My brother doesn't want to wear what I want him to -RANT-

ACU's

Dress greens

My brother will be wearing his dress blues. I think it is totally okay to insist, but do be aware that they have to buy their own unis. Does he already own the dress greens? Maybe you could offer to help pay if he doesn't.

I would say it's definitely ok to push it and frankly your brother is being unreasonable as the honor to walk you down the aisle should make him want to wear whatever you want him to!

YES! You push the issue, and you push it hard! The ACUs are everyday wear, like blue jeans and sneakers. Not appropriate attire for a formal event. He can wear his Dress Greens/Dress Blues or a suit/tux. Those are his options. You most definitely push this issue- and you push it hard.

Hah, thanks! He already owns dress greens so that wouldn't be an issue. I think if I push it enough he will give in, he's just being a sibling. I'm basically not even considering the option of a suit/tux, since he doesn't want to wear his dress greens, he won't wear that. Plus he is quite highly decorated& I want to show that off a bit.

Glad to see I'm not being selfish here!

I was in ROTC in high school, and we used to wear the actual Air force uni's...and I have to say this, the Dress unis are not at all comfortable, especially low quarters, and it's even worse if you're female because of the tie tab, maybe he just wants to be comfortable at your wedding? If I were him I'd want to wear my ACU's too, casual wear or not...they're still professional wear and they cost a fortune to buy...

I'd have to disagree with you Briana. It isn't like it'll be any more uncomfortable than wearing a regular suit. I don't think anyone is comfortable in formal wear.

My friend is a captain in the Air Force and when he walked his sister down the aisle, he wore his dress blues. When he got married, he wore a suit. I'm sure he would have been more comfortable in his flight suit but yeah, he knows when it is appropriate and when it isn't.

I think if you can get him to wear his dress blues it'd be great. Do you know why he doesn't want to?

I would be more comfortable wearing jeans and a t-shirt with sneakers at my wedding, but I'll be wearing a tux because that's what you do at a formal wedding. To the OP your brother should feel honored to be able to walk you down and should bend over backwards to do whatever you want to make you happy on your special day.

Damn, second double post today!

If there is an active military member reading this, is there a code-of-conduct thing that says (in so many words) that they need to dress for the occasion?

He didn't wear his dress greens for his wedding. But he had a shotgun wedding planned in a few days before he went over seas. So his thinking is that he shouldn't have to wear them to my wedding since he didn't wear them to his. But this is more of a formal event, not casual wear like his was. Which I personally think he was under dressed for his wedding.

I wonder if maybe he's just jealous of not having a 'real' wedding.

Ali- I hadn't thought of that! But that would explain it...hmmm. I'll ask him about that.

ACU are combat uniforms and should not even be worn off base. They can get in trouble for wearing them around town. Wearing it to the wedding is a major no-no with the military. He needs to wear his dress uniform or a suit/ tux. Hubby did not want to wear his dress whites for the wedding so he wore a linen suit. Many people in the military do not like to show how decorated they are. It can be very uncomfortable for them in social settings.

Briana ROTC rules are totally different. We are not in high school anymore. Please do not offer advice if you are not currently in the military or a military wife. You are totally wrong and can get people in serious trouble.

Dress uniform! Dress uniform!

That's very correct what Jessica is saying...ACU uniform is a working uniform and not consider something to be worn off base...According to the rules if a higher rank sees anyone in a ACU uniform out of base they can get in trouble...so technically your not forcing him...the military uniform rules are...

My hubby doesnt want to wear his blues either but at least he will wear a tux/suit...

Where are you getting the info that they can't wear their uniform off base? According to AR 670, soldiers can wear their uniform off post. There are certain retrictions, such as (1) In connection with the furtherance of any political or commercial interests, or when engaged in off-duty civilian employment.(2) When participating in public speeches, interviews, picket lines, marches, rallies, or public demonstrations, except as authorized by competent authority.(3) When attending any meeting or event that is a function of, or is sponsored by, an extremist organization.(4) When wearing the uniform would bring discredit upon the Army.

There are additional new guidelines suggesting the ACUs not be worn during travel, or off post internationally in certain areas.