad I had in my house. I don't think the drama ever ends... it's unfortunate.

I understand this 1000 fold. I want my dad to walk me odwn the aisle for the traditional aspect, but also my mom b/c she was the parent that really raised me and made me into the woman i am today so I feel she deserves the honor. My mom is being gracious about it, althought I know she wishes it was just her, she stays quiet, my dad on the other hand voices it any chance he can get how much he "doesn't want to walk down the ailes with mother"...really b/c I thought you were walking down the aisle with me??? grr haha

Its FH family that is acting that way. My parents divorced 27 years ago and have learned that they need to be tolerant of each other. I LOVE them for that.

FH family on the other hand, only divorced about 6 years ago and still loathe each other. Do I have the right to put them in their place? Especially my FFIL- who refuses to help on any sense but then yelled at me when I told him we cannot afford an Open Bar--just beer and soda. He is allergic to beer; well, no one told me till he did!

Good luck ladies--may we all NEVER have to put our children through these issues!!!

Thank heavens my ex and I didn't behave that way at my son's wedding. My ex and I escorted our son down the aisle. We ended up with a head table at the reception that included the bride and groom, the bride's parents, my ex, my son's first nanny, my wife, and me. And everyone behaved like adults and made nice for the sake of the bride and groom.

Thanks ladies. Glad i am not in this alone. My parents divorced about 6 years ago so there is still tention. They do have 4 kids so have to get along for us. My dad is a big drinker and spends all his money at the bar. So i dont even want to ask him for money. Plus he told my sister at her weddng this past summer that he would pay for her rehersal dinner and ended up that day not having the money and it was just a big mess. Im so happy my mom can contribute, just wish she would leave my father out of it.

The only drama I am having from my divorced parents is about who will walk me down the aisle. I want my dad and my stepdad to walk me down, but my dad is throwing a fit about it. He is acting like a 2 year old. He says if my stepdad walks me down also then everyone will think he is a deadbeat dad. But I dont think thats the case. But he says if thats what I choose then he wont come to my wedding. My stepdad has been in my life for 11 years and has been there just as much for me as my real dad has. And he does anything and everything for his stepchildren. He has been a really great dad. And I have made sure to tell him all this. So I have decided that no one is walking me down. I will walk by myself.

I'm in the same boat ERin. My dad is a big drinker too, when I asked him for money, he told me that weddings ruin your life and are the biggest waste of money ever. My mom, uncle and FMIL are all contributing, and we are ending up not having to pay for much at all. Its to the point of .. I can't even seat my parents at the same table, Mom is fine with him, its my father that will cause the problem. Who are you having walk you down the aisle Erin? Thats my biggest dilemma right now ..

That's really tough. I'm sorry to hear so many of you are going through that....

The only people divorced and bitter are my grandparents, and they've skillfully avoided seeing each other for the last 20 years.