My parents have been divorced for many years because my dad fell out of love with my mom. I've accepted it but I know my mom will never be over it My dad has a gf that she doesn't know about. It's serious and they plan to move in together. I think my mom has a feeling, but she's never been able to confirm it. I plan to tell her well ahead of time before she comes for the wedding (she lives in NY). But is it bad that I'm inviting the gf to the wedding? I've gotten to know her and really have no reason to dislike her. She is a nice person and makes my dad happy. In the past my dad has been a closed off person, and she has even helped us become closer by encouraging him to be more open with me.
I would feel so awful telling her and my dad that she shouldn't come to the wedding. But I would also feel so awful for my mom. My FH thinks we should invite the gf, because technically her and my dad are doing nothing wrong. Anybody else gone through this before? Thoughts??